Pearl Nash
Do guys change when they meet the one?
For sure they do. In fact, often they cannot help it.
The reality is that the stakes are higher when a man is heavily invested in a woman.
Rather than drift along and hope for the best, he is prepared to put in the hard graft. That means, if necessary, making changes in order to keep her.
This article will reveal 15 real reasons why a man will change for the right woman.
Will a man change for the woman he loves? 15 reasons a man will always change for the right woman
1) He wants to be a better man for her
The key to change is wanting it. Because the hard truth is:
Change isn’t always easy.
In order to create the momentum and determination needed to change your ways, you have to want it bad enough.
It often comes down to that simple equation. A man’s likelihood of changing for the woman he loves is dependant on how much he wants to.
And how much he loves her definitely plays a role in how strong the desire for him to change feels.
If he has strong deep feelings of respect, desire, and affection, he will want to rise to her level and be the best man he can be for her.
He wants to make her happy. And he knows that she deserves only the very best from him. So he’ll strive to become that man.
2) He realizes how special she is
Sadly some guys don’t seem to always see what they’ve got right in front of them.
But when a guy knows that he has a total catch standing in front of him, he cannot help but sit up and notice.
Of course, every single person on this planet has value. But when we meet that special someone, their value feels above and beyond other people.
They shine. They stand out against the rest.
When a guy meets his soulmate, he sees just how amazing she really is. She makes him feel like no one else ever could.
She lights up his world. And he wants to show her off. To share her with everyone around him. He feels lucky to have her so he will do just about anything to keep it that way.
3) It’s in his DNA
Our genetic makeup shapes so much in life.
You might be surprised to hear that when a guy falls for a woman hard, he is hardwired to love and protect her. It’s like he can’t help himself.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12-word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
Click here to watch the free video.
4) He doesn’t want anyone else
So, the million dollar question is…
Can a player change for the right girl?
Here’s the thing:
You only want to shop around when you aren’t quite sure you’ve found what you are looking for. So you decide to keep on browsing, wondering if something better may come alone.
Modern dating can feel like an epidemic of browsers. Dating apps seem to have made us all pickier, as the next option is just a swipe away.
But when a guy finds the right one, he isn’t plagued with doubts or questions about whether there could be another woman who is better for him.
He may have played around in the past, but giving up those f**kboy ways isn’t difficult for him. He has tunnel vision all of a sudden. He only has eyes for her.
5) Compromise comes easier to him
When we really want something we tend to be far less stubborn and more naturally open to compromise.
On the other hand, when we’re less bothered we may demand that things are on our terms.
It all comes down to how much energy and effort you want to put in. And both these things are found in higher reserves when a guy is with the woman of his dreams.
When his feelings don’t run that deep, it’s easier to shrug off her requests and claim she is too high maintenance or asking too much.
When his feelings are sincere, compromise comes naturally to him. It doesn’t feel heavy or a drag. He has the enthusiastic energy to meet her in the middle, so that they both win.
6) She encourages him to be the best version of himself
The right woman becomes her man’s cheerleader. She can see and focus on all his best qualities.
This makes him feel like the King of the world.
He sees himself reflected back in her eyes. The praise, support, and encouragement she gives him helps him to step up to the plate.
This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, he’s more likely to change.
And the best part is, that triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.
You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
7) He’s ready to grow up
There’s no denying that change can be scary. We often get stuck into patterns from an early age. Even when they are not helping us they can feel difficult to leave behind.
Occasionally there arise certain times in life when we seemingly have no choice but to leave our comfort zone and push past the growing pains.
These extraordinary events can be negative or positive. In the case of meeting the right woman, it’s positive.
There comes a time when every man must put away childish things. We outgrow habits.
He may have had a lot of fun in the past, going out drinking, hanging with his friends all the time, and playing the field.
But when he meets the right woman, suddenly he feels brave enough and ready to leave these things behind.
8) He knows a high-value woman won’t tolerate less than she deserves
He can cancel dates at the last minute — no way.
He disappears without a word for a while and then suddenly reappears — not going to happen.
He cheats and lies — #boybye.
The right woman doesn’t put up with his crap, and he knows it.
That’s why if he’s got a reputation for being a bad boy, he knows a high-value woman isn’t going to accept it.
If he stands a chance at getting her, and more importantly keeping her, he will need to change his ways.
Guys can tell when a woman has boundaries and so if he meets the right woman, he won’t play around and cross them.
9) He’s scared of losing the best thing that ever happened to him
Let’s face it, fear can be a strong motivator.
So often a man will do anything for the woman he wants simply because if he messes up and loses her, he won’t forgive himself.
He thinks about how much he loves her, how good she is for him, and how much he needs her. And so deep down inside, he also fears losing her.
It’s only natural when we have something so good in life, we’ll do anything to make sure we keep it.
So rather than show up with a nonchalant, and half-assed attitude, he’s going to bring everything he has got to the relationship.
10) He sees a real future with her
If a guy thinks it’s for keeps, he’s prepared to make changes to his lifestyle and behavior for the right woman.
After all, she is wifey material, not just a fling.
You can often tell a guy’s intentions based on how well he treats you.
If he doesn’t see it going anywhere and is only on the lookout for a short-term thing, it will usually be reflected in the way he acts.
He won’t prioritize you, he won’t make as much effort for you, and he definitely isn’t going to change for you.
If he sees you in his future he is going to be doing those things.
11) He backs his efforts up with action rather than just words
Change requires action. Men don’t change when they are just all talk.
Talk is a helpful step along the way that shows intention, but it can only be backed up in practical ways. And that involves proving he is changing.
When a man meets the right woman he is prepared to put his money where his mouth is.
So he is way more likely to manage to change, just from the fact he is doing things differently, rather than just saying he will.
At the end of the day, that’s going to be a necessary step in creating real change.
12) Because love is powerful
Most of us already know that love is powerful.
So much so that science has shown how love can protect us from stress and keep us healthy.
Love can make you do crazy things. Love lifts you up. Love even inspires us to be better. The power of love can heal us, repair things, spark growth and encourage change.
Those feel-good hormones that flood us when we fall hard for someone are almost like a drug. We want more.
If a guy meets the right woman and falls for her, you can be sure he wants this feeling to continue.
And so he will work harder to get what he wants — which is her.
13) Commitment feels effortless to him
There’s no denying that being ready for and wanting a serious relationship is a factor in whether it works out.
But “I’m not ready for anything serious” can quickly change when a guy meets the right woman.
I have female friends who have split up with men because “they’re not ready to commit” only for them to walk their very next girlfriend straight down the aisle.
That’s quite the turnaround for a man who isn’t ready for a relationship.
Maybe they changed, but maybe they just met the right woman and that’s why they changed their mind.
When a guy is in love and finds what he is looking for in a woman, he’s less likely to be scared of commitment. Rather than it feeling scary, it comes naturally.
14) Want advice specific to your situation
While this article explores the main reasons why a guy will always change for the right woman, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
Why?
Every man is unique and so is every relationship.
With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…
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They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.
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Well, I reached out to them a few months ago when I was going through a tough patch in my own relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
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15) He is prepared to do whatever is in his power
Change isn’t always difficult. It can come very naturally when someone is already ready to change or when the rewards make it a total no-brainer for them.
But it isn’t always that easy.
Even then though, a man who meets the right woman is going to try to do whatever is in his power to change.
He’ll listen, he’ll open up, he’ll make practical changes. He will agree to get support or go to therapy if it’s needed.
It doesn’t matter if he’s been hurt before or if he has issues with relationships. The point is that he’ll do everything possible to make things better.
Because he knows that if he doesn’t, the stakes are high.
What makes a man change his ways? 5 tips if you want him to change
The good news is that a man certainly can and often does change when he meets the right woman.
But this isn’t a fairytale, and real-life romance does require work.
As I’ve already mentioned, some changes may happen effortlessly without him or you even needing to try. They are just a natural consequence of his strong feelings for you.
But the road is rarely quite so smooth when a guy needs to change.
So what can you do to encourage him? Here are 5 things.
1) Know you cannot force him to change
I know just how frustrating it can be when you love someone and want so desperately for them to change.
You may even put in twice the effort in an attempt to compensate for their apparent lack of effort. You could find yourself pleading with him.
But the real truth is that even when meeting the right woman sparks change in a guy, it still must ultimately come from him.
It is an internal process within him. You cannot do anything to force, threaten or nag him to change.
Yes, you are a team. But his changes are his own responsibility, not yours.
If you repeatedly see the same signs a man will never change over and over again, don’t ignore it and hope for the best.
Knowing when to call it quits relies heavily on knowing you can’t make a guy change when he doesn’t want to.
2) Have fair and realistic expectations
If you are hoping a man will change for the woman he loves, it also matters what exactly you are expecting him to change.
If he’s got a history of cheating, lying, or being flaky, you’re bound to (quite rightly) expect him to change.
But that’s not always the type of change women are looking for.
On the one hand, nobody is perfect, and making a relationship work often requires change on both sides as you grow together and as individuals.
But on the other hand, men are not renovation projects. Don’t think you can get yourself a fixer-upper and simply change any details you don’t like.
If you want him to change what he wears or where he works, because it doesn’t seem good enough for you, that’s an unrealistic expectation.
If he behaves towards you in a way that is below your standards, he is going to have to change to stay in your life. But don’t expect him to have a total makeover in looks and personality just to become the man you want him to be.
3) Acknowledge progress and effort
Many changes might not happen overnight.
Let’s say you want him to open up to you more and express his feelings. The truth is that change takes time. It is gradual progress. This may require some patience.
Try and focus on the positive times where he makes an effort, more than the times where he struggles.
4) Have clear boundaries
Boundaries help to protect you.
They also help you to draw a line in the sand and make it clear what is acceptable and what is unacceptable for you in relationships.
When you set these boundaries, you are setting limits on what you will tolerate from others. This includes your partner.
If you feel he isn’t changing fast enough, or in a way that you need from him, then he needs to know.
What behaviors are total deal breakers for you?
That he is faithful.? That he is respectful? That he commits to the relationship?
When you work out what are your needs and your wants, then you need to communicate your boundaries to him.
And just as importantly, create real consequences if he oversteps them. The sad truth is that people cannot walk all over us if we do not let them.
5) Trigger his hero instinct
By now you should have a better idea of the reasons a man will change for the right woman, and how to encourage him to change.
So the key now is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.
I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.
And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change from as early as today.
With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge, be sure to check out the video now.
Here’s a link to his excellent free video again.
