10 things you need to do when a woman gives up on a relationship

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A woman giving up on a relationship is arguably the worst feeling in the world. You feel like you’re not good enough, and it’s hard to see any way out of this situation.

But what do you need to do when your woman gives up on your relationship?

We’ve compiled an extensive listicle with 10 things that will help get your life back on track.

1) Step back and give each other space

If your partner has decided to give up on the relationship, they need time and space to process their feelings. So do you.

This can be a good time to reflect on your issues, what went wrong, and whether there’s anything that can be salvaged.

Why give her space?

When a woman says she’s given up on a relationship, that’s huge. It’s not a decision she’s likely to take lightly, so it’s important that you respect her feelings and take the initiative to give her the time she needs.

If you don’t respect her, there’s a good chance things will only get worse. And who wants that?

When it comes to giving her space, it’s important to be gentle. Tread softly and never take this as an opportunity to put pressure on her.

If you act like she doesn’t matter or that you’re fine with the breakup (even if you think it will help things move along – because they won’t), then don’t be surprised when she acts the same way.

You may not want to hear it, but giving her space is a necessary step in moving forward. And giving yourself some time and space will help you deal with what has happened so that when your paths do cross again, things can be different.

This doesn’t mean you have to disappear from each others’ lives; it means taking a step back and giving each other some breathing room.

If you force the issue, it may push her further away and make it harder for her to come back around.

Do you need space, too?

Of course, you need to take time out of your relationship to think things through.

Let me tell you, it can be challenging. Why?

That’s because you have low EQ and you want your questions answered right away. But if you’re really serious about salvaging what relationship you have left with your woman, then you must take some time to yourself and figure out how you can be a better person for her.

Consider the following:

  • don’t put pressure on her or try to convince her to change her mind.
  • keep communication minimal until she’s ready to start talking again
  • let her know that you’re there for her if she needs to talk, but don’t push it.
  • don’t contact her unless she contacts you.

Believe me, it’s not going to be easy. But this will be a great time to get some clarity about what went wrong in your relationship, whether there’s anything that can be done to fix things and how much effort would be required from you.

But let’s suppose she’s moved out. What then?

It doesn’t matter where she lives or who initiated the breakup.

What matters is giving her the space she needs to get over you, heal and move on with her life.

This will allow her to gather her thoughts and sort through what happened in giving up on the relationship without any pressure or nagging from you about how things could be different if only they tried harder.

If you want your relationship back, then it’s time that you start making real changes with yourself. This will show her how much effort you’re willing to put into changing things between the two of you.

The space between

Taking a breather is the key to giving your relationship a chance to heal.

While it’s hard to be apart when you’re in love, giving your relationship space will allow both of you to gather your thoughts and miss each other.

It also gives you a chance to work on yourself and make the necessary changes that your woman has been asking for.

This way, when you finally come back together, it’ll be as if you’ve never been apart.

2) Have a heart-to-heart talk

When you’re in a relationship with someone, it can be hard to talk about the things that make you feel uncomfortable or angry. You worry what their reaction will be if you voice your concerns.

Oftentimes, you tend to ignore these problems until they explode into an argument, or worse, give up on your relationship.

So when your woman gives up on your relationship, find time to have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Muster up the courage to open up and talk about your problems.

Speak up

By giving up on your relationship, she has shown that she doesn’t care about what you have to say or how you feel anymore. So it’s time for her to listen and hear your side of the story as well.

This is the perfect time to make use of your communication skills!

Just remember not to be accusatory when talking things through with her. Instead, state facts and don’t get emotional about what you have to say.

If done the right way, this conversation may give your relationship a second chance and avoid giving up on each other forever.

Be all ears with her

It’s not enough for you to talk about your feelings and what you think is wrong with your relationship. Your partner should also have a chance to voice out her concerns, too.

Be all ears about what’s going through her mind because giving up usually means there are a lot of things that need to be addressed before anything can happen between the two of you.

Remember to listen and see it from their perspective.

Don’t get defensive when she talks about her feelings. Try to understand where your woman’s coming from with what she has to say.

This will serve as a big step forward in giving the relationship another chance even if things don’t work out between you two after all that’s been said and done.

No resentment, and be honest

After all, that’s been said, if you feel you still want to make things work, let her know. Ask what you can do to improve things to have a better and healthy relationship. If she doesn’t provide any answers, be open to taking suggestions from her.

This way, you’ll show her that you’re serious about making things work and not giving up on your relationship without a fight.

However, if she insists that it’s over, then so be it. Don’t force the issue and be prepared to let her go.

It’s better to be honest with each other and end things on good terms instead of dragging out the goodbye.

3) Don’t go on a rebound relationship

Let’s face it: rebound relationships are the easy way out when a woman gives up on a relationship. It’s a way to distract yourself from the pain of the breakup and convince yourself that you’re moving on.

But rebound relationships rarely work out in the long run, and they often just lead to more heartbreak.

You’ll get hurt more than you already are.

Keep in mind that rebound relationships are usually shallow and meaningless. They’re a third party with a lack of commitment who’s only there to fill the space that your ex left behind.

You’re not giving yourself time to heal; you’re giving in to the temptation of a distraction, which is easy but painful at the same time.

Whether or not you’re considering winning back your woman, resist the temptation to jump into a rebound relationship. It’ll only make things worse in the end.

So what should you do instead?

Give yourself some space, tell your partner that her decision doesn’t bother you (even if it does), and focus on moving on.

It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.

4) Lean on close family and friends for support

Being rejected isn’t easy, especially if it’s by someone you love. It can be a painful experience and it can lead to a lot of negative emotions.

And truth be told, you can’t deal with heartbreak on your own.

So when your partner gives up on your relationship, reach out to your close family and friends who you can lean on for support. They’ll be there to listen and help you get through this heartache.

They will be there to comfort you, listen to your stories, and give you the necessary support that you need. You may think you won’t need it, but little do you know that talking to loved ones can uplift your spirits and make you feel a lot better.

Remember, it’s okay to cry and feel sad. You’re human and you have the right to feel how you want to feel.

Your mental health is of utmost importance here.

You’ll be able to deal with the situation better when they are giving you their undivided attention, which is why it’s important for you to be around people who know you and who can show you kindness to help you through this tough time.

You mustn’t shut people out. If you do, it’ll only make the healing process much harder and longer than it needs to be.

Let them be there for you. Allow them to be your walls. You won’t regret it.

5) Get up and exercise

I know what you may be thinking. Why would you make an effort to get up and exercise when you’re feeling down?

When a woman gives up on a relationship, it can really knock the wind out of your sails. You may feel like giving up on yourself.

But don’t give in to those negative thoughts.

Instead, get up and exercise. It’ll help put some pep in your step and make you feel better overall. Plus, it’s a great way to distract yourself from what’s going on.

Exercise releases endorphins, which will make you feel better overall. It also increases your levels of the hormone serotonin, which can help improve your mood.

So go for a run, take a yoga class, or head to the gym. It’ll help take your mind off of things for a little while.

Now, if you don’t feel like going to the gym or working out at home, try taking a walk or going for a run outside. The fresh air will do you good.

If all else fails, put on some headphones and blast your favorite songs. It’ll help get your energy up and make you feel better in no time.

Don’t give in to indifference and negativity.

Just get up, get out there and start moving. You’ll be glad you did.

6) Distract yourself with activities that you enjoy

As if learning about your significant other giving up on your relationship is distracting enough,   the days following will be just as tough. You’ll likely feel a range of emotions, ranging from confusion to sadness and even anger.

You’ll also feel like giving up your hobbies, interests, and friends to spend time thinking about what went wrong with the relationship you were in.

To make it through this difficult time, you must have healthy distractions in place.

This could involve burying yourself in your work, catching up on your reading list, or spending more time with friends and family.

You could also consider giving yourself a break from technology like email and Facebook and getting outdoors, or participating in some activities that you enjoy, but have been neglecting.

Rebuild that emotional connection with yourself. Think of those happy moments as fuel for building a strong relationship with yourself again.

These distractions will help to keep you grounded and take your mind off of things for a little while.

7) Journal your thoughts and feelings

When a woman gives up on a relationship, it can be a challenge to process your thoughts and feelings about it. When she gives up on you, it can feel like the world has ended.

What should I do? How will I survive without her? Will there ever be someone else who loves me this much again?

These are all common thoughts that go through a man’s head after his woman walks out on him – but these thoughts also only serve to make things worse.

Instead of thinking about what you can do, think about what you shouldn’t be doing.

The last thing that you need when your woman gives up on your relationship is an audience for your thoughts and feelings. In other words, it may be the wrong time to ‘cry your eyes out, or dwell on all the things you did wrong.

So what can you do? Try journaling.

Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you process the breakup. It can be a great way to get clarity on your situation and help you to identify any disagreements, red flags, and patterns that may have led to the breakup.

You might find that you’re not giving up, but rather, giving yourself time to figure out what’s important in your life and how you want things to change.

If you aren’t too keen on writing, opt to record yourself. Either way, it can be very therapeutic to get your thoughts and feelings out in the open.

8) Be proactive in meeting new people and socializing more

If you’ve been dating a woman for a long time, your worlds tend to overlap and have this union of sorts. But, when things go south and she’s given up on your relationship, your worlds can come crashing back down.

It may seem like an exaggeration, but it’s actually one of the most difficult things to go through.

Suddenly, that social life you once shared is no longer there and it can be tough to find new friends who understand what you’re going through.

That’s why it’s important to be proactive in building your own social circle outside of the one you had with your partner.

Whether it means joining a club or activity or just giving yourself the opportunity to meet new people, you need to make it a priority.

When you branch out and make new friends, it’ll help keep your mind off of your partner giving up on the relationship. It also keeps you busy so that when she leaves for good, you won’t have time to mope around about what went wrong or feel sorry for yourself.

Don’t hole yourself up in your apartment and avoid socializing. Get out there, meet new people, and enjoy life!

This will help keep your spirits high and remind you that there are other fish in the sea.

9) Don’t give up on your goals and dreams

Heartache can bring you down when a woman gives up on you. You may decide to give up on your goals and dreams because of the emotional pain that giving her space is causing you.

Be strong, don’t let this happen!

Stay focused – don’t allow yourself to become self pitying or depressed over what happened in the past.

You see, it’s easy to get caught up in all of the bad feelings associated with a breakup, but giving up on your goals will only make things worse.

Even if you feel like giving up, don’t do it! No matter what happened in your past relationship, you deserve to be happy in life.

So keep working towards the things that make you a better person.

Make a list of things you want to do in the next year. Include both big and small goals, such as traveling to a new destination or learning how to cook a new dish.

Remind yourself of your worth.

A woman giving up on you is not an indication that you’re a bad person – remember this!

10) Seek professional help

If you’re having a difficult time dealing with the rejection yourself, it might be a good idea to seek professional help. There are many therapists out there who can help you get through this tough time.

Go to therapy if you need it. It’s a good idea for anyone going through heartbreak, but especially so if your partner was the person you turned to when things got rough and she’s no longer in your life.

With an impartial person around, the sessions you attend can help prepare you for future relationships and teach you how not to get hurt again.

But if you feel that therapy may not be for you, why not do something a little different?

There’s a masterclass conducted by world-renowned Shaman and healer, Rudá Iandê.  Here, you’ll learn more about yourself through the discovery of relationships, love, and intimacy.

Check out this video to learn more about the masterclass.

At the end of the day, choose to love yourself

It may sound cliché, but it’s the only thing that will truly save you in this and every other situation when giving up on a relationship.

This period will be hard, but it’s important to remember that you’ll get through this. With time and the right support, you can rebuild your life and find happiness once again.

Don’t try to keep your woman from leaving by engaging in arguments or fights with her. Instead, ask for forgiveness.

Once you’ve accepted that the relationship is over, it’s time to take some time for yourself. Don’t jump into another relationship right away; give yourself some time to heal first.

Take this opportunity to reflect on what went wrong in your last relationship and learn from your mistakes. Could it be because of lack of communication, lack of respect or lack of trust?

Acceptance is key. More importantly, you should also forgive yourself.

Remember that giving up on a relationship doesn’t make you any less of an amazing person!

With time and effort, you’ll be back on your feet in no time.

Frankie Pascua-dela Pasion

Frankie was born and raised in Manila, Philippines. She is a graduate of Humanities from the University of Asia and the Pacific.

Frankie is a seasoned Customer Success and Human Resources professional. She is also a certified Life Coach and Career Strategist. She helps people young and young at heart to simplify their lives by creating emotional awareness. She also loves working with people who have a genuine interest in breaking their inner limits through their journey of self-discovery and authenticity in their personal and professional lives.

Frankie’s recent venture into writing is fueled by her passion for human connection and meaningful relationships at home, at work, and basically everywhere. She enjoys the research, discovery, and reflection that go into each article as much as she writes about them, in the hopes that her words resonate with, and give perspective to her audience.

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