Leila El-Dean
Is there such a thing as the perfect man?
Hmm… probably not (no one is, really) it’s a fantasy.
However, certain traits can turn a “Sorry, I’m washing my hair” into a guaranteed “Yes, please.”
But I don’t just mean the usual tall, dark, and handsome trope.
That’s overdone and boring.
I’m talking about the unexpected traits. You know, the little things that can make an average guy irresistibly attractive.
Here are eight of them…
1) Reliability
Everyone has their own ideas about what makes the perfect partner.
Good looks, a sense of humor, chemistry, a willingness to shower daily!
Well, according to psychologists (and the good people of Reddit), it’s reliability. And if you possess this unexpected trait, there’s a good chance your relationship will be a success.
So, what exactly does that mean?
Good question.
The truth is, that reliability isn’t just about being predictable or consistent (at least not in a mundane way). It’s knowing that you can depend on him to support you, no matter what.
In other words, when he says that he’ll be there, you can trust (without a doubt) that he will.
It’s this level of respect, kindness, and maturity that provides their partners with a true sense of emotional security (and safety).
Something that’s a core human need, even for those who consider themselves fiercely independent.
2) Integrity
Integrity probably isn’t the first thing you think of when you start dating a new man.
But maybe it should be.
Think about it.
When you meet a guy who takes responsibility, lives up to his commitments, and does exactly what he says he’s going to do, you know you’re onto a good thing.
Especially when he’s honest enough to admit his shortcomings or stick by his principles (even in the face of opposition).
Let’s face it.
Self-confidence (and conviction) like that is enough to make the most average of men irresistibly attractive.
3) Passion
When I say passion, I don’t necessarily mean romantically (although, that’s nice too).
It’s quite the opposite.
I’m talking about having genuine interests outside of your relationship.
Whether it’s a hobby, a cause, or a profession, a man who pursues his passions with true enthusiasm and excitement instantly makes him more attractive.
Not only does it promote independence, but it provides an opportunity to learn from each other.
And while you might worry that having different interests will push you apart, don’t! It can actually increase your level of intimacy.
4) Humility
Did you know, that being humble makes you more attractive?
It’s backed up by science!
In fact, (according to this study) humility is considered a highly valued trait in a romantic partner. Particularly when it comes to long-distance relationships.
Not surprising really, when you think about it.
Humble individuals are typically incredibly empathetic and understanding.
Not just for your benefit but for themselves too.
For example, acknowledging their limitations, learning from their mistakes, and freely offering forgiveness (or kindness) whenever necessary.
This generally makes them more approachable and easy to talk with. Not to mention, it demonstrates a level of self-restraint.
As a result, building authentic (and healthy) connections with them is effortless. Personally, I can’t think of anything more irresistible.
5) Authenticity
There’s a certain appeal about a guy who embraces his quirks, flaws, and strengths without question.
It’s not only charming and endearing but a testament to his authenticity.
What’s more, it’s crucial during the initial dating phase, a time when you’re just getting to know each other.
When someone’s truly authentic, you know exactly what you’re getting. There’s no phoniness or lies to discover later down the line.
Instead, they’re comfortable showing you their true colors from the get-go.
And unapologetically so.
In turn, that allows you to follow suit and open up by being your genuine (unfiltered) self when you’re around them too, without fear of judgment.
This helps both of you live in the moment, be present, and embrace self-acceptance. All the ingredients you need for a healthy (and happy) relationship.
6) Curiosity
Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it could be the answer to your relationship woes.
At least, that’s what the research suggests.
In fact, experts have found that curious people are better at connecting with others. That’s largely thanks to their need to seek knowledge and new experiences.
Because of this, you can all but guarantee that a conversation with him will never be boring.
What’s more, studies show that curious people are more likely to engage in intimate conversations. Thus increasing closeness among those they interact with.
Ultimately, this curious mindset makes him more attractive to others, and can you blame them? Their insatiable curiosity ensures that you’ve got a fascinating companion and bedfellow for life.
7) Vulnerability
People often mistake vulnerability for weakness, but they shouldn’t. Instead, it shows strength!
Not to mention, faith in your relationship (by that I mean you).
Let me explain.
When a man allows himself to be wholly open, honest, and vulnerable around you, it fosters trust and denotes a willingness to risk it all for L-O-V-E.
It’s just like in the movies.
But don’t just take my word for it. Psychology tells us that vulnerability is crucial for relationship success. It not only strengthens intimacy, but it grants you access to their innermost thoughts and feelings.
This provides you both with a deep level of understanding that’ll be the envy of all your friends.
What’s more, his ability to be unreservedly candid and sincere makes him irresistibly attractive.
8) Resilience
It’s natural for relationships (and love) to suffer ups and downs.
In fact, there are going to be times when you’ll have disagreements, face challenges, and maybe, not have the nicest things to say about each other (at least, in the moment).
It’s inevitable.
But how you navigate these relationship lulls says a lot about your strength of character.
That’s why emotional resilience (and the ability to bounce back together) is key.
So, when you find a man who faces challenges with courage, perseverance, and grace it’s unbelievably attractive.
Simply put, if he’s willing to listen, work together as a team, or displays any of these eight traits – not only is he irresistible, but he’s also a keeper.
