Move over Alpha male, the Sigma female is making a splash in pop culture.
For years, terms have been floating around to describe pack classification in guys.
You’re probably pretty familiar with many of them.
They include not only the alpha male, who is seen as more dominant and assertive but also the beta male who takes a more passive and cooperative approach.
But you might not realize that the same idea also works for women.
In this article, we’ll look at what a sigma female is and reveal some hidden facts.
What is a Sigma female?
Just like their male counterparts (the sigma male) sigma females are assertive and independent.
They can be seen as rebels. But that’s just because they don’t follow the crowd.
Rather than be preoccupied with what others think of her, she prefers to carve her own path in life.
Perhaps if there were one quote that summed up the sigma female in a nutshell it would be:
“Be yourself, everyone else is taken”
— Oscar Wilde
Enigmatic and often misunderstood, here’s what you need to know about the world of a sigma female…
10 fascinating facts about the sigma female
1) She’s viewed as a lone wolf
Independence in general can be misunderstood.
A sigma female is capable and can stand on her own two feet.
At times this can be misunderstood as anti-social.
But it’s not about turning her back on society and her fellow man. It’s more that she is highly self-reliant.
She genuinely enjoys her own company. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t get a kick out of socializing too.
She is at peace when she is alone, and this points to the real strength of her character.
No one could accuse the sigma female of being needy or clingy, that’s for sure.
One of the reasons time alone can be so good is that it helps you develop a better understanding of who you are.
Something the sigma female has a good grasp of.
2) She has plenty of self-awareness
Here’s the thing:
Anyone who has a tendency to go it alone needs to become better acquainted with themselves.
In fact, with all that time alone it often happens without even trying. And that can do wonders for personal growth.
You have the time to truly see yourself — including your flaws as well as your strengths.
So it’s perhaps unsurprising that sigma females are often highly committed to their own personal development.
They prefer to take a growth mindset.
They believe that they can learn anything they need — another sign of their independent streak.
They need this powerful inner work in order to stay true to themselves, in a world that tries to bend us to conformity.
Arguably, it’s being so well-rounded that makes the sigma female so incredibly rare.
3) Sigma females are considered rare
Of all the personality archetypes, sigmas are largely regarded as the most rare.
So if you know a sigma female, or are one yourself, you’re part of an exclusive club.
Why are sigma females so rare?
Well, as I just explained it takes plenty of self-awareness to hone the strong skills of a sigma.
It also brings together a unique set of traits. These mix of qualities combined are simply not very commonplace.
Let’s face it:
There aren’t many people who dare to stand up for themselves or who aren’t terrified of the judgment of others.
Very few of us have the courage to dance to the beat of our own drum.
4) She can seem mysterious
Anything we don’t truly understand in life can be fascinating.
And it makes sense that somebody who has a tendency to withdraw inspires intrigue.
It leads to speculation whenever we cannot get a glimpse into someone else’s life.
We wonder about what happens behind closed doors.
When we can’t quite get a read on someone, it’s like a puzzle we want to solve.
This is why the sigma female often feels mysterious to the onlookers in her life.
The solitary side of her brings lots of unanswered questions that can captivate anyone trying to get to the bottom of what makes her tick.
Her, at times, standoffish or elusive ways only serve to fuel the mystery.
Perhaps the sigma feels like the ultimate rubik’s cube.
5) She has no interest in leading
Don’t make this common mistake about the sigma female:
Just because she isn’t a follower, that doesn’t mean she wants to take over.
In fact, unlike the alpha, the sigma isn’t very interested in the thought of being the leader of the gang.
She’d rather not get that involved.
She’s perfectly happy doing her own thang.
Perhaps one of the reasons people might assume sigmas are leaders is because of their feisty nature.
Because as we’ll see next, she’s not afraid to butt heads when needed.
6) She isn’t afraid to stand up for herself, and others
Assertive does not mean bossy.
Arguably that’s a label many a strong woman has had to overcome within a patriarchal society.
Because gone are the days when women are expected to be ‘sugar and spice and all things nice’.
When it comes to sticking up for what she believes in, the sigma female is more than capable of standing her ground.
She’ll also extend this strength to those around her who she cares about (because as we’ll come to see, she’s a loyal type of woman).
She simply has clear and healthy boundaries.
So whilst she doesn’t particularly go in all guns blazing, she isn’t going to be walked all over, that’s for sure.
But sadly, there are always going to be those who see this fire burning within the sigma female and find it threatening.
7) She has the power to intimidate
Not everyone can handle a strong independent woman.
But hey, that’s their problem.
And the sigma female isn’t going to bow down to pressure to dim her light, simply because it shines too brightly for some.
Although she tends not to be as outspoken as her alpha sisters, as we’ve just seen that doesn’t mean she is afraid of conflict.
Part of the reason some may find her intimidating is probably because of a tendency to be scared of anything—or anyone— we don’t fully understand.
And as we’ve already said, the sigma female can feel challenging to get a read on.
Plus her detached nature can also make her seem frosty or aloof at times.
Combine this with the fact that she isn’t afraid to break with social norms. Then you can probably see why some people find her a little unnerving and out of their own comfort zone.
8) She doesn’t like to judge
If you’re looking for someone to tell your deepest darkest secrets to, then a sigma female should be your first call.
And no, not just because her inclination for solitude means it’s less likely she’ll reveal them to others.
But because sigma females are very non-judgmental by nature.
They are open-minded and think for themselves.
That often means putting aside social conventions and what’s “normal” in order to see beyond what’s expected.
Rather than be quick to judge the book by its cover, sigmas prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt.
After all, their own self-exploration has taught them that people are complex and nothing is simply black or white.
Sigma females inhabit the gray area themselves, so they certainly don’t like to judge any other potential outliers.
9) She is fiercely loyal
You might be surprised to find out that loyalty is one of the defining characteristics of the sigma female.
After all, we’ve spoken a lot about her independence and solitude.
So you’d be forgiven for painting a mental picture of the “lone wolf” sigma as turning her back on relationships.
But nothing could be further from the truth.
Think of it this way:
It’s all about quality over quantity for the sigma female when it comes to connections.
She may take some time to fully open up and trust. But when she does, she is never going to betray you.
She’s not counting how many followers she has on social media. She is looking for a deeper bond.
So the sigma female very much values close relationships. She’s just choosey about who she lets into her life, that’s all.
10) She’s authentic
Earlier we spoke about how rare the sigma female is.
Well, I think another reason for that is her striking authenticity.
So many of us go around in life wearing masks.
We’re afraid to show people the real us, in case we are rejected. It’s understandable, nobody seeks to be disliked.
But because the sigma female is more concerned with staying true to herself than winning popularity contests, this helps her to be original.
Rather than desperately wanting to fit in, she shows up exactly as who she is —warts and all.
This type of vulnerability is pretty badass.
At the end of her life, at least a sigma female can turn around and say that she lived her life by her own rules.
A true rebel to the end!
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