10 amazing things that happen when you start being true to yourself

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Let’s face it, life can be tough. We’re bombarded with societal expectations, and it’s easy to get lost in the pursuit of what we think we’re supposed to be.

But the truth is, when we stop trying to be someone else and start embracing who we truly are, we open up a world of endless possibilities.

In this article, we’re going to dive into 10 amazing things that happen when we make the choice to be true to ourselves and live authentically.

So if you’re ready to cast aside the masks and live a life filled with meaning and purpose, check out these 10 beautiful things that can happen when you start being true to yourself:

1) The Quality Of Your Relationships Would Improve

When you’re true to yourself, you have a deep knowledge of who you are and what you want out of life.

You tend to stay away from abusive relationships and attract healthy ones. You eventually learn how to set boundaries properly to prioritize your needs first.

If you feel like you don’t have many close relationships or that your current relationships are unfulfilling, embracing your authentic self can help you build more meaningful and rewarding connections with others.

After all:

By being true to who you are, you attract individuals who share similar values, interests, and goals, creating a foundation for deep and lasting relationships.

Personally, I used to have superficial and transactional relationships with other people.

And when it became too intimate, my vulnerabilities became my weakest link and people used it to their advantage.

I never really fully understood what it meant to have good relationships until I understood what I needed in the first place.

There may be something hindering you from going all out and revealing your true self to the world, and those things tend to drive people away from you as well.

I believe that it’s up to you to know how you want yourself to be treated.

In her book Treasure Yourself: Power Thoughts for My Generation, Miranda Kerr explains the importance of treating yourself well in order for others to treat you well:

“The truth is; if you treat yourself, everyone else around you will recognize your worth…the people in your life will only treat you as well as you treat yourself…My advice when it comes to dating is to be true to yourself and know what you want..be in control of the things you are thinking about and you’ll realize that your thoughts are creating your reality and the way you feel.”

The bottom line is this: 

As you treat yourself better, others also treat you better, and it leads to a positive and fulfilling life, both personally and in your relationships.

When you have a strong sense of self-respect and self-worth, it radiates and attracts those who will treat you with the same level of kindness and respect.

2) You’ll Attract The Right People

As mentioned, people who are true to themselves tend to attract the right people in terms of friends and partners.

These people aren’t simply there for the good times, but they are also there to support and encourage each other through the challenges of life.

We all went through that phase when we tried to be someone we’re not, and we only ended up being surrounded by people who, like us, are also faking their way to whatever imaginary hierarchy exists in their social group.

But when we’re true to ourselves, we’ll know what we want and we won’t compromise our values or beliefs to fit in.

We’ll attract genuine and authentic individuals who appreciate and respect us for who we truly are.

In doing this, we don’t have to chase people in order to be happy and live a meaningful life.

All we have to do is be ourselves and the people who are as authentic as us will be naturally attracted to us.

Indeed, birds of the same feather will always flock together.

3) You’ll Become More Confident

When you are true to yourself, you have a clear understanding of who you are, what you stand for, and what you want from life.

This self-awareness eliminates the need to conform to societal norms, compare yourself to others, or seek validation from others. 

When I stopped looking in the mirror and wondering why other girls were born with lighter and clearer skin, that’s when I discovered my other capabilities that other people didn’t have.

I used to be an awkward girl who walked the halls with my head down and eyes wandering around physically attractive people, but that all changed when I accepted myself for who I am. 

With my feet firmly planted on the ground and an accepting attitude toward my own imperfections, I use my weaknesses as opportunities for growth and improvement.

This strong sense of self allows me to stand tall and withstand any negativity thrown my way.

After all:

Confidence is not ‘they will like me’, confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’, and when I’ve already accepted my limitations, I don’t need outside validation to boost my self-esteem. 

4) Passion Will Reveal Itself In Your Life

Having a deeper knowledge of yourself leads to an exploration of your deepest passions.

By recognizing the things that bring meaning and fulfillment to your life, you can cultivate and nurture these interests.

For me, my passions emerged as I delved into my deepest frustrations and faced my fears head-on.

By confronting and embracing the challenges and imperfections within myself, I was able to transform them into a powerful drive for the causes I care about in life.

Passion is important in life because without passion, goals are empty and you don’t push yourself to achieve them.

Passion is the fuel that ignites the fire within you to pursue your dreams, and it’s what drives you to keep going, even when the road ahead is long and challenging.

With passion, you’ll find the determination and resilience to overcome obstacles and reach your goals.

Knowing yourself is the foundation of unlocking your passion, as it gives you the clarity and confidence to pursue the things that truly matter to you and align with your unique purpose in life

5) More People Trust You

When you’re true to yourself, you can also be honest and humble enough to accept your flaws and mistakes.

Along the way, you have the courage to work on them. This boosts other people’s trust in letting you handle decisions, tasks, and responsibilities.


Being honest with yourself is like shining a light on who you truly are, and it helps others see the real you.

When you are honest and genuine, people can trust that you are the same person in all situations, and this builds a foundation of trust and respect in your relationships

And by being true to yourself, you invite others to be true to themselves, creating an environment of honesty, vulnerability, and mutual understanding that is essential for building meaningful connections.

6) You’ll Have a More Optimistic Attitude

When you are true to yourself, you adopt an optimistic outlook on life.

You understand that there is no such thing as a wrong decision, just different paths that lead to new experiences and opportunities.

Every challenge is an opportunity to grow and every setback is a chance to learn.

This empowering perspective allows you to keep moving forward, no matter what life throws at you, and to always find the silver lining in any situation

7) Opportunities Will Follow You

People often miss opportunities because they don’t realize their worth or the value they bring.

They may blame a lack of choices, but it’s often because they’re making poor choices or trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t suit them.

However, when you have a deep understanding of yourself and your abilities, you can nurture your strengths and opportunities will come to you naturally.

Opportunities naturally find those who are authentic because they radiate genuine confidence and self-assuredness that attracts positivity and attracts those who see their potential and want to be a part of their journey.

You won’t have to chase them or struggle to find them. By being true to yourself, you can attract the right opportunities and make the most of them.

8) You Won’t People Please

Being authentic frees you from the need to constantly seek validation from others, allowing you to focus on your own values and priorities, rather than trying to appease everyone.

You don’t trim yourself to fit the world or do what others think is the best course of action.

You are helpful and present for folks who need a hand, but you’re totally uninterested in being a doormat or a third wheel to other people’s lives.

You’ve seized your own inner power and confidence and everyone around you can tell. While you’re as polite as you can be, you don’t mince words if people try to manipulate you or step on you.

You just ain’t got time for that.

If people love you, great. If they hate you, their loss.

If you commit to something you do your best to do it. If you need to cancel an appointment or date you do it.

As Amy Morin writes:

“Whether you say yes and then actually follow through, or you later fake an illness to get out your commitments, you’ll never reach your goals if you can’t speak up for yourself.”

9) You Feel a Sense of Belonging and Acceptance

Inner peace can be hard to find.

But once you discover a sense of belonging and acceptance of yourself, the outer world tends to follow suit.

You notice those around you who you can feel comfortable and challenged by. You’re drawn to people who you can work together with and collaborate with.

One of the top signs you’re leading a life that is true to yourself is that you’re happier with other people.

The annoying ones don’t bother you quite as much, and people you used to find boring now seem not so bad, or even unique in certain ways.

You begin to prioritize relationships: romantic, friendship, and professional.

As blogger Sinem Günel puts it:

“Once a baseline of income is met, our happiness varies more based on the quality of our relationships than our income.

“That’s partly due to a phenomenon called belongingness hypothesis, which states that we have a fundamental need to feel connected to other humans.

“From an evolutionary perspective, belonging to a group of people was not a nice-to-have but essential for survival.”

10) You Don’t Care What Other People Think

When you’re true to yourself, you are secure in who you are and your foundational values. You certainly care what others think, feel and say.

But you don’t let it determine your underlying position or sway you on something you’re sure about.

You’re guided by a mission, core values, and trust in your own perceptions and ideas. The observations and opinions of others are interesting, sure, but they’re not in the driver’s seat.

You know you’re leading a life that is true to yourself when your self-worth is rock-solid and built on your own self-assessment, not the judgments of others.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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