BY Pearl Nash
Relationships are about teamwork. You should feel like you have someone on your side, and by your side to do life with.
Your relationship could be toxic if you struggle to speak to one another with respect, kindness, and decency.
Suspicion and mistrust can quickly rot a relationship.
For example, if they seem envious or even bitter when good things happen to you.
You’re worried about raising your concerns because you don’t want the arguments.
It’s an underlying sign of toxicity in a relationship if you cannot be fundamentally honest with one another.
You may feel like you’ve started to lose sight of yourself. Perhaps so much so that sometimes you feel like a different person.
Maybe your partner used to get moody when you went to see friends. Or they felt jealous at how close you were to a family member.
You can’t go anywhere without being constantly asked what you are doing or who you are with.
If grudges get held they can eat away at the goodwill in your relationship.
We all know how important respect is in building solid relationships, but we don’t always know how to identify its absence.
We all take different approaches when handling things. And for some of us, that approach is hiding from difficulties.
It never feels like an easy ride. There is always a new challenge, new obstacle, or new problem heading your way.
You know you want this to be over with, but you feel stuck and don’t know how to break the pattern.
You cling to the past, the fun times, and the connection you once felt. You wonder if you can make a change in order to get back to that place.
Healing can only begin when you feel ready to face the truth.
You can explore your feelings more by writing them down.
In order to envisage a positive and happy life you need to rebuild your confidence.
The truth is that showing yourself love is a habit you can cultivate. So be your own source of strength and admiration.
Whatever affirmations you chose, simply reach for the better feeling to know if you are on the right track.
Be mindful of negative thoughts, because these so often turn into negative stories.
Letting go of all your own perceived imperfections. And learning to accept what has happened has already passed. You cannot change it now.
Treat yourself in whatever way feels good.
The better understanding you have of yourself, and what love means to you, the easier it is to break free of these destructive patterns.
Give yourself time to rest, and let the emotions come and go as they need to.