9 ways to find happiness even when you feel completely alone

Feeling alone can often feel like an insurmountable challenge. But let me, Lachlan Brown, founder of Hack Spirit and a passionate mindfulness enthusiast, share with you a little secret: solitude can become a path to happiness.

Navigating through loneliness isn’t about ignoring your feelings, but about finding the joy that exists within them. It’s about choosing to embrace your solitude and turning it into a positive force in your life.

In this article, we’ll explore 9 powerful ways to find happiness even when you’re feeling completely alone. 

Let’s get started. 

1. Embrace solitude

We often see being alone as a negative state to be avoided, but let’s flip that perspective.

Solitude can be a powerful tool for introspection and personal growth. When you’re alone, you have the freedom to explore your thoughts, to understand your feelings, and to simply be with yourself.

This isn’t about ignoring the loneliness or trying to wish it away. It’s about embracing it, accepting it, and finding ways to create joy within it.

One of the most effective ways to do this is by practicing mindfulness. By focusing on the present moment and accepting it without judgement, you can find peace in solitude and turn it into a positive experience.

Remember this quote from renowned psychologist Carl Jung: “Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself.”

Take this time alone to communicate those important things to yourself.

2. Discover new hobbies

Speaking from personal experience, I’ve found that one of the greatest gifts of solitude is the opportunity to explore new interests and hobbies.

I remember a time when I was feeling particularly alone. I was living in a new city, away from my friends and family. To fill my time and combat the loneliness, I decided to pick up a hobby that I had always been interested in but never had the time to pursue – photography.

Venturing into the city with my camera gave me a sense of purpose, and I found joy in capturing the beauty around me. Not only did it occupy my time, but it also provided an outlet for my creativity and a way to connect with my new environment.

As psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi famously said, “Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment.” Discovering new hobbies can definitely lead us into this state of flow.

3. Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help you deal with loneliness and find happiness in solitude. It’s all about staying present, paying attention to your thoughts and feelings without judgment, and accepting things as they are.

In my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego, I delve deeper into the concept of mindfulness. It’s not just about being aware of your surroundings, but also about understanding and accepting your inner self.

When you’re alone, you can use mindfulness to observe your feelings of loneliness without getting caught up in them. This can help you understand that it’s okay to feel lonely sometimes, and that these feelings don’t define you.

As Sylvia Boorstein said, “Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of the present experience. It isn’t more complicated than that. It is opening to or receiving the present moment, pleasant or unpleasant, just as it is, without either clinging to it or rejecting it.”

This acceptance can bring a sense of peace and happiness even when you’re alone.

4. Develop a self-care routine

Self-care is a fundamental aspect of finding happiness, especially when you’re feeling alone. It’s about taking the time to look after your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

From a psychological perspective, engaging in self-care activities can help reduce stress and anxiety, improve mood, and boost your self-esteem. This can be particularly beneficial when you’re dealing with feelings of loneliness.

So, what might a self-care routine look like? It could involve regular exercise, maintaining a healthy diet, practicing good sleep hygiene, or even just taking some time each day to relax and do something you enjoy.

5. Embrace being alone in public

This may sound counter-intuitive, but sometimes, the best way to combat feelings of loneliness is to put yourself in social situations, even if you’re alone.

Going to a public place like a park, a café, or a museum can expose you to social interactions and human connections, even if they’re just casual or brief. You don’t have to engage in deep conversations with strangers. Just being in the presence of others can help reduce feelings of isolation.

This idea is supported by psychological research that suggests even minimal social interactions can improve our mood and sense of belonging.

6. Cultivate gratitude

Practicing gratitude is a powerful way to find happiness when you’re feeling alone. It’s about focusing on the positive aspects of your life and appreciating what you have, rather than dwelling on what you’re missing.

Keeping a gratitude journal, where you record things you’re thankful for each day, can be an effective way to cultivate this mindset. This simple practice can shift your focus from feelings of loneliness to feelings of contentment and joy.

Psychological studies have shown that gratitude can increase happiness, reduce depression, and boost our overall well-being.

7. Connect with nature

There’s something incredibly soothing about being in nature. Whether it’s a walk in the park, a hike in the mountains, or just sitting by the beach, connecting with nature can have a profound effect on our sense of well-being.

Even in the midst of city life, there was a time when a simple routine of morning walks in a nearby park brought a sense of peace and happiness. Watching the sun rise, listening to the birds chirp, and feeling the cool morning air – these were moments of solace and joy.

In fact, research has shown that spending time in nature can reduce stress, increase happiness, and improve mental health.

If you’re feeling alone, try connecting with nature.

8. Seek out meaningful connections

When you’re feeling alone, it’s essential to remember that human connection is a fundamental need. While solitude can be empowering, it’s also important to balance it with social interactions.

This doesn’t mean you need a large group of friends or a bustling social calendar. What matters more is the quality of your relationships, not the quantity. Seek out connections that bring you joy, that make you feel understood and appreciated.

In today’s digital world, there are numerous ways to connect with others. You could join online communities based on your interests, or reach out to old friends and reconnect.

Remember what psychologist William James said: “We are like islands in the sea, separate on the surface but connected in the deep.” No matter how alone we might feel, we’re always connected in some way to those around us.

Final thoughts: The power of solitude

Finding happiness when you’re feeling alone isn’t about escaping from solitude, but rather embracing it and using it as a tool for personal growth.

Remember, solitude can be a rich source of introspection, creativity, and self-discovery. It’s a chance to connect with yourself on a deeper level, to explore new interests, and to cultivate mindfulness and gratitude.

If you’re interested in diving deeper into these concepts, I explore them extensively in my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego. It offers insights into finding peace within yourself and living life with maximum impact.

Above all, remember that feeling alone is not a permanent state. It’s a part of the human experience that we all navigate at different times in our lives. And as psychologist Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

So take this time alone to accept yourself, to grow, and most importantly, to find your unique path to happiness.