Some people say that men are simple creatures—and there’s at least a kernel of truth to that. Really, it’s not all that complicated to make your husband feel loved and appreciated.
You’ve probably been with your husband for several years already (if not decades!), so we know it can be tempting to take it easy on your efforts to romance him.
However, the key to a happy marriage is to never take it for granted. You need to constantly be putting effort into your relationship, even after you’ve tied the knot.
Treat your husband like a king every single day and he’ll surely treat you like a queen in return.
Here are the 20 essential things you need to be consistently doing to make him feel like a king
1) Show appreciation for the things he does for you and your family
Many men have internalized the message that they need to be the rock for the entire family. So make sure to show explicit appreciation for all the effort he puts in to make your life as a family and as a couple better.
After all, due to the stress and bustle of everyday life, we can get irritable and end up criticizing instead of showing gratitude.
If this is a habit of yours, do your best to stop. Nothing feels worse for a man than when his work goes unnoticed and unappreciated.
He will surely feel insecure and inadequate whenever this happens.
No one is perfect, including him, but he’s most likely trying his best. Be supportive and understanding by telling him how thankful you are for all that he’s doing.
By doing so, he will feel loved, valuable, and energized, and will then strive even more to be a good and loving husband.
2) Don’t cross hisboundaries
Everyone has boundaries, even in a relationship as intimate as marriage.
You wouldn’t want him to pressure or force you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, right?
Make sure you do the same for him. If not, then this will surely lead to arguments and just general tension.
Even if you feel the need to argue, however, love is not about winning arguments against each other. It’s about making each other happy.
Honor his individuality and learn to accept when he says no.
Respecting his privacy is a quintessential example of this. Whenever you demand that he should tell you everything, he feels that you don’t trust him.
This stings, especially since it’s coming from the woman who is supposed to love them the most.
As much as you love each other, it’s often still best to let each other do their own thing.
Learn to maintain distance with the things better left to himself. Learn how to support him in a way that makes him feel respected too.
Both men and women have the right to have boundaries. Respecting each other’s boundaries is essential to a harmonious relationship.
3) Make him feel like a hero around you
Triggering the man’s hero instinct is one of the most powerful techniques to make him feel like a king.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12-word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
4) Praise him in front of other people
Men are suckers for compliments. It makes them feel appreciated and boosts their self-esteem.
What’s even better though? Getting praised when he’s with other people, especially people important to him like his friends and family.
Of course, don’t do it in such a way that makes it seem like you’re just seeking attention. Don’t go a drunken ramble praising him for over an hour too or else you’ll end up embarrassing both of you.
Keep it sweet and simple and just let people know how happy you are in the marriage. Tell them about the things he does for you and the family and it’ll make his day—if not the entire week.
5) Be independent without being bossy
No one wants to be someone bossy and overbearing. Being overly obedient and submissive isn’t great either.
What most men want is a woman who is well-adjusted and strikes the perfect balance between these two extremes.
Remember that your husband loves you for you. He admires your individuality—so be confident and independent!
However, that is entirely different from being bossy, overbearing, or domineering.
You’re partners and lovers, not each other’s slaves.
6) Be the one to initiate sex
Traditionally, the role of initiator has been assigned to men, both inside and outside the bedroom.
Yet there are tons of men out there who complain that they feel like they need to always be the one initiating sex.
If he has always been the one coming to you for sex, it will come to a point where he might doubt your desire for him. It’ll make him feel like a creep and that you’re only having sex with him to please him instead of actually wanting to make love to him.
Screw the norms!
Take note of not only what he likes in the bedroom, but also the things that get him in the mood. Then, use this knowledge to romance and seduce him with your words and actions.
If he’s usually playing the dominant role in the bedroom, try to switch it up. Be a woman who knows what she wants and actually tries to get it.
That confidence will make you seem extremely attractive and he will be downright obsessed with you.
7) Have a cordial relationship with his family
You can’t claim that you’re treating him like a queen if you’re not treating his family like a royal family.
Showing respect to his family doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll bend over and back just to appease their every whim.
Simply be on genuinely good terms with them and treat them the way you’d treat your own family.
There’s a fair chance that you might exactly be compatible with his family, but do your best to be open-minded and respectful.
Intimacy with them isn’t needed—cordiality is more than enough.
Having a harmonious relationship with his family will save you a lot of conflict in the long run.
8) Prioritize him
Daily life is filled with stressors and responsibilities. We can often forget to prioritize our spouses—arguably the most important people in our lives!
Taking your husband for granted is a surefire way for a lackluster if not failed marriage. If your man feels like you’re putting your career, friends, or other things above him all the time, then you’re putting a lot of strain on your bond.
Make time and put effort into actively loving your husband. Keep the romance alive. Be supportive when he needs you. You’re his life partner after all!
If you make him a priority, you’ll remind him just how much you love him.
This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, he’s more likely to feel like a king around his woman.
And the best part is, triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.
You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
9) Genuinely and lovingly listen to him
It’s often women who are stereotyped as being talkative, but men love talking about themselves just as much. Everyone wants to brag about accomplishments or feels the need to confide in a trusted person about a problem.
How you listen and respond to him is reflective of your overall relationship.
Nothing is more disheartening than seeing the person you love the most not be listening or not care about the things you share with them.
Remember that listening and hearing are two completely different things.
Also, understand that listening isn’t just about hearing what he says. He can tell if the things he says simply go in one ear and out the other.
Do you roll your eyes or offer support when he’s opening up about a problem?
Do you ask questions to learn more about what he’s talking about or are you rolling your eyes impatiently?
Not listening to him genuinely will make him feel disrespected and loved and it’ll hurt more since it’s coming from his very wife.
He will most definitely not feel like a king if he feels that the things he says are worthless.
Be attentive. Show that you care.
10) Ask him for his opinions
One of the best ways to make your husband feel like you hold him in high regard is by asking him his opinion on things, especially on important matters.
It shows that you trust and respect your judgment—even if you might not fully agree with it all the time.
In the times you disagree, make sure to still respect his opinion. Ask him to elaborate too so you can show him that you still want to learn more about his point of view despite the disagreement.
In turn, share your honest opinions when he asks you to. This will create deep, meaningful conversations that will stimulate you intellectually and also bond you emotionally.
For example, if you’re about to make a big decision, ask him for his input even if he might not be directly involved in it.
He will give you genuine advice because he cares about you as his wife. He might also suggest a new way of thinking about things that you haven’t considered before.
Do this often and your husband will feel not just respected, but also deeply trusted.
11) Show him that you want him no matter what
There are different ways to treat your husband like a king. While some of them are cheezy and fun, others show a deeper commitment and effort that you make.
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Show your husband that even if you have some difficulties in your relationship, you don’t want anyone else, but him. Because he’s your king.
12) Treat him from time to time
Who doesn’t like getting treated?
Getting a nice surprise from someone you love—no one will ever say no to that.
It doesn’t even have to be something super special. For example, even something as simple as cooking him one of his favorite means after a hard day at work will put a giant smile on his face.
Whenever you treat him, you show that you always have his happiness in mind. By doing this regularly, you’re filling your marriage with little joys that will help you grow even closer together.
If he’s truly your king, then you should be pampering him!
13) Understand the hardships of his job
Men are expected to work their butts off for their families, but the truth is many jobs out there simply suck. It’s no wonder then that many men out there feel frustrated about their jobs.
Their jobs either do not value their abilities, stress them out way too much, or are not compensating them enough for their work—often it’s a mix of all these.
In line with our first point, this is one of the main reasons why it’s absolutely crucial to always show your appreciation for his hard work. He is probably already having a hard time out at work, make sure he feels supported and has a good time at home.
Ask him about his job and try to understand its ins and outs. Always ask him how his workday went. Ask him to share stories about his coworkers.
It shows that you care and that you’re empathetic to how tough it can be.
Most importantly, avoid insulting his job when you’re in a fight. Such words can cut particularly deep for a man, especially since he is working for you and the family.
14) Be his number 1 supporter
If you’re his wife, then you should know about the personal goals he has set for himself.
However, some men are more private than others, so pay attention to the things he devotes his time and effort to.
Whether it’s getting a promotion, pursuing higher education, getting back into sports, or even just trying out gardening, make sure to let him know that you share in his passion and that you’re there to help him reach his goals.
Attend company dinners, attend his games, help him with the enrollment process, and ask him to geek out about his newfound passion. Show your support through actions and not just words.
He has dreams and as his wife, he wants you by his side as he makes his way there.
15) Compliment everything about him
In addition to appreciating his work, make sure you show him that you love him inside and out.
Complement his appearance. Tell him how handsome he is. Tell him how dashing he looks in his clothes during a night out.
Compliment him about his personality too. Tell him how sweet and romantic you think he is. Or how funny and clever he is.
It’s important to compliment him on everything.
If you only compliment his looks, he might feel that your love is shallow. But if you only compliment his personality, then he might feel that you’re not attracted to him. And if you only compliment his work, he might feel that you’re just using him.
By complimenting everything about him, it shows that you also love everything about him. It’s also one of the simplest ways to be affectionate with him.
Compliment him frequently, but try to have good variation too. However, what’s most important is that they sound genuine.
He’s your king, after all, so sing him praises!
16) Have compassion
Men are told to always be tough and masculine. Yet any man will surely melt at the sight of a kind, compassionate woman.
He definitely needs to get out of his strong, manly shell every once in a while. Do that by being understanding and supportive.
Lend him a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. Provide comfort when his mind is confused and his heart is broken.
You’re his wife—you’re his lover, best friend, and companion in one person. It goes without saying that you should be kind—and be the kindest you can be—to your spouse.
Men have a tendency to not show any weakness. However, your warm, reassuring presence will make him open up and help him get through whatever problems he might have.
17) Make important decisions together
When the two of you got married, you signed up to be life partners. As husband and wife, your lives are now intricately linked to one another.
You need to work as a team and face every challenge hand-in-hand. You need to talk and work together to choose the best possible decision for the both of you.
This is where asking and respecting each other’s opinions come in!
If you are the one making most of the decisions without taking in much of his input, then your husband will not feel like he is an active participant in the marriage.
He will not feel like a king. Instead, he might feel like a servant who is simply going along with your every whim.
The bigger the decision—especially regarding marriage and family life—the more important it is to consult one another and make decisions together. But even in lesser decisions, asking him to join you in deciding will only make him feel even more loved and respected.
18) Become a queen yourself
Only a true queen knows how to treat her man like a king. In order to become one, you have to get rid of your insecurities and become the best, most confident and happy version of your self.
The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.
You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.
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19) Be affectionate in small ways
Love is in the small things—especially in marriage.
As much as you work to keep the romance alive, the novelty of the relationship has likely long been lost. That’s why grand gestures of love are probably way less appealing to the both of you now.
However, there are countless amount of small things that you can do to show your love, respect, and support for him.
As we said, complimenting him is a great way of doing this. But you also need to walk your talk.
Give a massage after a tiring day of work. Do the household chore he is supposed to do. Buy him a small gift.
Write a cute note for him to see before work. Visit him at his office for lunch. Clean his car.
There are always ways to show your love for him. You just need to look around and be creative!
No matter what you do, he will at the very least appreciate the effort! Remember, it’s the thought that truly counts.
20) Spend more quality time
Your husband should be a source of happiness for you. If he’s not, then why are you even with him!?
So make sure to smile at your king and cultivate a positive, joyous atmosphere both before he leaves for work and after he arrives home.
It’s important to cherish what time you have. After all, daily life is already incredibly busy and stressful.
Show him that being with him makes you happy and that in turn will make him happy. In fact, try to ask for more quality time.
This will make him feel even more loved and wanted, which is the key to preventing your marriage from getting stale and filling it with love instead.
By now you should have a better idea of how to treat your husband like a king.
So the key now is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.
I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.
And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change from as early as today.
With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge,be sure to check out the video now.
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.