10 things truly confident people never say about themselves

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If you’ve ever met a truly confident person, you know they stick out like a sore thumb from the rest of the people. 

They simply have a different outlook on life, its possibilities, and themselves. I did some research and pondered about their behavior and how they think. 

The result is in front of you – 10 things genuinely confident people never say about themselves.

1) “I’m the best at everything”

Truly confident people don’t feel like they need to constantly affirm and declare their superiority in every aspect of life. 

They know everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and they’re comfortable admitting and accepting their own limitations. 

They are secure enough in their abilities to be humble and gracious when others excel in areas where they may not be as strong.

From my experience, the ones with perhaps the least skills and know-how boast about being the best in something. 

If you’ve ever seen a politician talk on TV, you know what I’m talking about. 

2) “I’m always right”

Let me confess something. I’m very stubborn, and 9 times out of 10, I think I’m dead right on things. 

I won’t lie to you, it gets me into trouble at times. I also know it’s not a healthy mindset to have, so I’m now adjusting.  

On the other side, confident people are, I’d say, naturally open-minded and listen to different perspectives. They make mistakes just like the next person, and it’s how they learn and grow. 

But above else, they’re open to constructive criticism and see it as an opportunity to improve rather than a personal attack.

This is also something I personally have to improve about myself. 

3) “I need everyone to like me”

Likewise, confident folks don’t base their self-worth on external validation or the approval of others. 

They know it’s impossible to please everyone and focus on being true to themselves and their values instead of looking for constant approval from others. 

They’re content with the genuine connections they form and don’t feel the need to be universally liked.

They’re the opposite of people pleasers that bend over backward to appease others while not staying true to themselves

4) “I’m not good enough” & “I’m not worth it”

As we know, genuinely confident people have a positive self-image and believe in their abilities. 

They focus on their strengths and achievements while recognizing areas where they can improve. 

What’s most important, they don’t constantly put themselves down or self-sabotage. On the contrary.

Self-efficacy, or belief in your ability to complete a task or achieve a goal, is the most important ingredient for success. 

Just think about it, how can you achieve great things in life if you don’t believe in yourself?

5) “I’m just lucky” & “I don’t deserve success”

Do you often attribute your accomplishments to mere luck? When someone congratulates you on an achievement, do you dismiss it as something every Joe Shmoe could do?  

It’s time to stop this behavior. Not only is it demeaning to yourself, but it also diminishes all the hard work and dedication you put into things. 

In my opinion, even winning the lottery is hard work. Most people who win have played for many years and endured disappointment after disappointment. 

I’m not playing the lottery because I simply couldn’t be bothered. I keep forgetting to play, and I hate the feeling of being hopeful a couple of times per week, only to be disappointed. 

But confident people hold their hard work and efforts as the primary reasons for their success. 

While they’re not stupid and recognize the role of external factors and luck, they don’t undermine their capabilities by attributing all their achievements to chance.

They’re proponents of the old “The harder I work, the luckier I get!”

6) “I don’t need any help; I can do it all on my own”  

Another thing that truly confident people never say is that they can do it all alone. 

They’re secure enough to seek help when necessary. They comprehend that asking for assistance isn’t a sign of weakness but a testament to their willingness to learn and collaborate with others. 

They appreciate the value of teamwork and support. And in the end, it’s not what you know. It’s who you know!

7) “I wish I were someone else”

How many times did this sentence cross my mind in the last 40 years? Many! 

But mostly in my teen and early twenties. That’s natural for most people as we’re still developing our persona in these years.

But, unfortunately, wishing they were someone else is a reality for many people even as they grow older because they’re not satisfied with how their lives turned out to be

For most people, life is an endless 9-5 grind with a weekend spent recuperating from work.  

Still, confident people are content with who they are and what they do. They don’t waste time comparing themselves to others or wishing to be someone else. 

When they start being dissatisfied with things in life, they start changing them. They’re hopelessly proactive and believe the change truly starts with them. 

This leads me to the next point. 

8) “I’m afraid to try new things”

Confident people are open to new experiences and challenges. They see stepping outside their comfort zone as an opportunity for growth and development. 

They dare to take risks and learn from both successes and failures. 

Although I’m not nearly as confident as I’d like to be, I’m regularly stepping out of my comfort zone. 

For example, I’ve moved countries with my young family several times and changed careers a couple of times too. 

And nothing signifies being out of your comfort zone more than being an entrepreneur and/or freelancer. 

9) “I can’t handle failure”

Many people get ready at the starting line. But when the starting pistol goes off, they simply get up and, instead of running, turn around and finish the race before it even started for them.

They’re so afraid of failure and what people will think of them if and when they fail that they don’t even begin with their dreams, goals, adventures, businesses, etc. 

On the flip side, confident people are resilient when they’re faced with failure. They see setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve instead of a reason to give up. 

But what’s most important, they don’t let fear of failure prevent them from pursuing (and achieving) their goals. 

10) “I’m not capable of achieving my goals”

I wanted to finish this article with another important self-deprecating and paralyzing thought that genuinely confident people never consider. 

On the contrary, they set ambitious goals for themselves and work diligently to achieve them. They have faith in their abilities and believe in their potential to overcome challenges. 

With a positive mindset and the determination to succeed, they crush any goals they set for themselves.

Final thoughts

There you have it – 10 things you won’t hear a genuinely confident person say about themselves. 

If you adopt just some of your mindset, you’ll also be more confident. First of all, stop thinking you suck at everything. Think of what you’re good at. 

If there are areas you need to improve in, become better by 1% each day, and in no time, you’ll become a master. 

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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