Here are some tips to raising good kids, from my experience. Keep in mind that this is just my opinion. You may have different experiences yourself, but I hope you find value in these tips!
1) Spend Quality Time With Them:
This is perhaps the most important part of raising a child. Spend quality time with your kids, regularly, no matter how busy your schedule might be. Ask them questions about themselves, ask them about their perception of the world and how they see it, and always remember to actively listen to what they have to say.
A study from the University of Warwick found that children who spend more time with their parents tend to perform better academically.
This plays a key role in the personal development of any children and it will help you learn all kinds of things about them, as well. Not just this, but you will also be showing them how much you care for them and love them too.
2) Show Them The Bigger Picture:
All children care about and empathize only with a small circle of family and friends. Good parents understand this and are able to get their kids to care about the individuals that are socially, geographically, or culturally outside of their circles.
This can be done by coaching your children to be good listeners – encourage them to look at situations from the eyes of other people as well and teach them about empathy by practicing it yourself.
3) Make Gratitude And Helpfulness A Routine:
Research shows that the most effective way of being compassionate, forgiving, and generous is by engaging in a habit of expressing gratitude. People that make helpfulness and gratitude a part of their routine are also likely to lead happy and healthy lives.
Therefore, parents are advised to ask their kids to help out their siblings, hold the line on the chores, and practice giving thanks whenever possible throughout the day.
The research also recommends that parents praise the uncommon acts of kindness that their kids perform to motivate them to ‘keep it up’.
4) Be A Mentor And Role Model:
The first people that children look up to are their parents and this is exactly why you need to be the perfect model of how you want your children to be in the future.
Children learn their ethical and moral values by observing the actions of their parents. How can you be a role model? By simply practicing what you preach! Practice fairness, honesty, and caring on your own and you will see that your children will quickly incorporate them in their lives, too.
However, this does not mean that you have to be perfect at all times. Build an understanding and a relationship of trust and respect with your kids – acknowledge and apologize for the mistakes that you make and ensure that you respect your children’s perspectives as well rather than scolding them when they have a different opinion.
5) Set High Ethical Expectations:
You need to teach your child to socialize with others in the right way. Caring for the happiness of others and avoiding selfishness are attributes that will help your child in the long run.
It is very important that children hear from their parents that caring for others is a top priority. To make sure that the message is clear for your children, keep high ethical expectations for them. Often, responsibilities and obligations are a good way of reminding them about this – chores, manners, school responsibilities, promises, and friends all teach children about fulfilling expectations.
Be sure to remind your kids that they are not responsible for themselves alone and that they need to fulfill the expectations that others have from them, as well.
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