8 undeniable signs a man has strong feelings for you, according to psychology

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Have you ever wondered if a man was into you or not? I know I have.

Well, wonder no more, because psychologists have figured out some specific signs that show that a man has strong feelings for someone.

Read on to find out if he’s really into you so you can be confident and maybe make that first move!

1) Eye contact and proximity 

Whenever this man is around you have you noticed that he gets a lot closer to you than to other people? Does he look into your eyes as he speaks to you?

These are some clues that this man might have strong feelings for you.

Psychologists have found that when someone likes something then their pupils dilate. So if this guy is prone to looking you in the eyes, then take a look at his pupils and see what they’re up to. It’s a dead giveaway.

The article explains that eye contact is one of the most important ways to gauge whether someone is interested in you or not. You can read more about the 11 different levels of eye contact and then you might be one step closer to figuring out if this guy is into you.

2) Physical affection

Because this guy is trying to get closer to you by being near to you when you’re together, he may also be a bit more physically affectionate than they are to others. Have you noticed this at all?

If you have you might be in luck (as long as you’re interested back of course!).

Maybe it’s a hug that you’re getting and no one else is. Maybe the hug is longer than the ones others are getting. It could be that he touches your arm as he’s talking to you, but he doesn’t do this with other people. Psychologists say to watch for signs such as these.

If he’s doing it to everyone then it’s less likely that this man is into you, this could just be his nature. But if it’s just you, it might just be the sign you’ve been looking for.

3) Playful teasing

Whenever you’re around this guy does he tease you, but in a playful sort of way? You know, with a smile on his face.

In this article the writer shares that when a man teases playfully he might be testing whether they have chemistry. Which means, yep you guessed it, he’s into them.

This article also shares what it looks like if a guy is hanging around with you a lot, he likes you but is a bit shy or isn’t quite ready to tell you yet. Maybe he’s not sure whether you like him back…

4) You’re in his plans for the future

Has this guy been talking about both of you when he mentions the future? Does he include you in both short-term and long-term plans? This is a really big clue that he has strong feelings for you.

A lot of my experiences with men have ended because I was the one planning for the future and not them. They were obviously not really that interested in anything long-term. So I could tell that these guys didn’t have strong, real feelings for me.

If a man is doing all this planning with you coming along for the ride then you are lucky! This is a sign that he wants to take things seriously with you. It means he wants to be around you a lot!

5) Attention and prioritization

If you see this man in a group situation, does he give you more attention than the other people you’re with? Does he come up with excuses to see you? Would he drop everything to come and help you if you asked?

When someone gives this much of themselves then it’s another undeniable sign that he likes you a great deal.

Many different signs show that a man is treating you as a priority. Some of these are;

  • He wants to hear about things you care about
  • He goes out of his way for you
  • He plans dates/organizes time together
  • He sets aside time for you
  • He remembers the small things
  • He replies to your messages quickly

There are many more. But if these are some things that this man does, you might be in his sights.

6) You’re intentionally introduced to others

Does the man in question go out of his way to ensure you meet his friends and family?

If he does it’s probably because he wants to include you in as much of his life as possible. You are important to him.

I know I’m careful when introducing new people to my friends and family. And men are usually more wary.

Here a psychologist says that when a man introduces you to his friends and family, he is serious about you and wants you to be a part of his everyday life. He wants you to join his friendship circle, which is a big thing for anyone to do. 

So in doing this what this man is trying to say is, “I’m really into you”.

7) Supportiveness

Have you noticed this man supporting you more than before, or more than most people? Does he have your back? Is he on your side when you share your dreams or ideas?

If you’re nodding, “Yes”, it’s another sign that he has strong feelings for you.

This article talks about how when a man loves someone, he will consistently defend them and ensure they is ok. It also says he will support your career and share how proud of you he is.

Another way a man shows his support is that he takes care of you. This looks different for each man. 

But, some things could be as simple as cooking your favorite meal, remembering how you like your coffee, buying you the snacks you love, or doing something simple like the dishes so you don’t have to.

So if you’re getting this from a man in your life, he might just be trying to flirt with you.

8) Grooming behaviors

The lucky last might not be something you notice, but something someone else notices. It’s the way he presents himself when he is around you.

Just as women do, men who are interested in someone often put more effort into their appearance when they know they’ll be seeing them.

You may even notice the difference in how he dresses when he knows he’s going to see you. And compare that to when he accidentally bumps into you. Does he put more effort in? Is his shirt suddenly ironed when it’s usually not? Maybe he’s bought some new clothes, done his hair, or groomed his beard. 

According to this article, if a man has strong feelings for you, he might even groom himself in front of you by doing things such as adjusting his tie or shirt and running his hands through his hair. These small signs are often done by the man without him even realizing, but if you look carefully, you can pick up on them! 

Final thoughts

So, keep an eye out because there are so many signs that a man is interested. If he’s doing one or two, then maybe give it a wait, but if you’ve ticked off 5 or more of these signs then you might just be in!

So, why not flirt back, or go ahead and take a chance?

Louisa Lopez

Louisa is writer, wellbeing coach, and world traveler, with a Masters in Social Anthropology. She is fascinated by people, psychology, spirituality and exploring psychedelics for personal growth and healing. She’s passionate about helping people and has been giving empowering advice professionally for over 10 years using the tarot. Louisa loves magical adventures and can often be found on a remote jungle island with her dogs. You can connect with her on Twitter: @StormJewel

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