8 types of people introverts quickly become uncomfortable around

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Most people assume that introverts are just snobs—that they simply don’t like people. But there’s far more nuance to it than that.

While socializing exhausts them, they’re fine being with people…well, except certain kinds that they’re NOT comfortable around.

Want to know who they are?

Here are the 10 types of people that are least liked by introverts.

1)  People who care too much about engagement

Introverts simply don’t care about people who think that they need consistent engagement to keep their friendship or relationship valid.

They simply don’t have that much social energy to spare, and the last thing they want is to spend it just to maintain their friendships.

People who care too much about engagement make them uncomfortable because they do not want their friendship to be held hostage to those peoples’ insecurities.

The last thing they want is to have someone say that they’re a “bad friend” because they don’t communicate enough.

2) People who take their quiet as arrogance or disinterest

That need for quiet unfortunately doesn’t mesh well with extroverts, who start wondering if there is some kind of deeper meaning behind that quiet.

For example, they might start thinking that the quiet guy is some kind of snob who thinks that the people around them are boring and not worth their time.

That is to say, these people project their insecurities on the quiet guy and get made at them over that.

But as I mentioned before, introverts simply don’t want to speak up when they don’t feel like it’s needed and want to be left alone until they have something to share.

3) People who are excessively noisy and gregarious

That is to say, they aren’t comfortable being around people who simply can’t seem to stop being loud, noisy, and socially gregarious.

That’s not to say that introverts can’t be noisy or gregarious themselves, because they can be.

The thing to keep in mind is that introverts have a limited social battery and don’t want to feel like they have to engage if they don’t want to.

And people who are excessively loud and gregarious—even if fun to hang out with every now and then—are doubly exhausting precisely because of this.

Think of it as trying to take a nap while you’re with a roommate who blasts music at max volume indiscriminately.

Introverts might enjoy the loud music sometimes, but they’d rather that people notice when they need to rest and turn it down for their sake.

4) People who make surprise visits

Private space and alone-time is nigh-sacred for introverts.

Think about it—when they’re out and about, they have to try fitting into a world that isn’t made for them.

Their private space is the only place where they have true control over themselves and their surroundings. It’s the only place where they feel at ease.

And they do NOT want to have people invade that space without warning, thus robbing them of this sense of peace and control.

That’s why if you’re ever going to visit an introvert, it’s a good idea to let them know ahead of hand. Don’t just drop in out of nowhere and take offense if they’re not thrilled about it.

They’ll love having you over, of course. But only when it’s on their own terms and already know that you’re coming.

5) People who simply assume that they know them

Here’s another introvert secret: most introverts are actually very outgoing and chatty with fellow introverts. They just don’t like dealing with extroverts so much.

And because of this, extroverts end up creating stereotypes around introverts, often depicting them as shy, cold, and even anti-social.

Unfortunately—with extroverts being the majority—most people believe in these stereotypes and simply assume that they know what introverts are like.

Introverts immediately become uncomfortable with these people, even if they do it to be “thoughtful.”

It means that these people see others as stereotypes, instead of actually communicating and trying to understand the people around them.

And that’s what introverts want!

They want people to try to communicate and understand them as people instead of simply making assumptions.

6) People who make rules on the proper way to socialize

Extroverts have many tiny rules about what is “rude” and what is “proper” when interacting with other people.

They take for granted that everyone else follows these rules because most people are extroverts.

Introverts, for example, don’t see any problem in reading a book or scrolling through their phone while being outside with others.

On the other hand, extroverts often find this incredibly offensive and will want to demand the introvert keep their book or their phone so they can focus on socializing.

Introverts also have no trouble with quiet, or doing separate things with other people.

Extroverts, on the other hand, will want to fill that quiet with small talk, or insist that since they’re together they should do things together.

These are just a few of the many small, unspoken rules that extroverts subscribe to. And if you’re an extrovert these might seem like they just make sense.

But introverts don’t follow them (many aren’t even aware) and will only find them confusing—as far as they’re concerned, people are simply making things more complicated than they need to be.

7) People who can’t just mind their own business

Introverts hate having to deal with unnecessary intrigue.

They’re well aware just how toxic people can be to their “friends” and they want none of it.

They don’t like dealing with people who gossip about how their friend cheated on their partner, or how one of their coworkers is just too demanding and mean.

As far as they’re concerned, it’s none of their business and that whoever tries getting them involved is an a**hole.

And moreover, what’s stopping that person from talking about THEM?

They can’t trust that a nosey gossip isn’t going to assume things about them and make them the subject of some made-up controversy after all.

8) People who dump their emotional baggage without permission

Introverts can be very, very empathetic. They can be some of the most thoughtful people you can ever pour your heart out to.

But that doesn’t mean you should just dump your emotional baggage on them without warning.

They might be dealing with their own problems, or they might not be in the right state of mind. And most important of all, it’s just nice to ask for permission first—whether they’re an introvert or extrovert.

So if you ever want to talk to an introvert about your emotional baggage, ask. But also remember that they’re not your personal therapist.

9) People who force them to socialize

Probably one of the things that introverts hate the most about socialization—at least with extroverts—is that they’re often forced to socialize.

They don’t like their mothers telling them “Tell your auntie about your holiday”. And they hate it when their partner begs “Come on, be more friendly with my friends!”.

It doesn’t matter how well-meaning it is. They will resent it when someone tries to force them to talk or contribute to the discussion.

Introverts just don’t want to talk sometimes, and they’d rather open their mouths if there’s something worthwhile to share.

This is also the reason why introverts enjoy the company of other introverts. They don’t force anyone to speak up or participate, and are happy just sitting there in silence.

10) People who want to be instant BFFs

Overly friendly people tend to get positive reactions from extroverts. They have a certain charm about them that wins people over.

Introverts, on the other hand, are extremely uncomfortable around them.

They don’t like that these people act familiar or friendly way too fast, and aren’t easily swayed by their charm.

As far as they’re concerned, friendliness and the right to act familiar with them is something that must be earned.

It doesn’t help that introverts are often anxious—often over fears of accidentally setting off an unspoken social rule—and too much friendliness sets that anxiety off.

Last words

Introverts spend a lot of time every day trying to adapt to a world that doesn’t think like them.

They already spend so much of their time and energy trying to “fit in” and adapt to everyone else.

The key to being a good friend to an introvert and becoming a person they will feel comfortable around is to simply try and accept them for having low social batteries.

Try to see them as human, and to try to understand them even if the way they socialize is different from what you know.

They will appreciate it greatly if people try to adapt to them for a change.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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