12 worst things a man can say to a woman

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As a man, navigating the “complex” world of social interactions with the opposite sex can seem like a formula that takes years to master.

But really, most of the time the worst things men end up saying to women are common sense, which seems to fly out the window for most men when they feel hot and flustered.

So what are some of the worst things a man can say to a woman, lines that will guarantee to put them on their “never see again” list?

We’ve put together the 12 cringiest lines men tend to say to women so you can avoid them for yourself:

1. “Oh c’mon, don’t be such a girl!”

The scenario: You’re out on a “fun” date or experience with a girl, and she starts getting uncomfortable going as far as you’re asking her to go.

So instead of comforting her and listening to her limits, you try to playfully push her by saying, “Oh c’mon, don’t be such a girl!”

Why it’s so bad: You’re trying to impress this girl, right? So why are you trying to shame her for her gender?

There’s nothing worse than being boiled down to a single identifying factor of who you are as a person, whether it’s your race, body type, social class, or gender. This is the easiest way to make a girl feel like you’re one-dimensional.

2. “You’re already hot, you don’t need to work out.”

The scenario: A girl you’re seeing or talking to asks you if you think she should start working out.

You give her a quick once-over, and then you say, “Nah, you’re already hot, you don’t need to work out.”

Why it’s so bad: You’re missing the point. While “getting hot” is definitely a benefit of working out, you should never assume that the girl’s main concern is whether she’s looking chunky or not.

She’ll suddenly start wondering if you think that she’s not as attractive as you’ve led her to believe.

3. “I love the way you eat!”

The scenario: You’re at a restaurant with a woman and you’re having a great time; the conversation is going well, she seems to be into you, and the food is great.

You observe that she doesn’t eat as “delicately” as to how you think women should eat, so you say, “I love the way you eat!”

Why it’s so bad: No one wants to know that their date is staring at the way they eat.

Would you like it if she was looking at the way you shoveled food in your mouth, to the point that she had to comment on it?

It’s just a highly unusual avenue to take the conversation, and one often without a way back.

4. “Why in the world are you still single?”

The scenario: You’re amazed by a new woman you’ve met, whether you met her in person or online.

She checks all your boxes, and she’s everything you want in a partner.

So you try to give her the best compliment you can come up with: “Why in the world are you still single?”

Why it’s so bad: Firstly, there’s nothing original about this line; every woman has heard it a dozen times.

Secondly, it’s flattery to the point of deception: you should know that there are a million reasons why any couple might not work out, and she’s not going to be in the mood to crawl through her past for you right now.

5. “Watch your mouth; girls shouldn’t curse so much.”

The scenario: You’re doing something fun or high-adrenaline with your woman, and you can’t help but notice that she doesn’t hold back from cursing.

Normally you wouldn’t mind, but with a woman you want to be serious with, you might say, “Girls shouldn’t curse so much, you know.”

Why it’s so bad: It’s 2021, not 1921. Women can do whatever the hell they want, and trying to tell a woman what she can and can’t do is the quickest way to get yourself red-flagged and off her contact list.

If you really don’t like that she curses, then date someone else, but don’t try to change who she is.

6. “All my exes are crazy.”

The scenario: You guys have been seeing each other for a while, and you’re starting to get into your dating pasts.

She tells you all about her previous men, and you tell her all about your previous women.

But in every story, you say something like, “This ex was so crazy.”

Why it’s so bad: If every woman you ever dated was “crazy”, then you’re either picking up women at the front doors of a mental asylum, or you just don’t realize that the giant problem is you.

These are women you supposedly loved and admired at one point, but now you’re talking trash about them to every future woman you meet? Giant turn-off.

7. “You did a great job for a girl!”

The scenario: She accomplished something awesome — maybe she ran a marathon, whipped up an amazing feast, or got a promotion at her job — and you want to be a loving, supportive man for her. One of the things you say is, “You did a great job for a girl!”

Why it’s so bad: You did everything right except the last three words. Again, no one wants to be boiled down to a single aspect of their identity.

Women already put up with enough on a day-to-day basis, the last thing they want is to come home and hear the same subtle condescension from their partner.

8. “You’re a lawyer/doctor/scientist? I can’t believe it, you’re so beautiful!”

The scenario: You’ve just met an amazing, beautiful woman, and you asked her what she does for a living.

She says something you didn’t expect — a lawyer, doctor, scientist, or any profession that doesn’t really capitalize on her “looks” — and instead of commending her for her smarts, the first thing you point out is how she’s too pretty to be in that field.

Why it’s so bad: So what if she’s so beautiful?

Why “can’t you believe” that she can have a respectable career and still take care of her physical appearance at the same time?

It makes you seem like the kind of man who is intimidated by alpha women — women who want everything in life, so the first thing you try to do is put her down.

9. “You’re prettier than all your friends.”

The scenario: You either just met a woman or you’ve been dating her for a while.

You finally were introduced to all her closest friends, and you do your best to leave a good impression and pass the friend test.

She then asks you what you think, and one of the first things you say is, “You’re prettier than all your friends!”

Why it’s so bad: Why is that relevant at all?

She doesn’t want to be compared to her closest friends, and she doesn’t like that you were “measuring” their beauty in that way.

It makes you feel like a gross man who just judges women by their physical appearance, nothing more.

10. “You really should smile more.”

The scenario: During a conversation with a woman, you notice she doesn’t seem to smile so much.

You might start to think that she might be upset at you, or that you’re boring her. So you try to cheer her up and say, “You really should smile more.”

Why it’s so bad: This is the kind of line that women hear all the time.

An easy way to tell if you shouldn’t say something to a woman is by asking yourself: would you say this to a man?

Women can have bad days, and they can also have days where they simply don’t want to smile.

So are they any less valuable simply because they don’t want to smile? That puts immense pressure on them.

11. “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?”

The scenario: You see a woman across the room and you want to shoot your shot, but instead of coming up with something authentic, genuine, and original, you stick with an age-old classic.

You approach her and say, “Hey baby, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?”

Why it’s so bad: As we said earlier, if you say a line that a woman has heard countless times before, you aren’t getting anywhere except on the blocked list.

It shows that you have zero creativity or authenticity, and you’re probably not genuinely interested in getting to know her on a “real” level, since you can’t even be bothered to notice something about her to put together your icebreaker.

12.“You’re still hot, but you could lose a few pounds.”

The scenario: You want to tell a girl you’re dating or seeing that she needs to lose some weight, but you don’t know how to say it.

So you slide this “subtle” line into conversation one day: “You still look great, but maybe you should think about losing a few pounds?”

Why it’s so bad: Never say anything like this. If she’s been gaining weight, she’s the first person to notice and magnify on it, guaranteed.

If you want to help her lose weight, then find an active approach to get her to do it. Start eating healthier, join a gym, and encourage her to do it with you.


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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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