If you’ve ever spent some time with a negative person, you know how quickly you can start to take on that negative mentality. Have you ever felt that you wish you had known how to protect yourself from negative energy?
Sometimes, it happens that people don’t even realize they have become negative as a result of being around negative people. And negative people are the worst.
If you are feeling overwhelmed from taking on the negative energy of others, there is a way to stop it from happening.
Here is how to protect yourself from absorbing other people’s negative energy so you can get on with living a more positive and productive life.
1) Identify Whose Emotion is Present
When negative emotion takes over, it’s important to identify the source. Is it your own negative emotion or did you pick it up from someone else?
If it is yours, then you can deal with it and work through those emotions, but if it is someone else’s, you need to recognize that it’s not your burden to carry and let it go.
2) Put Some Distance Between You and the Negativity
Go outside, take a walk, eat lunch in your car: whatever you have to do to give yourself some space away from the negativity and the negative people, do it.
Sometimes, all you need is a few minutes to regroup your thoughts and remind yourself that their negativity is not your negativity.
3) Know Your Limits
When it comes to dealing with negativity and negative energy, it’s important to know what triggers that feeling in you.
When you can identify a feeling associated with negativity, you can identify it sooner and deal with it faster.
If that negativity is associated with a person, you can see it coming from a mile away and start walking in the other direction.
4) Just Breathe
If you feel like you are becoming overwhelmed by negative emotion, energy or someone else’s negative emotion or energy, then take a few minutes to regulate your breathing and reset your thoughts.
If negative emotion and energy are flowing over you, take a few minutes to sit quietly in your own head and meditate.
Block the negative thoughts and make room for the positive emotions and energy in your life.
6) Get Clear with People
When it comes to managing negative energy and negative people, sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say “no.”
The word no has a lot of power that we often take for granted. It can stop someone in their tracks when it is used correctly.
If someone is trying to steal your sunshine, setting limits and boundaries with that person can go a long way to changing the tune of their song when they are around you.
You are allowed to tell them to stop.
7) Visualize Yourself Immune to the Negativity
Visualization has become a well known and powerful tool that people can use to improve their lives in many ways, including physically blocking out negative energy.
If you take a minute to imagine yourself impenetrable to negative energy, your body will be able to block it out of your life.
This can take some time to practice, but it is worth it to save yourself the trouble of dealing with outside negativity, and it’s really neat how it works over time to protect you.
8) Put it Out of Your Body
When negative energy does make its way into your life, you can put it right back out of your life by using visualization to push it from your physical self.
Imagine seeing the negative energy leave your body and visualize filling the space with positive energy.
9) Wash it Off
If you feel physically and mentally drained from a negative encounter or have been carrying around negative energy all day, take a shower or a bath.
They will help you feel like you are physically washing away the negative energy, not to mention a hot shower or bath will help you feel refreshed and relaxed.
If you take a bath just before bed, your muscles will be warm and relaxed, and you’ll have a restful night’s sleep instead of tossing and turning worrying over the negative energy in your body.
The most effective way to deal with negative energy and to stop other people’s negative energy from making its way into your body is to be aware of it and understand how it affects you.
When you recognize those feelings, you can change your environment, take a bath, or start working on some breathing exercises to regroup and refocus your thoughts.
Keeping yourself protected from negative energy is important because it can drain you and make you much less productive than you could be in life. Stay away from it altogether if you can manage it. Negative energy is no good for anyone.
10) Get Clear on What You are Willing to Embrace in Your Life
Once you decide that you’re not putting a negative person out of your life for good, you need to learn to manage them and their negativity in your life.
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This means that you need to get clear on what you are willing to put up with and what you aren’t going to tolerate.
You don’t even have to tell people what these boundaries are, but you need to know them and abide by them yourself.
You might decide that you will not talk about certain topics, such as money, around negative people because it always leaves you feeling guilty about how much money you make or have.
11) Don’t React to Other People’s Negativity, Respond in a way That Serves You
Rather than try to correct someone who is being negative, remind yourself that you get to decide how to respond to that person and you don’t need to feed into their negativity.
A lot of times, simply disarming them with a positive response is enough to get them to sit up and pay attention to their own negativity, but it’s not your job to try to change them.
Focus on how you want to show up for the conversation and stick to that.
12) Trying Talking About Something Else That Doesn’t Weigh Everyone Down
If you find that the conversation is turning into a negativity-fest, then try changing the subject and talking about something that everyone can enjoy.
Bring up your favorite song or activity or even better, ask the negative person to tell you about something they enjoy.
It’ll help shift their focus away from whatever it is that they are complaining about and will help you be able to better manage the experience.
13) Take on a Solutions-Based Approach
It’s a generally agreed-upon notion that negative people tend to have a problem for every solution.
So if you find yourself in the presence of someone who just keeps putting up roadblocks, then you might have to hit them hard with tons of solutions for their problems.
Although it’s not always enough to get them to change their mind, it will at least allow you to walk away from the encounter feeling like you don’t hate everything and everyone.
14) Remember That Other People’s Opinions of You Aren’t Important
Someone who is quite negative all the time is going to have a thing or two to say about you and your life.
You’ll need to get a thick skin if you are going to continue to have this negative person in your life and let the comments roll off your back.
Remember that the things this person says are not about you at all, but that they are finding things in you that they don’t like about themselves so they are projecting that onto you. It’s not you, it’s them.
15) Stop Trying to Change How Negative Other People Are in Life
One of the most frustrating things about negative people is that they complain about everything and while it is plain as day to you that all they need to do is change a few things about their life and they wouldn’t be so negative all the time, the negative person can’t see the benefit of that approach.
So, it’s vitally important that you keep in mind that it is not your responsibility to fix this person. They have to decide they want to be different.
16) Be the Best Version of Yourself You Can Be
Remember that you can’t change someone’s negative perspective. You can only be a better version of yourself than you were yesterday; perhaps, that might inspire the negative people in your life to get a grip and stop acting like a big baby.
But if not, you can only worry about yourself, so put your focus there instead of worrying about how you can help the negative people in the world.
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