Women who are highly self-confident often display these 8 behaviors (without realizing it)

There’s a massive difference between being arrogant and being self-confident, especially when it comes to women.

Here’s the thing. Arrogance is about superiority and disregard for others, while self-confidence is about belief in oneself and one’s own abilities.

Self-confident women, in my experience, often exhibit certain behaviors that they might not even realize they’re showing.

As Tina Fey, founder of the Love Connection blog and relationship expert, I’ve seen these behaviors up close and personal. And today, I’m sharing them with you.

Below is a list of behaviors that women who are highly self-confident often display, without even realizing it. So ladies, let’s take a journey into the world of confidence together.

1) They aren’t afraid to stand tall

Now, let me clarify. I’m not talking about height, but rather, posture.

A strong posture is one of the key behaviors of self-confident women, and you’ll likely notice it without them even realizing they’re doing it.

These women carry themselves with an air of assurance. Shoulders back, head held high – it’s a non-verbal cue that screams, “I believe in myself.”

Why does this matter? Posture doesn’t just influence how others perceive us, but also how we perceive ourselves. As the saying goes, “Fake it till you make it.”

If you’re having a low confidence day, try standing tall and see how your mood changes. It might take a little practice, but I promise you, it’s worth it.

And remember, ladies: Confidence isn’t about feeling 100% all the time. It’s about feeling secure enough to take a hit and keep going. So stand tall, even on your not-so-great days.

2) They embrace their flaws

This is a big one. Self-confident women aren’t defined by their imperfections, but rather, they embrace them.

It’s not about ignoring the things you might want to change about yourself. It’s about acknowledging them, accepting them, and understanding that they’re part of what makes you unique.

I’ve met so many women who are so confident, not despite their flaws, but because of them. They recognize that nobody’s perfect – and that’s okay.

As the phenomenal Marilyn Monroe once said, “Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

Women who are highly self-confident don’t just accept their flaws, they embrace them and turn them into strengths. And often, they’re not even aware they’re doing it.

So the next time you’re feeling down about a flaw, remember that it’s a part of what makes you uniquely you. And that in itself is beautiful.

3) They set boundaries

Setting boundaries is another behavior that highly self-confident women often exhibit, sometimes without even realizing it.

It’s about understanding your limits and making sure others respect them. It’s about saying “no” when you need to, and not feeling guilty about it.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I talk about the importance of setting boundaries in a relationship.

But this applies to all areas of life. Whether it’s at work, with friends, or even with family, setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your mental health and self-confidence.

Never forget, you have the right to take care of your personal needs and to say no when something doesn’t feel right. And often, highly self-confident women do this naturally without even noticing it.

If you’re struggling with setting boundaries, my book could be a great place to start. It’s packed with practical advice and real-life examples to help you navigate this sometimes tricky area.

4) They ask for help

Now, this might seem counterintuitive. You might think, “Aren’t self-confident people supposed to be independent and self-reliant?”

Well, yes and no.

Highly self-confident women understand that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength. It shows that they’re secure in their abilities, yet aware of their limitations. It shows that they value collaboration and learning from others.

They’re not afraid to reach out when they need assistance or advice. They don’t see it as a failure but as an opportunity to grow and learn.

In my experience, it’s often those who refuse to ask for help who struggle with self-confidence. Because true confidence comes from knowing that it’s okay not to know everything and that we all need a little help sometimes.

5) They celebrate other women’s successes

This is something I’ve personally witnessed many times. Women who are highly self-confident are often the first to applaud other women’s successes.

They understand that another woman’s success doesn’t diminish their own. Instead, they see it as proof that success is possible and use it as motivation to achieve their own goals.

Whether it’s a friend’s promotion, a colleague’s project success, or even a stranger’s achievement on social media, they’re genuinely happy for them and often express it.

It takes confidence to be happy for others without feeling threatened or jealous. It’s a behavior that exudes positivity and creates a supportive environment where everyone can thrive.

So ladies, let’s lift each other up, not pull each other down. Because when one woman succeeds, we all succeed.

6) They experience self-doubt

Now, here’s the raw and honest truth: Even the most self-confident women have moments of self-doubt.

Yes, you heard that right. They question themselves, they worry, they fear failure. They have those “What if I’m not good enough?” moments, just like everyone else.

Being highly confident doesn’t mean you never experience self-doubt. It means you don’t let that doubt control you or stop you from moving forward.

These women understand that self-doubt is a part of being human. They learn to cope with it, perhaps by seeking support or practicing self-care, and then they push on.

The crux of the matter is, having self-doubt doesn’t make you weak or unconfident. It makes you human. And it’s how you handle that doubt that truly defines your confidence.

7) They take risks

Taking risks is often a common behavior among highly self-confident women. And it’s something I’ve personally experienced.

Now, I’m not saying they throw caution to the wind and take reckless decisions. But they aren’t afraid to step out of their comfort zone. They understand that growth often comes from taking risks, even if it means potentially failing.

As the great Helen Keller once said, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”

These women are not deterred by the fear of failure. Rather, they see every risk as an opportunity to learn and grow, regardless of the outcome.

Don’t be afraid to take that leap of faith. It may be scary, but it’s also where the magic happens.

8) They don’t always feel confident

Let’s get real here. Even the most self-confident women don’t feel confident all the time.

There are days when they question their abilities, days when they feel like impostors, days when they just want to hide under the covers and avoid the world.

And that’s okay.

Confidence isn’t about feeling on top of the world every single day. It’s about picking yourself up on those days when you’re down. It’s about pushing through even when you don’t feel like it.

These women understand that it’s okay to have off days. They allow themselves to feel those feelings, then dust themselves off and continue forward.

Remember, it’s okay not to feel confident all the time. What matters is that you don’t let those feelings hold you back.

Final thoughts

To wrap up, self-confidence is not a destination, but a journey. It’s about embracing your flaws, setting boundaries, and even dealing with self-doubt.

And remember, just because you don’t feel confident all the time doesn’t mean you’re not a confident woman.

If you’re looking for more guidance on this journey, consider checking out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It offers practical advice on building confidence and setting boundaries in relationships.

Remember, confidence is about believing in yourself. So keep going, keep growing, and most importantly, keep believing in yourself. You’ve got this, ladies!

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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