There are many stereotypes that have been cultivated about women over the years, and many of them continue to live on to this day.
It is these stereotypes about women — they are weak, they are sensitive, they are emotional, they need a man — that makes the alpha female stand out from the crowd.
When people meet alpha women for the first time, they are often sidelined by their personalities and their demeanor.
After all, much of society still thinks women need to get married and become baby making machines while they grow old putting dinner on the table for their breadwinning husbands. Yikes.
As women continue to realize the strength and power within them, we are more likely to see alpha personalities coming forth.
Women who have already discovered this alpha personality about themselves have these 15 special traits that make them rock stars in the world.
First off, what is an alpha female?
An alpha female is a powerful and successful woman, often in a leadership role. Alpha females are often described as talented, highly motivated, and self-confident.
According to an academic paper at Walden University on the Leadership Influences of the Veteran Alpha Female Leader, an alpha female is:
“Alpha woman as a self-assured, goal-driven, competitive, high achiever who maintained egalitarian beliefs and did not perceive any distinction between herself and her male counterparts.
If you think that you might be an alpha female, then you’ll identify with these 15 traits.
1) She Doesn’t Give Up Easily
Being an alpha means you take charge of your own life and sometimes that means not backing down for what you want or believe…no matter what.
That’s pretty intimidating to stand up against, and so alpha women tend to get what they want.
It is for this reason that powerful women are also seen as bitchy or mean, rather than powerful and ambitious.
She’ll push through the inherent barriers that exist in society for women to succeed. She won’t give up easily until she reaches the position she deserves.
According to Gabriela Cora M.D., M.B.A. resilience is an intrinsic trait of an alpha female:
“Alpha females have intrinsic characteristics—aside from being competitive, controlling, and more aggressive, they are also born healthier, more energetic, and more resilient.”
2) They empower men
A strong and confident woman wants to be with an equally strong and confident man. And she knows exactly how to empower him to be one.
There’s a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology which is generating a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of what women can do to bring out the best in their man.
People are calling it the hero instinct.
The simple truth is that men have a biological urge to provide for and protect women. It’s hardwired into them.
By making him feel like an everyday hero, it unleashes his protective instincts and the most noble aspect of his masculinity. Most importantly, it will unleash his deepest feelings of attraction.
And the kicker?
A man won’t fall for a woman when this thirst isn’t satisfied.
I know it sounds kind of silly. An alpha female doesn’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like a protector.
And the few women who actually realize that can gain a lot of strength and power in the way they approach their relationships.
To learn exactly how to trigger the hero instinct in your man, check out this free online video by James Bauer. He’s an experienced relationship psychologist who first introduced the concept.
Some ideas really are life-changing. And for romantic relationships, I think this is one of them.
3) She’s Happy to Make the First Move
When an alpha woman sees something she wants, she is not about to sit around and wait for it to come to her.
Whether that’s a partner, a job, a house, a car, or promotion: she is going to stand tall and seek that goal out no matter what.
People will see this confidence as aggressive, and it won’t be received well by all, but she doesn’t care. She’s too busy out living her life and making her dreams come true.
Also, an alpha female also exerts power through conversations by taking charge, says Sonya Rhodes Ph.D.
“The Alpha is the one who exerts power and influence through her ability to take charge of the conversation.”
4) She is Fiercely Loyal
Because alpha women don’t have to depend on other people for their livelihood or happiness, they don’t draw their energy from these things.
That means that any relationship she is in is a bonus in her eyes and she treats it with the kind of respect and nurturing that she would expect in return.
While she doesn’t always get it, she still gives it, because she knows that is the right thing to do.
5) Her Life is Guided by Purpose
Alpha women are driven by their ambitions and goals. They know what they want, and they always have their eyes on the prize.
She knows herself and what she wants in life. She’ll always stay true to her purpose.
According to Sonya Rhodes, Ph.D. in Psychology Today:
“Funny, strong, independent and comfortable in her own skin, the Alpha believes in herself.”
Sure, alpha women know how to relax, but life is more fun when you are kicking ass and taking names, and she knows what guides her decisions in life so there’s never any doubt she is doing exactly what she should be doing in her life.
6) She is Not Afraid to Be Alone
Alpha women know how to take care of themselves, and that means that while society tells her she needs a man, she knows that she can be perfectly happy on her own.
Even if she is in a relationship, alpha women like to break away from time to time to regroup and reconnect with themselves.
There’s no need to be attached at the hip to another person, and she doesn’t want that in her life anyway. Whether it’s taking in a movie on a Friday night, or buying a house, she is not afraid to do it alone.
7) She Loves Intensely
Because alpha women do everything with vigor and intensity, it is no surprise that she also loves intensely.
This can be too much for some people, especially men who are not used to strong women who don’t “need them,” but she’ll give you all her love in return for yours.
She knows that because not everyone can handle her intensity, that being alone is better than being with someone who is uncomfortable around her. Someone will come along who can appreciate all of her – including her alpha personality.
8) She Has Ambition
If there is one thing you can say about a woman with an alpha personality, it’s that she has ambition.
In all areas of her life, she is setting goals and achieving them, and she’s not making any apology about it.
There’s only so much time to do great things on this planet, she women who are alphas are making sure they soak up every last minute of their time on earth. And that’s what makes their lives so great.
The only guys she likes are those that can get on board with her ambition.
This type of intensity is why alpha females are perfect for pursuing a career in which they’re boss.
“These traits are excellent if you want to pursue a career in which you are the boss and master-of-the-universe.” – Gabriela Cora M.D., M.B.A. in Psychology Today
9) She Brings People Together
Whether it’s her friends, her colleagues at work or her own family, she’s always the one organizing events and bringing people together.
She loves planning, organizing and making sure that everyone gets a chance to connect with each other.
At a party, she’s the one introducing people and making sure that everyone has a great time.
If you really want to find a true alpha female at a party, just look at who everyone is directing their attention to for cues on what to do next.
10) She Stands Up For What She Believes In
An alpha female is always prepared to stand up for she believes is right. You won’t be able to intimidate her or coerce in her to being silent.
She knows what’s right or wrong and if you overstep the mark, you better watch out.
An alpha female has a strong sense of justice and responsibility. While some people consider her “annoying”, she doesn’t really care.
She’s not a sheep who abides by the rules. She critically thinks for herself and will seek justice on anything she feels is important.
An alpha female does it for the greater good and she doesn’t care what the “nay sayers” have to say.
“Those with an alpha female personality exude confidence, leading others to respect her as an equal.” – Veteran Alpha Female Leader
11) She Is Resilient
We’ve all been through struggles and an alpha female is no different. But through sheer mental strength, she manages to claw her way back out of whatever situation she finds herself in.
She’s dealt with manipulative boyfriends, poverty, abuse, but she’s still managed to lift herself up. How? Because she maintains a sense of purpose about her.
She knows that there is more to life than herself and she wants to achieve everything she possibly can.
In other words, she won’t give up.
12) She’s extremely loyal to her inner tribe
If you’re lucky to be in her inner circle, then she’ll look after you like you wouldn’t believe.
She doesn’t just let anyone get close to her. Only the ones she can truly trust.
It’s true that an alpha female has many acquaintances but only a select few are allowed into her crew. However, she treats everyone with respect and kindness, but is weary to not let everyone get close to her as she’s been burnt in the past.
But when someone gets to be in her inner circle, they’re pretty much like family and she’ll do anything to protect them.
13) She Respects Herself and Lives With Integrity
Living responsibly and with integrity is cornerstone to how an alpha female wants to live life.
She’s always thinking about other people, making sure that everyone gets treated fairly.
She hates being disrespected, so she makes sure to never do that to someone else.
Let’s just say it’s an alpha female’s golden rule.
14) She Never Puts Other Women Down
Because she’s an “alpha” you may think that she competes with other females to be the top cat. But this isn’t the case.
A true alpha female doesn’t care about competing with others. She knows who she is, what she’s good at and what she stands for, so why would she even bother putting other people down?
She treats everyone with kindness and respect. Why? Because that’s the way that she wants to be treated.
15) She Doesn’t Gossip or Play Games
Some woman have a reputation for gossiping and talking behind people’s backs. But an alpha female doesn’t bother engaging in such banality.
If you try to gossip with her, she won’t pay attention and will try to switch the conversation to something more deep and meaningful. She just hasn’t got time for toxic energy.
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