Women who naturally exude class and elegance without trying usually display these 7 behaviors

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I’m sure you’ve seen them before. You know, those women who just shine? The ones who exude class and elegance even when they are in their dressing gown. 

Yeah, I know you’re probably also wondering how they manage to do it so naturally.

Well, there are 7 behaviors that these goddesses usually display, and I’m about to share them with you so that you too can become one of these classy ladies!

So keep reading!

1) Confidence

Have you met a classy-looking woman before and thought, “Wow, she’s so confident”?

This confidence is one of her secrets to the way she appears to others.

When I see a woman who acts confidently, especially a woman, I’m automatically spellbound. I respect her, I listen to her and ultimately I want to be more like her. 

Confidence often comes with being elegant and classy, because when you feel great about yourself, you can’t help but feel confident. 

Elegance and class both come with being authentic, and I don’t know about you, but I feel my best, my most confident when I am being myself instead of treading around who I think other people want me to be.

2) Kindness and empathy

When you see one of these amazing women, have you noticed that they tend to be lovely and kind? Was she also very empathetic?

These are more unique behaviors that classy women display. They’re the type of women who make you feel bad that you didn’t think of doing that nice thing and often guilt you (without saying anything), into doing the same.

I remember a time when I was at the supermarket with a friend of mine. We both noticed a man struggling with his groceries and without a second thought, my friend was over there to help him out. I felt a bit bad that I hadn’t thought as quickly as she had. But she made this man’s day and he was so grateful.

This article explains that as well as giving someone class, kindness has so many different benefits, including happiness! And I don’t know if you’ve noticed but classy women usually walk around with big smiles on their faces.

3) Good manners and etiquette

When someone mentions the word ‘classy’ to you, what do you think of first? 

I think of someone with impeccable table manners who knows which of the many forks and knives to use first at a posh dinner.

Good manners and knowing etiquette are things that have to be learned first for them to come naturally. But once manners are learned they’re usually hard to forget.

For example, I’ve lived in Asia for a long time, and when you’re in Asia you always take your shoes off at the door when you visit someone’s home. 

When I went to England recently, everyone was walking around the house in their shoes, and people always tell you to leave your shoes on. But I couldn’t do it. I felt so rude, that I had to take them off in every home I went to.

We often look down our noses at people who we think are rude, so it’s only natural that we think more highly of someone who has good manners and understands the etiquette of the situation they are in.

4) Great style

I’m sure you’ve looked women up and down before and thought, “Wow! She always looks great.” Because I know I have. 

I’ve often wondered how some people always dress so well, even when just popping out to the shops.

When a woman is confident in herself (which we all know comes with being classy), then she dresses that way. She’s comfortable with herself, and her style and usually just dresses in things that make her happy and doesn’t care at all what others think about her.

One of my good friends has a wonderful sense of style, which I and many other people love. She always looks amazing (even when she thinks she doesn’t), and loves helping other people choose clothes so they can look amazing too. She is a great example of a woman who shows class without trying.

5) Emotional intelligence

Have you ever wondered how classy women seem to stroll through life managing all situations with ease?

Well, that could be because they have a high level of emotional intelligence.

According to this interesting article, emotionally intelligent people display these traits:

  • High self-awareness
  • Good emotional regulation
  • They aren’t afraid to fail
  • They know how to deal with conflict
  • Don’t take things personally
  • Deal well with and understand people
  • Embrace change

No wonder these women seem to be able to do it all so easily!

6) Active listeners

You may have heard about how active listening is a game-changer when used in relationships. But did you realize that women who exude elegance use this technique all the time?

When someone converses using the active listening technique, they get to know the other person better, as well as make the other person feel heard.

A lot of us (me included) often listen to respond. A lot of the time I’m thinking up my reply as the person I’m speaking with is talking, instead of listening properly.

Active listening changes the conversation by making you listen properly and carefully and ensures that you show empathy to the person you are listening to. This article says that active listening enables us to stay engaged in conversation positively and gets us listening to understand rather than to respond.

If that doesn’t scream elegance and class then I don’t know what does.

7) Avoid gossip and negativity

When you’ve met a woman who is classy and elegant, how do they usually speak? Negatively or positively? Do they often speak about people who aren’t there, and if they do, how do they do it?

Most women like this will refrain from speaking about people who aren’t around, and if they do, they’ll usually be sharing positive things about them.

Why are they like this? It all comes back to confidence. When someone is confident and happy in themselves, they don’t care what other people are up to. They don’t have time for gossip and slander.

This article explains that gossip is a sign someone has low self-esteem. It also says that we gossip because we are trying to make our lives seem better than someone else’s. We’re comparing ourselves to others.

Elegant, classy women, as we know, are confident, meaning that they have high self-esteem. This also means that a habit of theirs is to change the conversation back to something uplifting, as they usually see the brighter side of life. They’re optimists, in the best, most encouraging way.

I mean, let’s be honest, I haven’t seen an elegant person walking around with a frown on their face calling people names behind their backs. 

That’s just not classy!

Louisa Lopez

Louisa is writer, wellbeing coach, and world traveler, with a Masters in Social Anthropology. She is fascinated by people, psychology, spirituality and exploring psychedelics for personal growth and healing. She’s passionate about helping people and has been giving empowering advice professionally for over 10 years using the tarot. Louisa loves magical adventures and can often be found on a remote jungle island with her dogs. You can connect with her on Twitter: @StormJewel

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