What is it that drives people to do the things they do?
People spend their whole lives thinking that life is happening to them, instead of happening for them, and they are oblivious to what is making them tick.
International self-help guru, Tony Robbins, takes the time to explain what makes them do the things they do, and how to motivate yourself to achieve your goals.
Viewed over 20 million times, you can watch Robbins’ incredible presentation here:
Tony Robbins begins by reminding his audience that we aren’t all self-serving people.
Most of us are happier when living a life that services others. Gandhi said that “to find yourself, lose yourself in the service of others.”
“You don’t work in your self-interest all the time, because when emotion comes into it, the wiring changes in the way it functions.”
Robbins encourages people to take a hard look at where they are in life so they can start moving toward a life that brings them closer together and helps them serve others to find the happiness they long for.
His goal is to help people appreciate one another, not necessarily strive to understand everyone.
The two crucial lessons Tony Robbins has learned
Robbins says there are two important lessons he has learned from 30 years of coaching others:
Lesson 1: There’s a science to achievement, which many people have mastered amazingly. You work hard, you focus on what’s important and you slowly improve as time goes on.
2. What’s rarely mastered is the “art of fulfilment”. Fulfilment isn’t a science like achievement. It’s an art. It’s about your contribution to others. It involves other people.
He says that you can look at some of the most successful people who have been handed everything in life, yet somehow they’re not fulfilled:
“Those people very often — you know some of them — end up the rest of their life with all this love, education, money and background going in and out of rehab. Some people have been through ultimate pain, psychologically, sexually, spiritually, emotionally abused — and not always, but often, they become some of the people that contribute the most to society.”
Tony Robbins says that what we really need to learn is that people are not their past. They don’t have to be the sum of their parts and can become new people if they want to do that:
“The mindset that we are our past. And you wouldn’t be in this room if you bought that, but most of society thinks biography is destiny. The past equals the future. Of course it does if you live there. But what we know and what we have to remind ourselves — because you can know something intellectually and then not use it, not apply it…We’ve got to remind ourselves that decision is the ultimate power.”
Tony Robbins says that people don’t need more money, time, help; they need to be more resourceful with what they already have.
3 questions you need to ask yourself
Giving yourself the ability to change your life happens when you ask yourself three questions:
What is your focus going to be?
Is this the end or the beginning?
Is this punishment or reward, or a roll of the dice?
The emotions that stir up as a result of answering these questions can determine your success. If you are uplifted, happy, interested, you will likely succeed. If you are doubtful, worried, or sullen, you might struggle to find your way.
It’s this state that we evoke that will help us succeed:
“Your model of the world is what shapes you long term. Your model of the world is the filter. That’s what’s shaping us.”
Some people are motivated by money, success, love, acknowledgement, and others are motivated to serve humanity, help people, and contribute to their communities.
Everyone does it in their own way, and if more people paid attention to why they are doing the things they are doing, we might start to see a shift in human behavior.
Not only is it important to look inside ourselves to decide what we believe, but we need to question what we think we know about ourselves and the world around us in order to find the kind of emotion and state that will allow us to live the best life possible.
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