Have you been thinking about your ex recently?
Maybe you can’t figure out why and you want to know the spiritual significance of it all.
This article will reveal 8 reasons your ex is suddenly on your mind spiritually.
8 reasons your ex is suddenly on your mind spiritually
1) There are soul lessons still to learn
The relationships we create in this life are all about growth.
They help our soul to unravel, evolve and blossom. They serve as our mirrors. When we experience a connection with another person it helps us better understand ourselves.
We see our own fears and triggers reflected back at us through someone else. They highlight the parts of our inner self that still need healing. They bring out the very best and worst in us.
As Miguel Ruiz explains in his spiritual book The Four Agreements, “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
This points to the deeper truth that all of our interactions and relationship with others are always far more about us than they are about the other person.
You may be thinking of your ex because there are deeper lessons still to learn from the relationship.
That might be the emotions that came up for you, or the patterns, destructive habits, or problems that revealed themselves to you. Every relationship holds an opportunity to learn something.
Thinking about your ex may be a call to look for the opportunity for growth so that you can use the experience to help your soul develop further along its path.
People often get the concept of Karma totally wrong.
There is a misconception that it’s about punishment. The saying ‘what goes around, comes around’ certainly does sound like some sort of divine retribution.
But actually, the karma that the Universe dishes out is way more logical and practical than that.
It’s not about doing something bad and being punished for it. It’s more about reaping what we sow. And Karma can be an incredible tool for growth.
As Lachlan Brown explains:
“All these qualities, such as anger, discontent, joy, harmony, etc. can be seen as flowers and the seeds they sprout from.
When we’re born, all these mental qualities and emotions are seeds. Now imagine these seeds resting in the garden of your mind and constantly being either watered or neglected with your intentional thoughts.
Depending on what you do, you’re either watering the bad seeds or watering the good ones. These seeds can eventually grow into flowers, or they can wither and die.
The karmic energy you decide to create around your ex can shape the way you feel about them. Your ex may be on your mind because you are giving them your karmic energy.
Whilst we cannot help having thoughts, we can choose which thoughts we “water” and give our attention to.
3) Because you’re human
I consider myself to be on a spiritual path and it’s an incredibly important part of my life. But here’s something I noticed:
I have to keep reminding myself that I’m still human.
Yes, I believe I have a soul which is eternal. (Whether you prefer to call it consciousness, universal energy, or God.) But we are all still having human experiences.
Sometimes I find myself trying to rise above those experiences — somehow thinking of them as unspiritual.
I think it’s a common problem. It’s easy to fall into the trap of spiritual bypassing. This idea was introduced by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist in the 1980s.
Essentially, it is a “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”.
Thinking about your ex from time to time is totally normal. Whilst we can learn spiritual lessons in life and self-reflect, it’s ok to still feel a wide range of emotions, and experience a wide range of thoughts.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandé. He speaks a lot about the importance of embracing both the light and shade of life and shying away from things like toxic positivity.
Instead, he promotes spiritual empowerment from within.
In this free video, he talks about not suppressing emotions, not judging others, but forming a pure connection with who you are at your core.
I’d recommend checking it out. He busts plenty of spiritual myths.
Click here to watch the free video.
4) You’re still processing your feelings
Breakups take time to heal from. But it’s not like there is a specific amount of time that it takes.
The reality is that you can still be processing the emotional fallout from a split months or even years later. It takes as long as it takes, and it’s not a linear journey, meaning your ex could pop into your mind a long time after you break up.
Did you fully face your emotions at the time of the breakup? Did you allow yourself to experience them rather than try to push them away?
The pain from a breakup means we can try to avoid having to deal with our true feelings. But when we don’t fully process emotions they can come up again.
Maybe you have some forgiving to do? Or there is unresolved anger and sadness that you didn’t process at the time?
If certain emotions have gotten stuck, you may be thinking about your ex now as a spiritual call to heal those past wounds. Doing so will help to release you from any leftover emotions.
5) You’re going through an awakening
Greater introspection and self-reflection often come during a spiritual awakening which can bring up all sorts of things from your past.
You may see things in a new light, or frame things differently with the hindsight these internal shifts bring to you.
Other aspects of a spiritual awakening also can change your relationships with people. You might notice that you:
- Question your relationships with people— both past and present.
- Feel a little lonely, lost and unsure.
- Start to understand the meaning of unconditional love.
All these things might be the reason your ex is suddenly on your mind.
An awakening is a big spiritual shift in your life. So it understandably brings up a lot of thoughts, emotions, and revaluation.
Romance and relationships are so powerful and significant in our lives that for many people they can be the catalyst for awakening.
During a spiritual awakening, you might start to see things more clearly and it may cause you to think about people from your past, like your ex.
6) They were an important part of your soul’s journey
You’ve probably heard of the spiritual practice of non-attachment.
It’s defined as: “the ability to detach yourself from things that control or affect you in a way that’s maladaptive to your wellbeing”
Whilst religions like Buddhism practice non-attachment the reality is that most of us when in relationships do form attachments. And that can be challenging to let go of. Even when you feel like you have moved on.
There can be a misunderstanding about non-attachment. It doesn’t mean suddenly not caring. It simply means recognizing when is the right time to let go.
We can love for a time, honor another soul’s part in our own life, and still release them.
If you feel a connection to your ex still, there is nothing wrong with that. And it doesn’t mean you even want to be with them.
It could be a side effect of the fact that they have been an important part of your soul’s journey and you have fond memories of that time together.
But you might need to check in with yourself and ask whether you have let go of the relationship, or whether an unhealthy attachment is lingering.
7) Your heart feels unfulfilled
Another spiritual reason you may find yourself suddenly thinking of your ex is that you are feeling something lacking in life at the moment.
It may not be about your ex in particular, but more generally that you long for certain things they once brought to your life.
Whether that is love, romance, connection, life lessons, or personal growth.
It is very tempting to look outside of ourselves to feel fulfillment. When something isn’t quite right we look around searching for something to fill that gap.
There’s no doubt that relationships are important to us. But spiritually we should always first look to find that peace and fulfillment from within.
If you have found yourself suddenly thinking about your ex, ask yourself if you feel like something is missing in your life right now.
If so, what can you do for yourself to try to give your heart what it needs?
Learning to care for our own hearts is an important part of our spiritual journey.
8) You and your ex have unfinished business
Your ex may be on your mind because there is something still to resolve between you.
Maybe there were things that have been left unsaid. If so you might want to write a letter to your ex, expressing whatever you need to say to them. Rather than send it, it’s more about giving yourself closure and a voice to your thoughts.
That unfinished business may run deeper. Perhaps you feel as though you are meant to be together? And in your heart, your story is not quite finished.
If your ex springs to mind suddenly and very unexpectedly without warning, this could even be a spiritual sign that they miss you and are thinking of you two.
If your bond is still strong, you may be picking up on their energy.
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