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“Will I be single forever?” Here are 25 things that might help

As of 2018, there are about 7.7 billion people in the world.

7.7 billion and still, a lot of people are single.

Chances are, you’re single too.

Some people think that not involving yourself in a romantic relationship is very sad. But to be honest, it really isn’t.

Being single has its perks. You have the liberty of doing what you want and not having the responsibility to pick a place for a dinner date.

Basically, you have more time and freedom.

But even though it has its benefits, being single can be hard sometimes; especially, if you don’t want to be single anymore.

After all, human beings are hardwired to crave affection from other people. There’s also quite no feeling like having a life partner.

However, life is not a perfectly directed movie where the guy gets the girl and then they live happily ever after. Reality can be tough.

Some people lose hope and prepare themselves to live the rest of their lives alone with their 10 cats and 5 dogs. And there’s absolutely no problem with that.

But if you don’t want to spend the rest of your life alone, you might want to take action now.

If you’re asking yourself “Will I be single forever?” and you want the answer to be no, here are some tips that could help you.

1. Give other people a chance.

Some people are still single because they never give other people a chance. They say no to dates and they don’t take the time to get to know a person.

If you’re like this, try a different approach.

Be open and give other people a chance.

Who knows? Some great love stories begin unexpectedly.

Open your heart to other people and soon enough, someone might just get in and stay.

2. Don’t look for the perfect person.

If you’re trying to find someone perfect, don’t bother trying. They do not exist.

Nobody is perfect and no one will be.

You don’t need someone perfect to begin with. People make mistakes and that’s just the way life is.

Instead of finding the perfect one, find someone who will love you despite your flaws and imperfections.

Doing so will take you a step closer to the potential love of your life.

3. Don’t be needy.

If you constantly depend on other people and you cling to them like glitter, stop.

Neediness is unattractive.

Be independent and show others that you’re in control of your own life. In fact, slash that. You don’t need to show others you’re in control. Just live your life.

Spend some time alone and be mature enough to handle your own business.

The right person doesn’t need to be chased.

4. Socialize

Finding the time to meet new people can be challenging, especially, if you always have a busy schedule.

But completely isolating yourself from human contact might negatively affect not only your social life, but also your chances of meeting your potential significant other.

Try maintaining a healthy balance between work life and social life by spending some time with other people.

Be single and ready to mingle.

How on earth are you going to meet people if you don’t get out of the house once in a while?

Even if you use online dating to find people to go out with, you are missing out on chance encounters, introductions, and more!

5. Work on your personality.

While you can use makeup to improve your looks, a bad attitude, however, can’t be concealed.

If you happen to have any toxic traits, acknowledge them and work towards having a better personality.

Always treat other people with kindness and you’ll end up attracting kind people, too.

Remember to prioritize what’s inside of you and not what’s on the outside.

6. Make yourself better.

Change is inevitable and it is important if you want a better life.

Work on other aspects of your lifestyle such as your appearance, your personality, and your career and improve them to the best of your abilities.

Not only will this help you attract a potential partner, but it would also help your life in general.

Change for the better and work towards self-improvement.

7. Get over your ex.

Quite some time has passed and you still haven’t moved on from your ex. This might negatively affect your future relationships.

Not moving on from your ex might push other people away from you and you’ll lose the chance of getting to know them.

Get over your ex and focus on the now.

It’s useless to continuously think of what’s behind you to the point of not seeing what’s in front of you.

Your present is far more important than your past.

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8. Don’t compare people you meet with your ex.

Your ex is an ex for a reason. It’s in the past and it’s best to let it stay in the past where it belongs.

Stop comparing everyone you meet with your ex or you’ll end up being single forever.

If someone is showing interest to you, see them for who they are and not for what you want them to be.

Move on and let go.

9. Don’t expect too much.

Some people end up being single forever because they set unrealistic expectations for a relationship.

Avoid expecting too much from someone and set realistic and achievable standards.

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Having a high standard is good. Just don’t set it too high to an unrealistic level or else you’ll end up with no one but yourself.

10. Try new things.

Relaxing from the comfort of your home feels amazing…unless that’s all you ever do.

If you’re always doing the same things every day and your life becomes an endless cycle of repeated routine, you might want to switch Netflix off and get out of your house.

Try doing new things with your friends and family and enjoy what the big world out there offers.

Who knows? Maybe you’ll bump into someone and that person is exactly what you’ve been waiting for.

11. Enjoy being single.

If you have followed the last 10 tips and you’re still single, don’t worry, it takes time finding the right person to be with.

In the meantime, it’s best to work on improving yourself and enjoy being single.

Spend time with your family, hang out with your friends, and do the things that make you happy. You can even travel and see that there’s a big world out there to see.

Soon enough, someone will enter your life and being single wouldn’t be a problem anymore.

Believe that someone out there is meant for you and it’s just a matter of time before you meet that person.

12. You can let go of the past.

If you still compare everyone you meet with your past lovers you are going to have a hard time finding someone to love. Let go of the past so you can focus on the future.

13. Don’t fall in love with everyone.

You might have a hard time finding someone to be in a relationship with if you fall head over heels in love with anyone and everyone you meet.

This screams of desperation and nobody likes someone who is desperate.

Remember, a genuine and fulfilling relationship takes time. “Love at first sight” is bogus when it comes to building a strong relationship.

14. You can let someone love you.

Sure, you say you want to be in a relationship, but your actions speak louder than your words.

You might not be as open to being in love and letting people love you as you think you are.

15. Your standards are bogus.

You have ridiculously high standards that no man or woman could meet.

Everyone has flaws. Just accept it. There’s no such thing as the perfect human.

Find someone who checks enough boxes and start there.

16. You don’t have to adopt the opinions of those around you.

You don’t think for yourself and get caught up in drama related to everyone else.

When you can’t stand on your own two feet, you’ll have a hard time determining the kind of person you want to be with and an even harder time finding that person.

17. You deserve love.

No matter how much you say you want to be in a relationship, you struggle to let yourself be happy.

Deep down, you believe that you don’t deserve love. You almost feel sorry for someone that falls in love you.

Don’t be like that. You’re better than you think you are. You need to believe in yourself and recognize your own value. We all have traits that make us lovable.

Only when you see that will you allow yourself to find love.

This is a common problem, especially for women who don’t see their own vale.

18. You are waiting for the one and only.

Instead of spending time with people who could qualify as Mr. or Mrs. Right Now, you are holding out for your one true love.

But maybe a “one true love” doesn’t exist? There might be multiple people that you could end up in a happy relationship with!

So consider this:

How will you find them if you don’t connect with people on a regular basis?

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19. You won’t find your true love on social media.

You might find yourself chronically single if you share every single minute of your life on social media.

That’s exhausting and a violation of your other half’s privacy.

If you focused on yourself and how you’re appearing to others, not only are you increasing your narcassism, but you’re not focusing on the world around you.

20. Don’t apply old habits to new relationships.

If your old boyfriend was a jerk you automatically assume every new boyfriend will be a jerk.

Of course, this is not true, but you need to wake up to the standards and expectations you are applying to others unfairly if you ever hope to find a relationship that lasts.

21. Tap into reality.

Don’t live in the clouds. Be honest with yourself.

Do you expect everyone to do things for you or are you a strong, independent person?

Because anyone looking for a hand out is not going to be in a relationship very long.

22. Love yourself.

If you continue to hate yourself, nobody is going to love you.

People don’t need another project so stop playing the victim and start being kind to yourself.

You have traits everyone can admire and you’re working on improving yourself if you’re reading this article.

Believe in yourself!

23. Get in touch with your intimate side.

If sex isn’t on the menu you should stop looking for a relationship. Nobody wants to be your companion for life if they can’t have sex.

Relationships are complicated and whether you like it or not, sex is part of relationships. Y

24. Be trusting.

You can’t let people into your life because you are afraid of getting hurt, yet you spend days longing to be with someone.

You need to get over your trust issues if you don’t want to spend the rest of your life alone.

25. You actually don’t want to be with someone.

Have you considered the possibility that you aren’t with someone already because you actually don’t want to be in a relationship?

Is your life great the way it is? Are you getting pressure from other people to be in a relationship?

You should ask yourself some tough questions about whether you want a partner or not before you head out looking for one.

You might be surprised to find you are perfectly happy just the way you are.

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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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