There’s no question that life is tough. Everybody experiences tribulations that are hard to overcome.
In fact, even Buddha said that “Pain is certain, suffering is optional.”
However, no matter what we’re going through, it doesn’t mean that we can’t take responsibility for our life and get our act together.
There are a few principles and habits that we must adopt to make the most of our lives and live with nobility.
Whether it’s starting a family, moving up in your career or simply being a kinder and better person, these 15 ways will seriously help you get your act together.
1) Hang out with people who add to your life
Stop spending time with people who bring you down. It doesn’t add anything to your life.
You’ll live a much more successful and fulfilling life if you choose to hang out with people who are positive and uplifting.
So, how do you work out who you should actually spend time with?
It’s quite simple. Ask yourself these 2 questions:
Do they make you feel better after you spend time with them?
Do you feel more optimistic and positive about life?
If you can answer yes to those questions, then make a conscious effort to spend more time with them. The positivity will rub off on you.
If you keep hanging out with toxic people who put you down and want to get something out of you, you’re not going to benefit at all. In fact, you’ll lose out and won’t realize your potential.
2) Get a pet and take care of it
You probably didn’t expect this one but there’s several reasons you should get a cat, dog, rabbit or whatever animal you want.
The most important reason is that it’ll teach you responsibility. After all, you have to look after another living animal and make sure it survives, thrives and lives a happy life.
Not only will it teach you to be more responsible, it’ll also show you there’s more to life than what’s going on inside your head. Your actions actually do have an impact on others.
And besides, owning a pet is actually healthy for you as well. According to research, having a dog around can lead to lower levels of stress for both adults and kids.
3) Stop chasing happiness with outside attachments
This is a tough one to realize and I don’t blame anyone for thinking that happiness exists outside themselves.
After all, aren’t we more happy when we make more money or buy that shiny new iPhone?
While these experiences give us a temporary boost in happiness, it won’t last long.
And once that temporary joy is gone, we’ll be back in a cycle of wanting that high again so we can be happy.
While it’s fine to bask in temporary joy when it comes around, we shouldn’t rely on it for lasting happiness.
An extreme example highlighting the problems with this is a drug addict. They’re happy when they’re taking drugs, but miserable and angry when they’re not. It’s a cycle that no one wants to be lost in.
True happiness can only come from within.
Happiness is our inner feeling, along with how we interpret the events of life, which leads us to the next point…
4) Be more grateful
Everyone can get lost in a cycle of negativity. After all, we all experience obstacles and setbacks.
But a major difference between happy and unhappy people is the ability to appreciate what they have.
There’s always something to be appreciative for: If you’re breathing then you have your breathe.
In fact, research has found that a five-minute gratitude journal can increase your long-term well-being by more than 10 percent.
There’s even reason to believe gratitude can extend your lifespan by a few months or even years.
So if you want to get your act together, start appreciating what you have rather than desiring things what you don’t. You’ll be a happier and better person for it.
5) Be yourself
Having a concrete sense of self is an important part of your existence. Without it, you’ll find that goals are harder to define and your needs harder to understand.
What personality traits make you you?
What are you passionate about?
What are your values?
Answering these questions will give you a more stable sense of self and what you aspire to be.
Furthermore, understanding what your strengths are gives you confidence and empowerment to reach your potential.
6) Start saving your money
No matter what stage of life you’re in, it’s always a good idea to focus on building your savings.
In the future, you want to have financial independence and savings to depend on.
Calling your own shots, financially speaking, gives you the freedom to make choices in your life separate from your weekly paycheck.
Having this sort of freedom means you can change careers when you want to, go on vacation when you feel like it and help family members who are short of money.
It also means that if you have a family, or you’re planning on having a family, you can take care of them and help them achieve whatever they want to achieve.
This doesn’t mean you have to become rich. Achieving financial independence is possible by putting a little bit of money away each month and letting it accumulate.
7) What gets your juices flowing?
We’re all unique and we all have special talents.
You have a better chance of becoming successful and making a difference in the world if you do what you’re passionate about.
Doing what you love is a core ingredient to getting the most of yourself. It will help you grow and become all that you can be.
8) Accept yourself and all your emotions
According to research, one of the main causes of many psychological problems is the habit of emotional avoidance.
However, there’s no denying that we all do it. After all, nobody wants to experience negative emotions.
And in the short-term, it may be beneficial, but over the long-term it becomes a bigger problem than what was being avoided in the first place.
The problem with avoidance is that every single one of us is going to experience negative emotions. We’re all going to experience suffering.
These emotions are just a part of being a living human being.
By accepting your emotional life, you are affirming your full humanity.
By accepting who you are and what you’re experiencing, you don’t have to waste energy avoiding anything.
You can accept the emotion and then move on with your actions.
Negative emotions won’t kill you – they’re annoying but not dangerous – and accepting them is much less of a drag than the ongoing attempt to avoid them.
9) Do what you’ll say you’ll do
Doing what you say you will do is a matter of integrity. How do you feel when someone says they’ll do something, and then they don’t? In my eyes, they lose credibility.
Every time you do what you say you will do, you build credibility. Part of getting your act together involves being trustworthy and living your life with integrity.
10) Experience all that life has to offer
Don’t be afraid of new experiences. The more experiences you have, the more mature and wise you’ll become.
We only get life once – so bask in life in all possible ways – the good, the bad, the bitter-sweet, the love, the heartbreak – everything!
We only get one shot at it – so we may as well make the most of it.
11) Look after your body
In the same vien, we only have one body in this lifetime. It’s our duty to take care of it.
And in the end, there’s a huge relationship between the body and mind and the physical and spiritual.
By listening to your body’s needs, we can become more aware of our emotions and our desires. That’s why we should take good care of our bodies.
Make sure the body is getting enough vitamins, minerals and is operating in its best shape possible.
Having a healthy body and mind will undoubtedly help you get your act together.
12) Live in the present
It can easy to get lost in the pain of the past or the anxieties of the future.
But try to not let it distract you.
In the end, the present moment is the only thing that exists and we’d all live a much more productive and happy life if we can focus on it.
13) Stop complaining
Nobody likes a complainer and it only makes life more stressful.
According to research, complaining affects our brains and our physical health. A sense of melancholy is increased, along with dissatisfaction.
So every time you complain, it’s time to give yourself a pinch and stop it.
Over time, you’ll rewire your brain to stop complaining and adopting a more positive and optimistic attitude. You’ll also be more well-liked and tolerable.
14) Spend time on your relationships
Human beings are social beings. Getting your relationships in order are a crucial part of getting your act together.
According to a 75-year Harvard study, relationships are the most crucial factor to a successful and happy life.
Like anything, it takes time to get them right. Make sure you’re investing enough time in your family and friends and you’ll live a much more fulfilling life.
15) Focus on doing the work
We all have goals and ambitions, but without action, they won’t be achieved.
So if you want to take responsibility for your life and get your act together, then start taking action today.
Even it’s small steps, as long as you keep on improving with your actions you’ll eventually get to where you want to go.
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