Barack Obama, Bill Gates, Michael Jordan, Hillary Clinton. Besides being cultural icons and change-makers, they have something else in common: they are all introverts.
You may not have guessed it based on how much they’ve impacted people around the world.
They highlight a common misconception about introverts: not all introverts are shy.
Some are confident in themselves and their mission in life.
The traits of confident introverts such as those mentioned above can teach all of us, introverted or extroverted, valuable lessons about loving ourselves and improving the quality of our lives.
Here are 14 of their insightful traits.
1. They Don’t Copy
Some introverts who want to be more sociable might feel the need to simply copy what other people, likely an extrovert, would do.
What this could lead to, however, is muddle their own identity and hide what makes them unique.
Confident introverts are individuals in their own right.
They’re distinct and original.
They don’t try to copy what others are doing; they follow their interests so they may genuinely share it with others.
Introverts are in a good position to embrace their identity because they’re often very introspective.
We might feel the social pressure to change ourselves to fit in.
But instead, it might be better to look deep within ourselves and ask who we really are.
2. They Dare to Try New Things
Although introverts may not be the loudest in the room, that doesn’t mean they aren’t afraid to step up if they’re called to do something.
For instance, if someone is looking for someone to deliver an empowering speech then they are the ones chosen.
They may not back down from the challenge and instead embrace it.
They understand that it’s an opportunity for them to grow not only as professionals but as a person as well.
They step out of their comfort zone, which is what makes them confident introverts in the first place.
3. They Confront Their Feelings
Often, when someone feels down or discouraged, they look for ways to alleviate the pain.
They may go out for one too many drinks or drown themselves in work to run away from their negative feelings.
Research has found that this is an ineffective way of dealing with these difficult emotions.
It may even make the feelings linger.
Since confident introverts spend a good amount of their time in solitude in their own heads, they tend to be better at dealing with their own negative emotions. Instead of running away from it, they confront it.
They acknowledge their emotions and process them in a healthy way.
4. They Don’t Try to Impress Others
Confident introverts don’t tend to be the type to look for external validation for what they’re doing.
They don’t take on a passion project because they want others to think how amazing or productive they are; they do it because they’re driven by something much deeper than that.
Take learning, for instance.
Introverts tend to love it.
They may not be the type to earn high marks and receive countless certifications just to show it off to people.
It’s simply a byproduct of their hunger for knowledge.
5. They Know How to Laugh
Some people tend to take things much more seriously than needed.
They get all tight and wound up, beating themselves up for something they did in the past.
While regretting past action could be a definite sign of growth, it doesn’t always have to result in punishing oneself for doing something they thought was right.
Confident introverts, just like everyone else, look back at their lives and feel regret for some of the things they’ve done.
The difference is that they know how to laugh about it. Laughing at themselves also shows their humility.
They understand that they aren’t perfect and don’t falsely claim they are.
They’ve made mistakes, but know when to move on.
6. They Shoot for the Moon
They’re called “confident” for a reason. If they’re musicians, they aren’t the type to settle for just a record deal and some album sales.
They shoot for the moon: they imagine themselves winning the Grammy.
Others might already say that they’re a success already.
They’ll be performing at various concerts and shows often throughout the year.
But confident introverts never stop climbing; they’re always striving for more.
They do this by understanding the big picture and then setting smalls over a period of time to achieve that picture.
This allows them to keep going and avoid being stuck in a rut.
The question is: How can you also adopt the same mindset?
It takes more than just willpower, that’s for sure.
I learned about this from Life Journal, created by the highly-successful life coach and teacher Jeanette Brown.
You see, willpower only takes us so far…the key to transforming your life into something you’re passionate and enthusiastic about takes a shift in mindset about what your real purpose is, and effective goal setting.
And while this might sound like a mighty task to undertake, thanks to Jeanette’s guidance, it’s been easier to do than I could have ever imagined.
Now, you may wonder what makes Jeanette’s course different from all the other personal development programs out there.
It all comes down to one thing:
Jeanette isn’t interested in being your life coach.
Instead, she wants YOU to take the reins in creating the life you’ve always dreamt of having.
So if you’re ready to stop dreaming and start living your best life, a life created on your terms, one which fulfills and satisfies you, don’t hesitate to check out Life Journal.
7. They Can Act Despite Their Feelings
In social situations, a confident introvert might naturally want to clam up and run away from the crowd.
But they also understand the emotion they’re feeling.
They can understand it to the point where they don’t rely on their feelings to tell them how to act; they can act despite their feelings.
So they can stay and go a little out of their comfort zone.
This is an important trait they have.
Often, if we’re afraid, we might go along with it and run away.
If we’re angry, we lose control of ourselves and yell at someone who doesn’t actually deserve it.
Confident introvert is mindful of how they feel and know they can always choose how to ultimately act.
8. They Don’t Worry About What They Can’t Control
As the stoics believe, everything in life can essentially be split into two groups: the things we can control, and the things we can’t.
We might not realize it, but we might be stressing too much about the things we can’t control rather than the things we actually can.
Be it the weather or what someone thinks of us, these are examples of things out of our control that doesn’t deserve the stress we may often give it.
Confident introverts understand the difference between the two.
They choose to focus on what they can control rather than what they can’t.
That’s what makes them so much more effective.
9. They Know There’s Always Something More to Learn
Confident introverts aren’t so confident that they know everything there is to know about a certain field. They remain students.
They understand that growth never stops.
Although they may start thinking that they’re experts at something, which is often called the Dunning-Kruger effect, life will always find a way to humble them and prove them wrong.
Then, they take that chance to keep learning.
They don’t tend to stay frustrated about it for long.
Instead, they always look for the lesson in what they did wrong and try to become better moving forward.
10. They’re Respectful and Welcoming
You may not see a confident introvert spread the latest gossip about someone.
They understand there are more important things in life to focus on.
They also value connections and experiences with people more than most things.
That’s why they always try to treat people with respect, even if it’s someone they may disagree with.
11. They Know How to Set Boundaries
One of the most common traits that introverts share is the need for some form of solitude.
They’re comfortable being alone. In fact, they tend to do some of their best thinking when they’re alone.
This is why it’s so important for them to set boundaries, to let other people know that they’re going to be away for some time.
Bill Gates, for example, takes his solitude very seriously.
Once or twice a year, he would spend a week alone in a cabin reading, writing, and most of all thinking about solutions to the problems he’s trying to solve.
12. They Cherish Experiences
Since confident introverts don’t tend to be the type to focus on the material things in life, they’re the type to focus more on the experiences that they get with people.
If they attend a concert, they may be one of the outliers without a phone in the air recording the concert.
They’re one of the people that simply try to live in the moment and enjoy it.
The connections they look for can’t be replicated online.
They’d much rather sit at a table with someone over a nice meal to get to know them more.
13. They Tap Into Their Personal Power
Confident introverts take responsibility for their lives and tap into their personal power. They don’t let insecurities get the better of them.
I know, it can be difficult in the best of times to not dwell on your insecurities.
But confident introverts know that overcoming insecurities start with embracing their strengths.
We all have them, even if we’re not always aware of them.
This is where you start to really tap into your personal power. It’s a process that takes time, but the more you work at it, the stronger you’ll feel — and the stronger it’ll be able to help you.
You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it.
We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.
He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist.
It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.
Because true empowerment needs to come from within.
In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.
So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.
14. They Don’t Give In to Social Pressures
Some people are told to go with the flow of things.
They’re told to follow the rules, fall in line and not make a scene.
Often it’s these people that feel the most trapped or unfulfilled in their life.
While confident introverts aren’t exactly the type to be screaming with joy, they at least understand the importance of living life on their own terms.
They aren’t afraid to simply be themselves, no matter how different they may be.
Ironically, it’s the people that aren’t afraid to be themselves that tend to be admired the most.
They don’t mind if they’ll be alone, because they enjoy solitude anyway.
What matters is that they are who they are because they said so.
Discovering Your Confidence
Not all of us are born confident.
Some have their insecurities gobble them up from the inside for too many years of their lives.
The good news is that it’s never too late to make a positive change in your life.
You always have a chance to become a better, more confident version of yourself.
It’s important to first not beat yourself up about your own insecurities. The fact is that everyone has them.
To become more confident, you need to be willing to not only love yourself but to accept yourself as well.
Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and accept your own flaws. This process doesn’t happen overnight.
It could take you months or years. What’s important is that you try to love yourself more every day.
Putting yourself first
Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.
And even then…plans fail.
But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…
No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.
I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.
Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.
She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.
So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.
How much do you want it?
Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?
If so, check out the workshop here.
If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!
All the best,
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