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12 things it means when you feel comfortable with someone right away

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Have you ever felt that natural comfort around someone you have met only for a short period of time?

You may even be surprised at how quickly you have grown close with that person.

Every moment spent with them feels like you’re at home and you feel safe around them.

But have you ever stopped and wondered what these feelings mean?

We’re here to answer that question for you by pointing out what it means when you’re feeling comfortable with someone right away:

1) You’re Naturally Compatible

Being comfortable and relaxed around them could be a sign that the two of you are naturally compatible.

This could mean anything from having shared interests to a deep mutual affection for each other.

The time you spend with them could feel like a dream and you organically vibe together.

From the cute nicknames and laughs to the quirky giggles that you share, everything just makes sense when they’re around you.

Feeling comfortable means that you feel like you belong with them.

It also means that you cherish the time you spend with them and that you’re creating the memories that matter when you’re with them.

2) They Make You Feel Valued and Adored

Feeling comfortable with someone in a short span of time could also mean that you feel valued and adored by them.

You like the way that they look at you and you know in your heart that they value you for who you are.

They admire your intellect, your kindness, and your personality and you feel the exact same way about them.

It means that you have fond feelings for someone that you never knew that you had before.

When you know that you’re being valued for your worth, then it becomes easier to grow comfy in the shade of their company.

It could be a sign of a long-lasting friendship or relationship that will fill you with a great deal of happiness.

3) You May Have a Soulful Connection With Them

It’s not every day that you find someone with whom you not only love spending time with but you cherish them as a person.

If you find yourself comfortable around them it could mean that you share a bond that’s special and meaningful.

This could be completing each other’s sentences or having eyes meet with an understanding without a word being said.

We often feel comfortable around those with whom we feel in sync and connected.

The smallest things about them have deepened your connection with them and the two of you have become inseparable in the short time you have known them.

It could be a sign of special things to come between the two of you.

4) The Man Probably Wants to Protect You

When a woman feels comfortable with a man, it is usually because the man will step up to the plate for his woman without hesitation.

He’ll provide for her and protect her against any threats, both small and big.

Equally, a woman will do the same for her man.

However, there’s actually a new theory in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment. And it claims that men in particular have a biological drive to step up for the woman in his life and be her everyday hero.

It’s called the hero instinct.

A man wants to see himself as a hero, as someone his partner genuinely wants and needs to have around — not as a mere accessory, “best friend”, or “partner in crime”.

And the kicker?

Feeling comfortable with someone right away is impossible without it.

I know it sounds a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

And I couldn’t agree more.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to feel like a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like one.

How do you go about it?

In an authentic way, you have to find ways to make him feel like your hero. Because there are words you can use, phrases you can say, and little requests you can make to trigger his hero instinct.

The best way to learn about these is to watch this free online video. You’ll learn the little things you can do starting today to trigger this very natural male instinct.

Some ideas really are life-changing. And for developing a deep connection, I think this is one of them.

Here’s a link to the excellent free video again.

5) They Make You Feel Safe

With great security comes great ease and comfort.

If you feel at ease and know that you’re in safe hands when you’re with them, it makes you cherish their company even more than otherwise.

This feeling of safety and security could mean that you aren’t afraid to show the quirkiest aspects of your life.

It could also mean that you feel like your natural self around them.

This could also reflect in the way you dress, the way you think, and the energy you spend being self-conscious around them.

If you have barely known them for a long time but feel safe enough to think about loving them without a thought in the world.

6) You Have Found Happiness in Them

Being in a relationship can be fun, but feeling happy and comfortable is just as important. Both happiness and comfort go hand in hand.

We tend to feel blissful and happy when we’re with people we’re the most comfortable around.

The sense of comfort could also stem from a recurring sense of happiness and positive vibe they have imparted in your life.

It’s that little extra spring in your step when you see them that can lead to you getting more comfortable around them.

Observing what a relationship brings out in you and in your life can be a useful indicator of the level of comfort you feel around them.

We often feel happier and healthier when we’re in relationships with people with whom we’re comfortable with.

They may even make you question why you settled for less before.

7) You Trust Them and Know They Won’t Judge You

Comfort often comes when you trust a person enough to know that you’re safe and will never be judged by them.

It means that you’re ready to open up the darkest sides of yourself without feeling embarrassed or scared.

Deep in your heart, you know that they offer a safe space where you can tell them a secret or talk about anything under the sun.

Trust could also be seen in the form of shared possessions.

They may let you go through their phone and you may trust them enough to do the same.

Apart from trusting that they won’t judge, comfort can also come from their trust in your judgment.

You can go to them with the wildest ideas and they’ll be supportive of them if you’re passionate about it.

8) They’re Making You Feel Empowered

It’s difficult to feel comfortable or peaceful around people who tear us down.

We tend to feel comfortable around those who not only support you but also empower you.

It could mean that you’re no longer threatened by the problems in your life when you’re around them.

They have made you feel like you’re strong enough to take on any challenge or obstacle together as a team.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t know what lies ahead for the two of you, but you know that you will be able to deal with it when you cross that bridge.

This level of comfort comes when they share your dreams, goals, and ambitions.

You know that with them by your side, there’s nothing you have to be worried about.

9) They Don’t Pressure You to Be Someone Else

Feeling accepted can provide a great deal of comfort and happiness.

If you haven’t known them for too long, but still feel extremely comfortable around them then it may be because they accept you for who you’re.

You don’t feel pressured to be someone you’re not with them and they embrace you as a whole.

They know that you have flaws just like any other human and don’t hold them against you.

You know that the time you spend with them is special because they see the real you and love you nonetheless.

They don’t hold you to an unattainable standard or all kinds of expectations so you feel safe knowing that you could never truly disappoint them.

10) They May Not Be the One if You Feel Too Comfortable

It can be an amazing feeling to feel relaxed and comfortable in their presence. But feeling too comfortable isn’t a great sign either.

It could mean that you view them more as a companion and friend than as a romantic partner.

It could also mean that you may start taking their presence in your life for granted.

If you feel way too comfortable around them, chances are that you don’t feel even the slightest pressure to impress them.

While they can be a great buddy to hang with, it may not end up great if they have feelings for you.

You want to reach the stage where you’re not worrying about minor things, but you also want to ensure that you’re aware of how your partner feels and that you’re not neglecting their priorities and sentiments.

11) You Feel Like You Can Talk About Anything With Them

Are they the first person you rush to talk to about the latest updates of your life?

This means that you feel extremely comfortable about sharing your life with them and want to let them into every aspect of your life.

They aren’t afraid to have opinions that contradict your own and this allows the two of you to have deep, meaningful conversations.

Feeling comfortable means a mutual understanding and valuing each other’s opinions. It can translate into how you think and view them in your life.

They may be the first person that pops into your head whenever something exciting comes your way.

You may even feel a great desire to tell them every little insignificant detail just because you relish their company.

12) They Have Already Opened Themselves Up to You

Feeling comfortable is often a reflection of how they feel around you.

It’s highly possible that they have already let you into their life and have prioritized you more often than not.

They trust you enough to know that the bond you share is special and aren’t afraid to show how they feel.

They not only value your feelings but also reciprocate them.

If you feel comfortable and still have feelings for them, then it means that the partnership is being nourished by equal efforts from both of you.

This is a great indication that the two of you could really be meant for each other and a fairytale ending may lie down the road.

Holding onto this connection

As I mentioned in the post, you can’t have this connection without triggering his hero instinct. That’s what binds you two together.

By tapping into his biological drive to step up for you and be your everyday hero, you’re not only forming that spiritual connection, but you’re also cementing your relationship for years to come.

It’s a bond that won’t be broken.

Both of you will be drawn to each other on a whole new spiritual level.

The best thing you can do for your relationship is to watch this free online video. Relationship expert James Bauer, who first coined the term hero instinct, explains exactly what it is and how you can trigger it in your man.

Some ideas really are life-changing. And for relationships, this is one of them.

By triggering this instinct in your partner, you will notice your spiritual connection will deepen on a whole new level you never thought possible.

Click here to watch the excellent free video.

 

Putting yourself first

Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.

What’s your number one goal at the moment?

Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?

To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?

Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?

Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.

And even then…plans fail.

But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…

No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.

I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.

Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.

She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.

Click here to find out more about Life Journal.

So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.

How much do you want it?

Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?

If so, check out the workshop here.

If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!

All the best,
Lachlan

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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