Ah, love. Holding your partner close. Laughing with them by your side. Waking up to see their lovely face.
That’s what I call one of the most wonderful things on planet Earth.
But love isn’t always that easy. Sometimes, we fall for the wrong person, and it just…goes downhill from there.
Do you want to know if you’re in a relationship with the right person? These are the 8 undeniable signs you and your partner are made for each other.
1) You feel no need to filter yourself
Do you know that feeling when you meet someone for the first time and things just fall into place?
There’s no need to pretend. No need to mull over your words in your mind before you let them out into the world.
From the get-go, you feel that you can act like your authentic self, say what’s truly on your mind, and show your emotions in all their force, be it jumping up and down in joy, feeling shocked at something unexpected, or dancing around in sheer excitement.
You don’t need to tone yourself down. On the contrary, the right partner makes you feel like you ought to embrace all those amazing parts of you even more because they’ll love every single bit of you.
Your partner is ready to receive everything you have to offer, the bad parts included. And of course, you feel the exact same way about them.
2) You feel safe enough to let your inner child come out
In some ways, we are all still kids trying to navigate the adult world.
And if your partner makes you feel safe to open up and be vulnerable, there’s a high chance your inner child will come out, be it through silliness, playfulness, or talking in a baby voice from time to time.
(While baby voice can sound really annoying to others, it’s actually a sign of a healthy relationship. It means you feel so safe that you can assume a vulnerable childlike position and trust your partner not to hurt you or judge you.)
You can be silly, weird, free, and joyful. And instead of putting you down or shaking their head in disbelief, your partner joins in and loves you in your entirety.
Thus a beautiful sign you’re made for each other.
3) You’re on the same wavelength in all the ways that count
Of course, silliness and authenticity aren’t the only things that make people compatible in the long run. You can have lots of fun with someone and still disagree with them on some very important issues.
It’s time to talk values, beliefs, and principles. While some people say that it doesn’t matter if your religious or political views are different, I beg to differ.
Because these things don’t necessarily matter much… until you have children.
The moment you’re raising a family together and teaching your kids the principles of life, a difference in political opinion can pit you against each other, leaving the child in the middle, unsure of what to think.
Of course, you can always have a lengthy discussion about what you’ll teach your children and how you’ll go on about your differences, and this may very well work out.
But a huge sign that you’re made for each other is that this discussion goes quite smoothly because you already agree on many points.
4) You’re very satisfied on 4 essential levels
Alongside your beliefs and values, there are four crucial levels on which you ought to feel satisfied. And by “satisfied”, I don’t mean that your partner needs to fulfill you 100% of the time.
In fact, the general rule is that a partner who gives you 80% of what you need is more than enough because no one is a completely perfect match.
For example, your partner may be your absolute soulmate but might not enjoy sports much, so you can go bouldering with your sister and go to the gym with your best friend instead of forcing your significant other to be someone they’re not.
The four levels on which these 80% should be met are:
- A friendship level (it is first and foremost your friendship that will keep you together in the long run – the late-night conversations, fun experiences, and laughter)
- A romantic level (it’s called a “romantic relationship” for a reason – don’t ever stop treating your partner as a love interest, keep going on dates, buying them sweet gifts, and complimenting them)
- A sexual level (amazing sex *is* important – it keeps the spark alive and helps both partners feel secure and wanted in the relationship, not to mention that regular sex is linked to lower divorce rates)
- A housemate level (if you live together for the rest of your lives, you’ll have to find a good way to co-habit without having arguments or feeling resentful – high-quality relationships include splitting household chores and being able to rely on each other when it comes to running important errands and getting admin tasks done on time)
5) You both put in the effort to help the relationship thrive
Even people who are meant for each other encounter hurdles along the way. No relationship is perfect, and neither is yours.
There will come a time when you disagree or struggle to resolve an issue. But it is not the problem itself that matters so much – it is your attitude to it.
If both of you decide to put in the effort and work together in order to overcome this challenge, it’s an undeniable sign your relationship might thrive in the long run.
This is because you are very likely to change and evolve as time goes on, and your relationship will have to change with it.
Conflicts, disagreements, and compromises are bound to come. But if you’re both 100% committed to working on the relationship and making each other happy, you will withstand every storm that tries to shake the foundations you stand on.
And speaking of foundations…
6) You have a strong foundation of trust and respect
Respect is one of the most important building blocks of a good relationship.
Strangely enough, I’ve met more couples than I can count that disrespect one another on a regular basis – they go behind each other’s backs, lie, cheat, don’t take one another’s emotions seriously, or say hurtful words with the intention to wound the person they claim to love.
If you’re made for each other, you don’t act like that at all.
You trust one another on a very deep level, you’re as honest as possible, you both remain faithful, and you respect each other’s opinions and feelings.
What’s more, you would never intentionally do anything to hurt your partner. You only have their best interests at heart because your love is so strong that it’s selfless.
7) The relationship is a positive force in your life
The inherent respect and love you have for one another mean that the relationship rarely drags you down.
In fact, your relationship is such a safe place that you can rely on its stability while you go out into the world and work on other areas of your life, such as your career or passion projects.
And there’s more. A big sign you’re made for each other is that you inspire one another to grow as people. Your partner isn’t just someone you feel cozy with on a rainy day – their lifestyle, goals, and attitude to life motivate you to pursue your own interests and develop in new directions.
Many couples spend a lot of time reinforcing each other’s bad habits, which only brings them down. You, on the other hand… you’ve created a positive feedback loop where you motivate each other and stay accountable.
It’s like having a personal development teammate. And there’s nothing better than the feeling of togetherness this brings.
8) You rarely doubt if you’re meant to be together
Last but not least, people who are made for one another rarely doubt if that’s the case.
Things just…feel right. You know deep within your bones that this is where you’re meant to be. Your intuition agrees – your whole body is stable and calm, and you haven’t felt this grounded in ages.
Of course, this isn’t *always* the case. For example, people with an anxious attachment style might have irrational concerns because of their own past experiences, which may make them doubt an amazing relationship as an act of self-sabotage.
If this sounds like you, try to distinguish your anxiety from your gut instinct. Are your doubts grounded in real proof? Or are you overthinking?
Generally, though, the right relationship simply feels right. But in order to recognize that feeling and truly accept it, you’ve got to be completely honest with yourself.
If your gut instinct tells you that this is who you’re meant to be with… perhaps you ought to listen.