As social beings, humans enjoy forging connections with the unique people who enter our lives.
In rare occasions, some connections are profound, inexplicable, and create a lasting impact on us.
If you feel like you were drawn towards certain individuals for some reason, then you may have developed a spiritual connection.
There are several names that can describe this person: soul mate, past life, kindred spirit.
When you meet someone you are spiritually aligned with, you develop an instant and deep connection with them that is not necessarily romantic.
And while the relationship you share may not last forever, you’re sure to learn something new by the end.
Here are 18 signs to help you determine if you have formed a deep spiritual connection with someone:
1. You have mutual respect for each other.
While respect is a hallmark of every good relationship, it is especially prominent in relationships marked by a spiritual connection.
Kindred spirits tend to listen to each other empathetically; when someone is speaking, the other is paying full attention to them.
Neither interrupts nor responds because each truly values what the other person feels and thinks.
Limits and boundaries are also much easier to determine when two people have a soul bond because they wholly understand what the other person needs.
No matter what, your kindred spirit can see where you’re coming from and won’t judge you for it.
Lastly, a kindred spirit would have immense appreciation for the differences you share – especially if they’re the kind of difference that keeps you compatible.
Perhaps you love to eat but can’t cook, while they’re experts in the kitchen.
As soulmates, your passions and interests are aligned even if they’re completely different.
Chances are high that you have found someone you share a spiritual connection with if you can effortlessly respect, support, and encourage them throughout the relationship.
2. You’ll do anything for each other.
When you have a deep spiritual connection, the man will step up to the plate for his woman without hesitation. He’ll provide for her and protect her against any threats, both small and big.
Equally, a woman will do the same for her man.
However, there’s actually a new theory in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment. And it claims that men in particular have a biological drive to step up for the woman in his life and be her hero.
It’s called the hero instinct.
A man wants to see himself as a hero. As someone his partner genuinely wants and needs to have around. Not as a mere accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’.
And the kicker?
It’s actually up to the woman to bring this instinct to the fore.
I know it sounds a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
And I couldn’t agree more.
But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to feel like a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like a protector.
The simple truth is that you won’t develop a deep spiritual connection with your man unless this instinct is triggered in him.
How do you go about it?
In an authentic way, you have to find ways to make him feel like your hero. Because there are words you can use, phrases you can say, and little requests you can make to trigger his hero instinct.
The best way to learn about these is to watch this free online video. James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who first discovered the hero instinct, gives a terrific introduction to his concept.
Some ideas really are life-changing. And for developing a deep spiritual connection, I think this is one of them.
3. You’re comfortable in their presence.
When you’re in an awkward social situation, many people can make you feel more anxious.
However, it’s the opposite with the person you share a spiritual connection with.
Despite everything that’s going on around you, you can feel at peace when this person is by your side.
Their presence is enough to calm down your anxiety, fears, or nervousness.
People who share a spiritual connection are comfortable to be themselves when they’re together.
They don’t need to put on an act or keep themselves in separate bubbles.
There is no need to be defensive about who you are or what you’re doing because they understand completely.
Kindred spirits also don’t mind being silent together.
In fact, it’s further proof of your connection because you don’t feel like you’re forced to fill in all those lulls or gaps in a conversation.
You’re both totally at ease with each other.
4. You’re instinctively drawn to them.
Picture entering a room, locking eyes with a stranger, and instantly feeling like you know each other already.
This may sound like a cliche from a movie but it can happen in real life.
That instinctive pull or strong attraction you have towards someone may indicate that you’ve found a spiritual match.
When you find someone you have a spiritual bond with, your gut tends to take the lead.
There are no clear reasons and no room for any doubts.
Your instincts just tell you to go for it. In cases like this, your intuition doesn’t ring any alarms.
You won’t be even afraid because you can clearly figure out how this person can fit into your life.
As the old saying goes, “when you know you know.”
5. You’re authentic with them.
Many people change the way they present themselves to the world, based on how they think they’ll be received in certain groups or institutions.
For example, the way you behave as a professional could be completely different from the life you live at home or with your friends.
Each of us tries to adapt how we act and look in certain situations.
A spiritual connection can be defined by its honesty.
Unlike how you are with other people, you cannot be inauthentic with a kindred spirit because you both seem to know each other inside out.
Aside from being comfortable in your own skin, both of you are completely open and honest with each other.
There is no room for secrets within a spiritual bond.
This means that when you have found your soul mate, you can also be honest with yourself.
The other person makes it easier for you to be unfiltered and genuine because you know they won’t judge.
They can also help you deal with the baggage that has held you back and embrace the next stages in your life.
6. You have no problem keeping up with the conversation.
You can meet lots of boring people in this world – those you share nothing in common with or those who are just poor at striking up a conversation.
While being a good conversationalist is a skill that everyone can learn, talking to your soulmate is a different experience altogether.
For one, your conversations are virtually unstoppable.
Your time together is best spent when you’re in a quiet and private space that you can just talk. It’s easy to let the words flow freely when you’re with them.
With a kindred spirit, any topic is interesting and engaging. There’s nothing too shallow for them to talk about with you.
Another thing about talking with someone you’re spiritually connected to is that your conversations allow you to explore your inner self.
There is a sense that you’re intellectual equals who can increase the other’s knowledge of themself and the world around them.
7. You support each other wholeheartedly.
When you unconditionally and wholeheartedly support a person as they grow, it’s possible that you have found a soul connection.
A simpler way to put this is that if life is a game, you’re cheering on your kindred spirit to win.
Both of you have a natural desire to see the other person succeed. No matter what trials you have to overcome, both of you make sure that the other doesn’t have to face them alone.
This is a reason why finding a spiritual connection with someone can be life-changing.
Instead of being afraid of the problems that come your way, you’re confident that someone has your back.
One way women can support the man she has a deep spiritual connection with is by triggering his hero instinct.
I mentioned this concept above. Watch the unique (and 100% free) hero instinct video here.
Science has shown that men have a built in desire for something “greater” that goes beyond love or sex. Simply put, men have a biological drive to feel needed, to feel important, and to provide for the woman he cares about.
Relationship psychologist James Bauer argues, male desires are not complicated, just misunderstood. Instincts are powerful drivers of human behavior and this is especially true for how men approach their relationships.
How do you trigger this instinct in him? How do you give him this sense of meaning and purpose?
In an authentic way, you simply have to show your man what you need and allow him to step up to fulfill it.
In his new video, James Bauer outlines several things you can do. He reveals phrases, texts and little requests that you can use right now to make him feel more essential to you.
By triggering this very natural male instinct, you’ll not only give him greater satisfaction as a man but it will also help to rocket your relationship to the next level.
8. Your morals and values are aligned.
While you can disagree on whether or not pineapple belongs on pizza, your soulmate will share the same set of morals, family values, and life goals with you.
Aligned morals and values allow you to view life and humanity through the same set of eyes.
Compared to you and your friends, you’re less likely to disagree on certain issues because your kindred spirit generally sees the world the way you do.
Contentions on values are especially important if you’re planning to spend the rest of your life with someone.
Without sharing the same vision or upholding similar values, it would be difficult to picture your collective future.
When you don’t have a spiritual connection with someone, you may be working against each other’s efforts.
This could affect how you’re planning to start a family, raise your children, or pursue individual career goals.
9. You can tell when something is wrong.
Maybe you have had a weird, coincidental experience when someone you know reached out to you unexpectedly – right at the moment you felt down and alone.
If so, that person could have been a kindred spirit.
When you start to feel like no one on earth cares about you or your problems, your kindred spirit might just pop up.
These people have a knack for showing up when they sense someone like them needs help.
Being connected to someone spiritually also allows you to sense when something bad happened.
From the moment they walk through the door, you can already tell if they have had a terrible day.
And if the day didn’t go so well, you instinctively know what they need – whether it’s a wordless hug, a warm dinner, or even some time to be alone.
10. You feel like you’ve known them for ages.
If you’ve met someone new and their presence strikes something profoundly familiar in you, then you may have encountered a kindred spirit or a soul mate.
It could feel like you’ve known them since birth – you have similar thoughts, ideas, and feelings. Or there’s something that tethers you to them that you can’t explain.
In some religious, cultural, and spiritual traditions, this could indicate a relationship in the previous life.
You may have met them before on a previous leg of your soul’s journey so it’s easy to reconnect with them.
More than common interests or hobbies, these people just get you from the first meeting.
Sometimes, this bond can manifest even after a separation.
Maybe you made friends with someone as a child and lost contact, only to meet them with them again as an adult – except nothing feels like it changed.
The attachment you share enables you to pick up where you left off over and over again.
You can’t stop thinking about them and you just love being around them.
11. You trust them without hesitation.
Our intuition (or gut instincts) is a unique feeling we get in our bodies that gives us an immediate understanding of something.
When we listen to our intuition, we don’t really need to think anything over or ask for another person’s opinion.
Our gut instincts help us avoid situations or people that may harm us.
When we listen to our intuition, it’s the ultimate act of self-trust.
The first time you meet someone you have a spiritual connection with, your gut instinct would tell you to trust them.
You won’t doubt their motives or their advice because somehow, you can tell they mean well and have good intentions towards you.
Of course, this shouldn’t be confused with being naive.
Once trust is established, it has to be nourished so it can continue flourishing.
In other words, your kindred spirit has to give you reasons to continue trusting them.
12. You can communicate in silence.
Communicating in silence is not a superpower but it might be a sign that you’re connected to someone spiritually.
Examples of these instances are when you can guess what someone is about to say, finish their sentences, or recognize their feelings even from across the room.
When you have a special bond with someone, you are incredibly aware of what they are thinking and feeling.
For people who share a deep spiritual connection, silence is an additional tool for communication.
They don’t need you to express what you’re feeling verbally; they simply know your moods and act accordingly.
Other people claim that just a simple look into the other’s eyes tells them what they need to know, regardless of the social situation or circumstance.
This extraordinary connection may also display itself in times of distress – you may be able to sense if something is not right with the other person, even when you’re miles apart.
The spiritual connection allows you to comfort each other without needing to perform an interrogation.
13. You become more aware about yourself.
Writer Tim Kreider penned the following words in an essay for the New York Times in 2013: “If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.”
Many of us definitely want to be loved but we don’t really want to be vulnerable with others, nor do we want to reflect on who we are.
When you find your soulmate or a kindred spirit, you can resolve these two problems.
You find someone who understands you completely and without judgment.
They can help you learn more about yourself: your flaws, your contradictions, and your good points.
In fact, individuals whom you share a soul connection with can even reflect your qualities back to you.
They can show you a lot of the things you were afraid to confront in yourself and help you grow.
14. You can move forward in your life.
There are some people you meet who will be content even if you’re doing nothing worthwhile with your life.
They may even encourage you to stick to the same routines and throw away your time.
And when things come to a bust, they are unlikely to stick around.
On the other hand, someone you share a spiritual connection with will care about you enough to shake you awake.
If you find yourself struggling to move forward from where you’ve grown stagnant, they will be there to propel you forward.
This may be because they understand where you’re coming from.
They could have experienced it themselves and already know the best way to help get you where you want to be.
15. You both view the relationship as a way for personal growth.
You can be absolutely sure of a spiritual connection with someone if encountering them changed your life in some dramatic way.
Interacting with a soul connection will allow you to sense that something about you will never be the same again.
There is a palpable shift in your inner landscape that translates to your outer circumstances.
This exchange of energy isn’t necessarily romantic. It can be social or professional as well – you might have met someone who guided you towards a certain career path or gave you important advice in your life.
They could have even shown you what your purpose is or awaken long-forgotten dreams inside you.
Most importantly, this person will never be afraid of telling you the truth if it teaches you a lesson you must learn.
They are fearless in explaining harsh realities to you because they want you to become your best, unlike those who would rather spare themselves from an awkward conversation with you.
16. You maintain your separate, individual lives without issues.
Contrary to popular belief, you won’t be spending your life attached to the hip with your soulmate.
Although you enjoy spending time together, a true spiritual connection will not monopolize you for themself.
Maintaining separate but cohesive lives together includes:
- Emphasis on self-work: With a kindred spirit, you are both open to talking about how to promote self-improvement. Whether it regards your health, career, or personal hopes for the future, your time together is a supportive partnership that allows you to remain uniquely independent beings.
- Recognition of boundaries: One common reason relationships fail is because both people allow personal issues to bleed into the relationship itself. For example, someone has had a bad day and the other is left to think that the relationship is going sour – even when it’s just a poor mood. Soul connections value the relationship too much to fall into those pitfalls and can address specific issues about the relationship on its own.
- Established roles to fulfill: A partnership with a kindred spirit allows you to recognize who is better at handling certain aspects of your lives together and trusting each other to fulfill those duties. There are natural, established roles that you perform with respect, as equals.
17. You’re sure you won’t forget them.
According to statistics, we meet an average of 10,000 – 80,000 people over the course of our lives.
This number changes drastically for many of us based on things like where we live, what we do, and how we interact with people.
Out of all the people you meet, you’re sure you’ll remember those you share a spiritual connection with.
Even though our memories can fade over time, the imprints they leave on our souls are not as easily erased nor forgotten.
They could be a mentor who deeply believed in you, a friend you shared difficult experiences with, or the person who was your first love.
Regardless of who they are or when you met them, these are the people you may recall with affection, gratitude, or respect.
If you’re with them presently, they’re the ones you appreciate a lot while they’re around.
18. Your lives are better together than apart.
When you meet someone you are spiritually connected to, the bond your share is strong.
You’re connected on an energetic level and being together allows you both to get where you need to be.
During the time you spend apart, you tend to think about them and wonder how they are doing.
Regardless of what you do, it feels like it’s difficult to sever the ties that link you.
It’s even likely that you share a form of telepathic connection, even from a distance. When you think of them, they’re probably thinking of you as well.
Together, you experience the flow of their energy in your life: the food tastes better, you laugh louder, you are more productive, and you feel happier overall.
When you align with a kindred spirit, you feel as though you live a little better.
You might even worry that things are a little too bright and easy, probably because it is easy.
Finding A Spiritual Connection
We may not always recognize it, but many relationships (such as soulmates) we form do have a degree of spiritual connection.
The depth of these connections can vary, depending on how each person knows themselves and how much the other person feels.
Maybe you think you share a spiritual connection with one person but all they feel is physical attraction.
The connection is there but it might not be visible at first glance.
It also takes a lot of time to develop spiritual connections so that they become stronger. You have to build the foundation on mutual trust and respect.
It requires a lot of hard work to grow a spiritual relationship into maturity.
As long as you are compassionate, honest with yourself, and are open to knowledge and growth, you can attract like-minded people you can create well-balanced relationships with.