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15 traits of a confident woman that separates her from everyone else

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Confidence doesn’t come naturally to some women.

They might have grown up being taught that they should follow along with old social standards and expectations.

But as cultural norms shift and new mindsets are being accepted, it’s given confident women their chance to shine under the global spotlight.

Confident women are admirable because they defy what society – or what anyone – expects of them.

They don’t feel boxed in. They’re true individuals that create their own path and empower others to do the same.

We can learn a great deal from them.

So here are 15 common traits that make confident women stand out from others.

1. She Knows Herself

One of the defining characteristics of anyone confident is how much they know themselves.

They aren’t the type to get themselves into things that they know they either aren’t ready for yet or something they aren’t even passionate about.

She knows who she is and who she isn’t, and she knows her worth.

That’s why she can reflect on her mistakes without beating herself up about it – and she’s definitely made mistakes before.

While others wallow in regret and try to fix the past, a confident woman finds valuable lessons she’ll always remember.

Knowing herself also allows her to be more self-aware than most people.

Most people are worried because they don’t know how they’re being perceived by others.

A confident woman knows that, while she can’t control what others think of her, she knows what to do, how to dress and speak so that others may take her seriously.

2. She Doesn’t Mind Being Alone

She’s independent.

A confident woman doesn’t need a man by her side to take care of her, pay for her meals, and drive her home.

She can do all those things herself.

Besides, sometimes romance or partnership isn’t something she might even be looking for.

Others might even ask, “When do you plan on getting married? Do you plan on having kids?”

While some might give in to the pressure these questions tend to pose, a confident woman doesn’t mind brushing it off.

This isn’t to say that all confident women are single. It’s just that she doesn’t allow her romantic life to define her.

In fact, she doesn’t allow anything else to define her. She defines herself.

3. She Knows What She’s Meant to Do

The root of her confidence is understanding her overall purpose in life.

She knows exactly the kind of value she should be bringing to the world, whether it be leading a company, empowering other women, or breaking new ground in her industry.

Some people tend to lack confidence precisely because they don’t know what they’re doing and why they’re doing it.

They hop from one job or passion to the next without stopping to consider what it is they really want to do.

Confident women have a clear understanding of that.

The clarity allows her to understand her next steps in life, which group of people to stick to, and how to best interact with others to get what she wants.

4. She Isn’t Afraid to be Vulnerable

When we think of someone confident, we might imagine someone who is always brave and never feels discouraged or depressed.

But that isn’t true.

No matter how confident a confident woman is, she’s still a person at the end of the day.

While she may be braver than others, she can feel just as sad and frustrated as everyone else.

She isn’t impervious to emotion as if she’s some kind of robot.

The thing is that people mistake sadness and feeling insecure as a weakness.

So when someone tries to be confident, they try to mask their true emotions.

They tuck it away for no one, not even them, to face.

But it takes courage to show your true colors to others.

Vulnerability is one of a confident woman’s true strengths.

5. Setting Small Goals

They’re called “confident” for a reason. If they’re musicians, they aren’t the type to settle for just a record deal and some album sales.

They shoot for the moon: they imagine themselves winning the Grammy.

Others might already say that they’re a success already.

They’ll be performing at various concerts and shows often throughout the year.

But confident women never stop climbing; they’re always striving for more.

They do this by understanding the big picture and then setting smalls over a period of time to achieve that picture.

This allows them to keep going and avoid being stuck in a rut.

The question is: How can you also adopt the same mindset?

It takes more than just willpower, that’s for sure.

I learned about this from Life Journal, created by the highly-successful life coach and teacher Jeanette Brown.

You see, willpower only takes us so far…the key to transforming your life into something you’re passionate and enthusiastic about takes a shift in mindset about what your real purpose is, and effective goal setting.

And while this might sound like a mighty task to undertake, thanks to Jeanette’s guidance, it’s been easier to do than I could have ever imagined.

Click here to learn more about Life Journal.

Now, you may wonder what makes Jeanette’s course different from all the other personal development programs out there.

It all comes down to one thing:

Jeanette isn’t interested in being your life coach.

Instead, she wants YOU to take the reins in creating the life you’ve always dreamt of having.

So if you’re ready to stop dreaming and start living your best life, a life created on your terms, one which fulfills and satisfies you, don’t hesitate to check out Life Journal.

Here’s the link once again.

6. She Knows Her Worth

Confident women tend to be experienced and believe in their own skills.

When someone asks if she’s talented, she may not do the modest thing where she backs down and says, “Well, I mean, not really…”

Instead, she embraces her skills and experiences. She values her talents and doesn’t sell herself short.

If someone is working with her but is grossly underpaying her, she might be the first to call it out or fight back on the policies.

If her partner is holding her back, she isn’t afraid to reconsider the relationship.

She knows she’s better than that.

7. She Prioritizes Herself

This isn’t to say she’s narcissistic and selfish.

Instead, it means she takes care of herself so that she may work harder and longer than most.

In our culture, there tends to be people who believe that sleep is only “for the weak,” and that those that hustle to work more hours will get ahead.

While overworking might get more things done, those that often do that increase their chances of harming their physical and mental health.

Confident women understand that some things can wait till the morning.

Once she accomplishes what she needs to do for the day, that’s when she gives herself, her body, and mind the time to rest that it needs.

8. She Avoids Petty People

Some people tend to start arguments just because someone looked at them in a way they didn’t like, or because they didn’t receive the gift they wanted to receive.

They hold onto grudges for too long that it gets in the way of any meaningful work getting done.

These are the exact kinds of people confident women try to avoid.

They may only slow her down and potentially even exude negative energy that a confident woman just doesn’t have time for.

9. She Adapts to the New

Some CEOs tend to be afraid of too drastic a change because it might tarnish the culture of their company.

So they stick with old methods, no matter how outdated and inefficient they are.

The problem with doing this is that, while they may be playing it safe, they risk getting left behind.

Confident women CEOs aren’t afraid to dare to try something different and innovate.

It’s a risk they’re willing to take, which often puts them ahead of their competitors.

10. She’s a Leader

When someone doesn’t yet feel strong enough to voice their contradicting opinion on something, a confident woman helps them find their voice.

When someone has a personal problem that they need help with, she’s there to comfort them.

Through her hard work and dedication to what she does, she sets the example for everyone to follow.

If no opportunity is available to her, she makes it so.

She takes the initiative to create her own luck in the world because she understands no one is going to give it to her.

11. She Trusts Her Gut

Say there’s a job opportunity for her that would change her life. It seems too good to be true… and she can sense that.

She’s observant enough to spot the signs that it might not work out well for her, that the other party might only be serving their own interests.

When something doesn’t feel right, or if she’s got a bad feeling about the situation, she isn’t afraid to walk away from it, even if the opportunity has great potential.

This killer instinct is what sets her apart from the rest.

12. They tap Into Their Personal Power

Confident women take responsibility for their lives and tap into their personal power. They don’t let insecurities get the better of them.

I know, it can be difficult in the best of times to not dwell on your insecurities.

But confident women know that overcoming insecurities start with embracing your strengths.

We all have them, even if we’re not always aware of them.

This is where you start to really tap into your personal power. It’s a process that takes time, but the more you work at it, the stronger you’ll feel — and the stronger it’ll be able to help you.

You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it.

We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.

He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist.

It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.

Because true empowerment needs to come from within.

In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.

So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.

Click here to watch the free video.

13. She Embraces Her Sexuality

Some women tend to feel insecure about their own femininity.

They might have grown up in a conservative household or have only been taught about sexuality much later in life.

A confident woman, on the other hand, doesn’t feel ashamed of her body.

She doesn’t feel the need to please anyone with the way she looks and dresses.

She owns her body and doesn’t allow anyone to make her feel bad about herself.

14. She Expects Excellence

She doesn’t settle for merely good enough.

If she can be great, then she will push for it. It’s her aim for excellence in everything she does that makes her stand out from the rest.

Where other people might have already dropped off and given up on chasing their dreams, the confident woman works hard, clenches her teeth, and keeps going.

15. Finding Your Confidence

Just because you aren’t confident now doesn’t mean you never will be.

Some of the most confident women have had to deal with their fair share of crippling insecurities and bouts of self-doubt.

It’s by pushing through these feelings, maybe even having the support of friends and family, that’s allowed her to gain the confidence she needs to stand out.

Being confident is about fully embracing yourself, your past actions, your worries and insecurities.

They’re all you. A confident woman knows that.

She could either run away from it all (which is impossible because it’ll always be there), or she could face her own identity, forgive herself for what she’s done before and move on.

This may take time, but it’s going to be worth it.

Becoming a Confident Woman

Becoming a confident woman takes more than just saying you’re one. It’s a lifestyle. It starts with setting goals and then achieving them.

The problem is:

Many of us feel like our life is going nowhere.

We follow the same old routine every day and even though we try our best, it just doesn’t feel like our life moves forward.

So how can you overcome this feeling of being “stuck in a rut”?

Well, you need more than just willpower, that’s for sure.

I learned about this from Life Journal, created by the highly-successful life coach and teacher Jeanette Brown.

You see, willpower only takes us so far…the key to transforming your life into something you’re passionate and enthusiastic about takes perseverance, a shift in mindset, and effective goal setting.

And while this might sound like a mighty task to undertake, thanks to Jeanette’s guidance, it’s been easier to do than I could have ever imagined.

Click here to learn more about Life Journal.

Now, you may wonder what makes Jeanette’s course different from all the other personal development programs out there.

It all comes down to one thing:

Jeanette isn’t interested in being your life coach.

Instead, she wants YOU to take the reins in creating the life you’ve always dreamt of having.

So if you’re ready to stop dreaming and start living your best life, a life created on your terms, one which fulfills and satisfies you, don’t hesitate to check out Life Journal.

Here’s the link once again.

Putting yourself first

Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.

What’s your number one goal at the moment?

Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?

To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?

Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?

Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.

And even then…plans fail.

But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…

No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.

I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.

Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.

She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.

Click here to find out more about Life Journal.

So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.

How much do you want it?

Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?

If so, check out the workshop here.

If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!

All the best,
Lachlan

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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