10 ways old souls show their love differently

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Are you an old soul? Or perhaps you’re dating someone who is?

Old souls are unique when it comes to love. They may not be flashy or social media driven, but when they love you?

Oh, you’ll know about it! 

They take things back to a time when love was simple and pure. No showing off or doing sweet things just for “likes” on TikTok or Instagram. 

Want to know more? Here are 10 ways old souls show their love differently:

1) They prioritize depth over surface-level interactions 

Old souls don’t care much about what your favorite color is or how many times a week you work out.

They want to know you – the essence of who you are, what drives you, what dreams and fears keep you up at night. 

That’s why if you find yourself in a relationship with one, things will go deep, quickly. Try to chit-chat for hours on end, and you’ll notice their attention waning. 

Old souls show their love by getting to the heart of a person. They invest time and energy into forming close bonds. 

They make you feel like their full attention is on you and only you, which leads me to the next point:

2) They listen intently 

I dated an old soul once. When we’d talk, he’d look me in the eye the entire time. He never interrupted me, and not once did I catch him checking his phone or sneaking a glance at the TV. 

When I would finish speaking, his questions showed how much he’d been paying attention.

All of this made me feel loved and special – like I was the only person in the room that mattered to him, no matter how crowded the cafe or restaurant. 

On the contrary, other guys I’ve dated were all over the place. Half the time they couldn’t wait for me to finish before jumping in with their own opinion. Or they’d be busy playing Xbox or scrolling through their phone. 

I certainly know which type I prefer! 

3) They show patience and understanding 

Old souls don’t rush things. 

They know that good things take time – that’s why they approach situations with patience and understanding. 

Let’s say you have an argument; rather than jump to conclusions or storm out in a rush, an old soul will try to understand where you’re coming from. 

They’ll take the time to talk it out with you and resolve the issue rather than blowing it up into something bigger. 

This is just another way they show their love and dedication to you – by investing their time and emotions into bettering the relationship. 

4) They value quality time 

Want to know if an old soul really loves you?

An easy way to figure this out is by how much quality time they spend with you. And by that, I mean going out of their way to do things that bring you closer together

Even if it’s not something they’d normally do, if an old soul knows you’ll appreciate it, they’ll do their best to join in and have fun. 

And while they might not be up for flashy events or lots of parties, they’ll show their love through one on one intimate time.

Whether that’s going for a long walk together, or planning a romantic meal. All their attention will be on you. 

5) They do acts of service 

So often, I see couples buying flashy, expensive gifts for each other, and worse of all, sharing it all on social media. 

Old souls operate differently. 

When they show love, they do it through acts of service

You might only receive flowers on Valentine’s Day, or a simple gift on your birthday, but that’s because they prefer to demonstrate their feelings through the everyday things they do for you. 

Whether it’s making sure you always have your favorite coffee at hand, or helping with tasks around the house, these little acts mean a lot to an old soul. 

My friend’s husband is the epitome of an old soul – he’s always building things for her. A new greenhouse. A beautiful wooden bench for the garden. 

He rarely buys her expensive jewelry, but she feels loved through his physical effort to make her happy. 

6) They give wise advice 

Have you ever noticed that the more someone cares about you, the more likely they are to spend time giving you good, solid advice? 

It’s that genuine concern that lets you know how much they value you. 

Well, the same goes for old souls. When they show love, they do it by taking the time to listen to your problems and offer wise advice. 

They will never tell you to do something reckless. They don’t get a buzz from your drama.

Instead, they’ll call you after a big meeting or a fallout with your mom to ask how you’re doing and if they can help in any way possible. 

7) They opt for timeless gestures 

Memes and reels online are cute and all, but nothing screams timeless like a heartfelt letter or note

The old soul I dated used to do this. I’d wake up to a note on the counter next to a flower saying, “Good morning beautiful. Didn’t want to disturb you this morning. Hope you have a great day.” 

And I’ll be honest, I’ve still got his notes and letters even now – they were so touching and meaningful. 

So if you’re with an old soul, don’t expect trendy gifts. 

You’re more likely to receive things that hold meaning and significance. Indications that your partner really knows what will make you happy. 

8) They embrace authenticity 

Another way old souls show love differently is that they choose to accept a person completely as they are; flaws and all. 

They don’t want to change you. They love every part of your being, even the bits you don’t like about yourself. 

In other words, they fall in love with your soul. They don’t care if you’re Instagram pretty. They don’t care about your salary. 

They accept you just the way you are, and that’s how you know they love you. 

9) They’re incredibly loyal 

I don’t know about you, but I know so many couples who have broken up due to cheating. 

And it seems to be everywhere; reality TV shows, celebrity fallouts, affairs in the workplace. 

At the cost of sounding gloomy and pessimistic, it seems like loyalty is dying out. 

But there’s a glimmer of hope – old souls still value the commitments they make. 

If they’re with you, they’re with you for life (unless you’re both really incompatible, in which case they’ll leave you in a dignified manner, not by sneaking around behind your back). 

You’ll never have to worry about an old soul’s whereabouts or checking their phone – if they love you, they’ll remain faithful and loyal. 

10) They appreciate the unspoken  

And finally, if an old soul loves you, you’ll notice that they truly appreciate the little, seemingly insignificant things you do together. 

Perhaps it’s discussing the latest book you’ve both read over a coffee. 

Or taking the time to go for an evening stroll together after work. 

Or even just sitting quietly together, enjoying each other’s company without the need for conversation. 

Whatever it is, you’ll see their appreciation for it, the way their faces light up, the way they thank you for a lovely evening. 

So, if you resonate with this article, it’s likely that you are an old soul, or you’re dating someone who is. 

From my experience, I’d say you’re very lucky. Old souls aren’t easy to come by, but when they do, they show love in the most beautiful and simple ways – just how it should be. 

Kiran Athar

Kiran is a freelance writer with a degree in multimedia journalism. She enjoys exploring spirituality, psychology, and love in her writing. As she continues blazing ahead on her journey of self-discovery, she hopes to help her readers do the same. She thrives on building a sense of community and bridging the gaps between people. You can reach out to Kiran on Twitter: @KiranAthar1

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