Ava Sinclair
As a woman who’s happily single, I can tell you—singlehood is not about being “unlucky in love” or “waiting for the right one.” It’s about knowing yourself, valuing your freedom, and finding fulfillment on your own terms.
Choosing to stay single in a world that often equates a woman’s worth with her relationship status isn’t always easy.
But for those of us who embrace it, it’s an incredibly empowering choice—one that reflects unique traits that shape who we are and how we move through life.
In this article, I’m sharing 7 personality traits that many women who are single by choice embody.
Whether you’re single, considering it, or just curious, you might just see yourself—or someone you admire—in these qualities.
1) Independence
Let’s start with the obvious: women who choose to be single often exhibit an impressive degree of independence.
They are the architects of their own lives, making decisions without needing to compromise for someone else’s preferences or desires.
These women don’t just survive on their own—they thrive.
They’ve mastered the art of self-reliance, confidently navigating life without relying on others for their happiness or well-being.
Whether it’s traveling solo, pursuing their passions, or managing their day-to-day, they embrace their autonomy with grace and determination.
But perhaps most importantly, they genuinely enjoy their own company and embrace their freedom.
With a strong sense of self-identity, they’ve cultivated a life they love—a life that doesn’t feel like it’s missing something just because there isn’t a partner in it.
2) Resilience
These women are not just independent, they are also incredibly resilient. And I speak from personal experience.
A few years back, I had a friend named Lisa.
Lisa was single by choice and one of the most resilient people I’ve ever met. She went through a series of professional setbacks: she lost her job, faced rejections on her applications, and even had to move back in with her parents.
But did she give up? No.
She kept her head high and persevered. She took up freelance gigs, continued applying for jobs, and even managed to start her own small business. All while being single and managing everything on her own.
Her resilience was inspiring. It taught me that being single doesn’t mean being weak or vulnerable. Instead, it could be a testament to one’s strength and ability to bounce back from adversities.
3) Self-sufficiency
Ever heard of the saying, “I’m single because I’m saving myself for someone who deserves me”?
Well, there’s an undercurrent of self-sufficiency in that sentiment.
Women who decide to stay single are often experts at taking care of themselves.
They don’t wait around for a knight in shining armor to come and ‘rescue’ them. They roll up their sleeves, get down to business, and rescue themselves.
Take Julie, for instance, a woman in her mid-thirties. She’s single, happy, and incredibly self-sufficient. She fixes her own car, carries her own groceries, pays her own bills, and even traveled solo across Europe.
Julie isn’t single because she can’t find a partner. She’s single because she wants to be. She loves the autonomy that comes with being able to take care of herself and make her own decisions.
4) Fearlessness
Alright, let’s move on to another trait: fearlessness.
Now, I’m not talking about the absence of fear. We all have our fears, right? What I’m talking about is the courage to face those fears, to stare them down and say, “You don’t scare me.”
The choice of staying single can be daunting. Society has its way of stigmatizing those who prefer solitude over companionship.
But women who choose to be single?
They stand their ground. They are fearless in their decision, in their choice of life.
I once met a woman named Sarah at a conference. She was in her late forties, successful, and single by choice.
When asked about her decision, she simply said, “I chose this life because it’s what I want. I’ve faced the fear of judgment, of loneliness, and guess what? I’m still standing.”
Her fearlessness was evident in the way she held herself, the confidence with which she spoke.
5) Curiosity
Women who choose to be single often have an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. They are curious about the world around them and are always ready to learn something new.
Did you know that according to research, intelligent people are more likely to enjoy their own company?
It’s true! And it’s probably because they’re busy feeding their curiosity.
Take my friend, Mia, for instance.
She’s a single woman in her late twenties and one of the most curious individuals I’ve ever met. She’s always reading, always learning, always pushing herself to know more.
Whether it’s a new language, a new skill, or even a complex scientific theory, Mia is always up for the challenge.
6) Empathy
This might surprise you, but women who choose to be single usually have an abundance of empathy.
They understand and respect that everyone has their own unique journey and choices to make, just like they made the choice to stay single.
My neighbor, Lily, is a perfect example of this.
She’s single by choice and one of the kindest souls I’ve ever met. She’s always there to lend an ear, offer support, or simply share a comforting smile.
Lily understands that everyone is dealing with their own battles, big or small. She never judges but listens and empathizes.
So yes, empathy is undoubtedly a common trait among women who are single by choice. They have the capacity to understand, respect, and appreciate the feelings of others, which in turn makes them incredibly kind and compassionate individuals.
7) Self-love
Last but certainly not least, let’s talk about self-love.
Women who choose to be single often have a deep, unwavering love for themselves. They value their worth and don’t rely on others to affirm their value.
These self love means they take care of their needs and make time for their passions and hobbies.
This is backed up by a study in the Evolutionary Psychological Science. The study suggests that people view single life as an opportunity to focus on self-development, and prioritize more time for themselves than people in relationships.
Final thoughts
Being single by choice isn’t about rejecting relationships—it’s about embracing yourself.
The women who make this decision are proof that happiness, fulfillment, and confidence don’t come from a partner; they come from within.
These unique personality traits—independence, resilience, and a deep sense of self—are what make their lives so rich and rewarding.
By choosing to prioritize their own needs and dreams, they’ve created a path that reflects their values and desires.
For these women, being single isn’t a status; it’s a testament to their strength, clarity, and authenticity. It’s a reminder to all of us that the most important relationship we’ll ever have is the one we have with ourselves.
