Tina Fey
There’s something quite remarkable about women who manage to maintain their kindness, even when they’re upset.
I’ve spent years studying relationships and emotions, and I can tell you, it’s not an easy feat.
Yet, there are certain behaviors these women display, almost like a signature pattern.
And recognizing these behaviors can help us understand and emulate this admirable trait.
In this article, we’ll delve into the 7 behaviors typically exhibited by women who remain kind in the face of adversity or upset.
And who knows? Maybe we’ll discover that we’re more like these women than we initially thought.
So, let’s dive right in, shall we?
1) They practice empathy
It’s not a secret that empathy is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship.
Yet, some women seem to have a unique knack for it, even when they’re upset.
These women have mastered the art of stepping into another person’s shoes.
They understand that everyone has their own struggles and perspectives.
Being upset doesn’t cloud their ability to empathize. Instead, it seems to enhance it.
They acknowledge their own feelings without letting them overshadow the emotions of others.
And this isn’t about being a pushover or ignoring their own needs.
It’s about understanding that everyone’s emotions are valid and deserving of respect.
2) They don’t shy away from expressing their feelings
Now, this might seem counterintuitive.
After all, aren’t we talking about women who remain kind even when they’re upset? Yes, we are.
But here’s the catch – being kind doesn’t mean suppressing your emotions.
These women don’t bottle up their feelings.
They express them openly and honestly – but they do it in a respectful, considerate manner.
They don’t use their emotions as weapons or allow them to dictate their actions.
Instead, they communicate their feelings in a way that promotes understanding and fosters connection.
They know that expressing their upset isn’t about winning an argument or proving a point.
It’s about sharing their emotional state and creating an opportunity for resolution.
3) They maintain their individuality
Maintaining your individuality while navigating emotional turmoil is no easy task.
But these women manage to do just that.
You see, they understand that being upset doesn’t change who they are.
While their emotions may take a front seat for a moment, they don’t allow them to alter their core values or beliefs.
These women remain true to themselves, holding on to their individuality even in the face of emotional upheaval.
They don’t lose themselves in others or become codependent.
This is something I explore in depth in my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.
It’s about understanding that you can care deeply for someone without losing sight of yourself.
4) They don’t let a moment define them
We all have those moments when our emotions get the better of us.
In my experience, it’s not those moments that shape us, but rather how we respond to them.
Women who always remain kind, even when they’re upset, understand this deeply.
They allow themselves to feel the emotion without letting it define them or their reactions.
They live by the words of the great Maya Angelou: “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
So yes, they might feel upset. They might even lose their cool for a moment.
But they don’t let that moment define them.
They take a step back, reassess, and respond with kindness, staying true to their character.
5) They know the power of a pause
In my years of studying relationships and emotions, one thing I’ve noticed about these women is their ability to pause.
They understand that in the heat of the moment, taking a step back can be the most powerful action.
When they’re upset, they don’t rush to react.
Instead, they take a moment to breathe, to collect their thoughts, and to decide on the best course of action.
This pause isn’t just about giving themselves time to cool down.
It’s about creating space for understanding and thoughtful response.
It’s about preventing emotions from clouding their judgment and pushing them into rash decisions.
When you find yourself in a challenging situation or heated argument, try taking a pause.
It might just be the difference between a reaction you regret and a response you’re proud of.
6) They choose their battles wisely
One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned from these women is the art of choosing battles wisely.
Not every disagreement needs to turn into a full-blown argument, and not every negative emotion needs an outlet.
These women understand this.
They know when to engage in a discussion, when to voice their upset, and when it’s better to simply let things slide.
This reminds me of a wise saying by Mark Twain: “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.”
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7) They admit when they’re wrong
This might be the hardest behavior to master, but it’s also one of the most important ones.
Women who remain kind even when they’re upset aren’t afraid to admit when they’re wrong.
There’s a raw honesty in accepting your mistakes. It requires humility and courage.
It’s about letting go of the ego and choosing to prioritize the relationship over being right.
These women know that being wrong is not a sign of weakness but an opportunity for growth.
They understand that admitting their mistakes doesn’t diminish their worth but enhances their authenticity.
Next time you’re upset and realize you’ve made a mistake, don’t shy away from admitting it.
It might be uncomfortable, but it’s also a powerful act of kindness – to both yourself and the person you’re interacting with.
Grace in every storm: Kindness unwavering
The journey of maintaining kindness, especially when we’re upset, is a delicate dance of balancing our emotions and staying true to our authenticity.
It’s a path that requires practice, patience, and self-awareness.
In my years of studying relationships and emotions, I’ve found that these 7 behaviors are often the cornerstone for women who consistently show kindness during times of upset.
But remember, we’re all human.
We all have our moments. The key is to keep striving, to keep learning, and most importantly, to give ourselves grace.
I believe that the video by Justin Brown on “the illusion of happiness” can provide some valuable insights to further understand this journey.
His perspective on how chasing happiness can actually lead us astray resonates deeply with the points we discussed in this article.
Remember, being kind doesn’t mean ignoring or suppressing your feelings.
It means acknowledging them, understanding them, and expressing them in a way that respects both you and the person you’re interacting with.
Because at the end of the day, kindness isn’t just about being nice to others – it’s about being kind to ourselves as well.
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