Quiet people aren’t just “quiet people”. They aren’t defined solely by how few words they speak.
On the outside, they may live quiet lives and have calm, slow temperaments, but they’re also so much more than that.
They are also introspective, calm, and empathetic.
Understanding a quiet person may be difficult because they tend to be unassuming and, well, quiet.
But if you look closely, you’ll see these traits that reveal a whole other side to their seemingly one-dimensional personality:
1. They Speak Only When Spoken To
You will rarely ever see a quiet person start a conversation.
Whereas so many people are more than happy to talk and share every chance they get, a quiet person only speaks when it is necessary.
They aren’t necessarily shy; they just don’t feel the need to speak.
They only share when things need to be shared.
2. They’re Economical With Their Words
Speaking to a quiet person is like having a conversation with someone who has to pay for every word they say.
They think through their sentences and phrases carefully.
After all, they don’t want to say the wrong thing and backtrack, or be misunderstood.
It’s almost as if they only have a set number of words they can say per day, and they do their best to stay in line with it.
But despite being so frugal with their words, they still manage to say everything they need to say.
This makes quiet people generally great writers because they don’t waste your time with small talk and fluff.
They know how to get to the point of things right away.
3. They Get Intimidated By Fast Talkers
A quiet person is not necessarily a shy person, but they do get intimidated when confronted by someone who is the complete opposite of them.
When someone chatty meets a quiet person, it can be mentally exhausting for the quiet person,
They know that chatty people expect quick and enthusiastic responses.
But just because a person doesn’t reply quickly or enthusiastically doesn’t mean they’re not interested in the conversation.
Quiet people simply need the time to process and respond, something chatty people don’t always understand.
4. They Try To Avoid Crowded Situations
Quiet people aren’t necessarily introverted, but most of them are.
And being an introvert means feeling like other people sap your energy.
There is nothing more exhausting for an introverted person than a crowded place or event.
As a quiet person, you will shy away from going out to amusement parks on the weekend or public engagements where you might be expected to host or speak.
You do what you can to avoid these scenarios because you know it can be too much for you.
And the only way to recover from it is tons of alone time.
5. They Catch Everything Around Them
Quiet people tend to be the best observers.
They keep to themselves. They tend to look, listen, and wait.
They know how to observe and catch the smallest details of things, meaning if anything changes around them, quiet people will be the first to notice it.
In fact, quiet people tend to have a lot in common with hyper-observant people. If you think you might be a hyper-observant person, then you might relate to the below video:
6. They Can Be Super Productive
With great silence comes great productivity. A quiet person is your best bet for getting things done, particularly things that don’t involve other people.
In their solitude, they’ve learned how to maximize their own productivity.
They can do things at much more efficient rates than people who get distracted by the tiniest things.
7. They Can Be Calm In Tough SItuations
Need someone who can stay cool, calm, and collected even in the face of the apocalypse itself? Then get yourself a quiet person.
While quiet and calm aren’t synonymous, the same behaviors and tendencies that make a person quiet also teach them how to be calm.
8. They Tend To Be Minimalists
Quiet people don’t let the day-to-day trivialities of life bother them. They think big picture and don’t spend their thoughts worrying about the mundane.
This is one reason why quiet people generally aren’t great designers.
If you’re married to a quiet person, you might notice just how much you have to buy things for the house because they just don’t see the need for anything more than the bare minimum.
9. They Aren’t Bored Or Unhappy Just Because They’re Quiet
It’s a common misconception:
When you see someone who is sitting quietly by themselves, you might assume that they’re not having a great time.
You might feel that they’re bored, unhappy, and even unapproachable (depending on the rest of their demeanor).
But this couldn’t be further from the truth. Quiet people are usually quite content when left to their own devices.
Just as they might be frugal with their words, they’re also frugal with their emotional expression.
This is why it isn’t always so obvious when a quiet person is happy.
10. They Have Great Patience
Ask an extroverted, loud, party-person to sit in a room without their phone for a few hours, and they might lose their mind.
But if you ask the same of a quiet person, they’ll be completely fine, and might even want some more time alone after you unlock the door.
Quiet people are experts at living in their heads.
They can run out of the clock even when they have nothing with them but their own thoughts.
They aren’t afraid of their silence the way so many people are.
They love having the time to think, and being locked in a room by themselves might even be considered a vacation for some quiet people.
11. They Don’t Have An Ego
The benefit of being a quiet person is that all the time you save from not chatting and responding to everything around you is time you can spend being more reflective instead.
And being more reflective means being more aware of everything, including yourself.
Quiet people understand themselves better.
They understand their emotions, their emotional triggers; they understand why they feel certain things, and the sources and roots of their issues.
All this self-understanding gives quiet people a better ability to fight and ignore their inherent ego, meaning they don’t have the same egoistic tendencies that other people usually have.
And not having an ego makes quiet people better people in general. They can act more rationally in situations.
12. Their Words Are Powerful
When a quiet person speaks, listen. They don’t share their thoughts often. They don’t share everything the way most people do.
When a quiet person feels the need to share something unprovoked, then whatever they’re sharing is important.
Their words truly mean something, and each word itself can be powerful in the right moment.
And the easiest way to hurt a quiet person? Don’t listen to them when they speak, or even worse, make fun of them for what they said.
This is the easiest way to get on a quiet person’s bad side, teaching them to speak less often than they already do.
13. Their Visualization Is Stronger Than Most
With all the time a quiet person spends thinking instead of talking, they exercise their minds to levels that the rest of us can’t even imagine.
This gives them a level of imagination and visualization far greater than their chattier peers, which is one reason why it’s easier for them to live quietly in their own heads.
So what can they do with this skill? Quiet people tend to be great planners, thinkers, writers, and storytellers.
They can visualize worlds and scenarios that don’t exist, helping others bring their thoughts into the real world.
14. They Understand People Better
It can be easy to assume that a person who doesn’t contribute to the discussion isn’t paying attention to it or anyone involved in it, but the quiet people might be the most aware in the group.
Not only do they have a greater ability to observe, but they also have a greater ability to understand and empathize with people.
This is the reason why quiet people make brilliant psychiatrists.
They don’t see the tiny issues and conflicts that bother most people and understand people as a whole.
They look beyond the surface-level superficial drama and figure out the root of people’s neuroses to truly understand who they are and why they act the way they do.
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