12 ways to strengthen the spiritual connection with yourself

Embracing your personal spirituality isn’t just something you decide to do.

It’s not a switch you can flip one day when you finally think, “I want to get in touch with my spiritual self”.

Understanding, reaching, and finally embracing your spirituality is a journey that never truly ends; you only get infinitely closer to what it means to be spiritual.

But where do you even start, and how do you begin building that elusive and abstract spiritual connection with the self?

Here are 13 ways you can begin strengthening your spiritual core and building that connection to your deeper self:

1) Ask Yourself The Important Questions, Again and Again

When was the last time you asked yourself the kind of question that doesn’t really have an answer?

We can go months if not years without addressing these questions, especially as adults, because we don’t like looking into the face of the unknown; we don’t like questioning our paths, even if those paths aren’t taking us to our best selves.

Reestablish your connection with your spiritual self by confronting those questions head-on. Questions like:

• Who am I?
• Why am I here?
• What is valuable to my soul?
• What makes me fulfilled?
• What is meaningful in my life?

Never stop asking yourself these questions, because opening up your spirituality isn’t something you will ever be done with; it’s a lifelong journey that needs constant refinement.

2) Practice the “Five Senses” Technique To Live In the Moment

Being in touch with your spirituality means being in touch with your body; it means living in the moment, not living on autopilot.

Our brains are surprisingly effective when it comes to drowning out everything that we’re sensing, and many of us live lives without truly being present at all because we’ve drowned out so much around us.

So train yourself to be aware of your body again, and a great way to do this is with the Five Senses technique.

Simply step back from your current thoughts and tune into your senses. In your mind, list down:

• 5 things you see
• 4 things you feel
• 3 things you hear
• 2 things you smell
• 1 thing you taste

Do this a few times a week and you will soon be several times more connected with your body than you are now.

3) Recap at the End of Every Day

Connecting with your spirituality means learning to truly be present again, after a lifetime of tuning things out and spending weeks at a time on autopilot.

But this isn’t something we can turn on and off like a switch; it’s something we need to relearn and retrain inside ourselves.

One way to do that is by noticing your thoughts, your behaviors, and your actions every day.

So at the end of every day, give yourself a full recap of what you did, how you spent your hours, your minutes, and everything you felt, and why you felt those things.

Connect with yourself intimately; question yourself and interrogate the way you spent your time.

Soon you will be more careful with your precious minutes, and you will be living more each day than you do now.

4) Let Go Of Your Ego; Embrace Your Flaws

We have the spiritual self and the egoistic self; the spirit versus the ego. The spirit links us to the rest of the universe, while the ego traps us within ourselves.

The ego has no care for a spiritual bond; it only wants to feed itself, inflate itself, and make everything about the ego.

Becoming spiritual means letting go of the ego.

Step off the path and break out of the cycle in which you feed the ego, prioritize the ego, and defend your ego.

And this means allowing yourself to acknowledge and recognize your personal flaws, something the ego hates doing.

Don’t be afraid to look at your real reflection, imperfections and everything, and learn to accept if not love every part of who you are.

5) Ignore the Mind Games

Mind games are an unavoidable part of everyday life.

People love being subtle, and unless you live like a complete hermit, these mind games are things you will always have to deal with.

Maybe you have colleagues who are talking behind your back, or maybe there are people at work who are trying to intimidate you.

Ignore it. Don’t let yourself get caught up in the artificial social drama of those around you. These are things that bother your ego, but they don’t affect your true, spiritual self.

Being one with your spiritual self means forgetting the meaningless concerns that other people try to inflict on you. Be you and live for you, not for them.

6) Begin Every Day With Intention

Don’t let another day pass you by without truly living in it. As you wake up every morning, ask yourself: What do I want to accomplish today? What are my intentions today?

Living aimlessly might feel like the right step towards being a more spiritual person, but without a goal or direction in mind, your thoughts will always feel fleeting rather than pointed.

And without direction, you lack the proper foundation to build a true connection with your spirituality.

So understand your intentions. Figure out what you want to do every day.

Your goals don’t have to be life-changing or huge. They can be as simple as getting out of bed at 7 am, finishing another chapter in a book, or learning a new recipe.

As long as you give yourself a direction to push yourself towards, you can begin setting and following your intentions.

7) Discover Your True Spiritual Journey

To really deepen the connection you have with yourself, you need to discover your true spiritual journey.

Fair warning: Your true spiritual journey is different than everyone else’s!

The thing with spirituality is that it’s just like everything else in life:

It can be manipulated.

Unfortunately, not all the gurus and experts that preach spirituality do so with our best interests at heart.

Some take advantage to twist spirituality into something toxic, poisonous even.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandé. With over 30 years of experience in the field, he’s seen and experienced it all.

From exhausting positivity to downright harmful spiritual practices, this free video he created tackles a range of toxic spirituality habits.

So what makes Rudá different from the rest? How do you know he’s not also one of the manipulators he warns against?

The answer is simple:

He promotes spiritual empowerment from within.

Click here to watch the free video and bust the spiritual myths you’ve bought for the truth.

Rather than tell you how you should practice spirituality, Rudá puts the focus solely onto you. Essentially, he puts you back in the driver’s seat of your spiritual journey.

Here’s a link to the free video once again.

8) Accept the World For What It Is

The Serenity Prayer goes:

“Lord,
Grant me the strength to accept things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.”

These four lines perhaps best describe what it means to accept the world without letting it roll over you, which is what a spiritual person understands most.

It does not mean you must live passively, accepting that the world cannot be changed.

It means you must know when to act and when not to act, by understanding the difference between what you can and cannot change.

Don’t let the world push you around, but don’t concern yourself with issues that you have no power to change.

Find that sweet balance between these two, and you will succeed spiritually in everything you do.

9) Feed Your Mind

Read, read, read. A spiritual person is a voracious reader because there are few hobbies (other than meditation) more important to help you connect with your spirituality than reading.

The power of a good book filled with knowledge that transports you to another world with nothing but your imagination is unmatched.

Unlike watching movies or playing games, reading is an active effort that demands your attention while you breathe it in, making it so much more beneficial for the mind.

Feed your curiosity and learn everything you want to learn from books.

You don’t need a class or a school; everything is available to you. You just have to want it.

10) Meditate At Least Once A Day

Meditation is the key to spirituality, but even just 15 minutes a day can be too much of a commitment for the vast majority of people.

Understanding and connecting with our spirit means letting go of the body, and while we can’t project ourselves from our body consciously, we can treat ourselves as if the body doesn’t exist, through stillness, chanting, and meditation for just a few minutes a day.

Every day, set aside 15 minutes to sit comfortably in a quiet spot, with no distractions or disturbances, and meditate.

Breathe in and out, forget your concerns, and rest without falling asleep. Listen to the sound your heart makes.

11) Incorporate Playfulness in the Way You Live

Stop taking yourself so seriously. Nothing in our physical world will last, so why act like it’s the end of the world if something goes wrong?

A spiritual person is someone who can let go of their emotional reactions and experience even the most stressful and intense situations with a level of playfulness that would confound those around them.

Live with a light heart and an easy smile.

Remember that your time in this world is brief, but a moment in the grand scheme of things, and if you zoom out from all your troubles and problems in the current moment, none of them really mean anything at all.

You are experiencing the human experience — make the best of it and laugh.

12) Look For the Signs

And finally, your spiritual side will give you access to the messages from the universe. So begin looking out for those messages.

As you better connect with your spiritual self over the next few weeks and months, you will get closer to tuning into the frequency of the universe, understanding the language it speaks.

You will see and hear things other people don’t, because they’re too far from their spiritual selves.

Don’t ignore those signs.

If you feel, hear, or see something that sparks or twitches something inside of you, don’t let it pass without breathing it in. Hear what the universe wants to say to you; let your spirit do the listening.