There’s a lot of reasons why a guy might ask why you love him and a lot of ways you can respond.
In this article, I want to explain some of the reasons behind why guys ask this question and more importantly, what you can say in response. After all, you love him very much and you want him to know it.
So, let’s get started with a chief worry you might have when he pops the question (no, not that one).
19 things you can say when he needs to know why you love him
1) “You make me happy.”
This is always a great place to start. It’s usually what first comes to mind for most people, too.
It might sound a bit generic or insincere by itself, though. So don’t be afraid to explain why he makes you so happy, and how.
Explain that your happiness in the relationship makes you feel even more in love with him.
The happiness of my significant other is always really important to me. So to hear her say that I make her happy always feels good.
Love and happiness go hand in hand and a healthy relationship is characterized by plenty of both. In fact, if the love you give makes you happy, you’re bound to spread happiness wherever you go.
Happiness isn’t always easy, though. Here’s a great set of key elements that help people lead happier lives.
2) “I feel whole with you.”
While the ability to be complete and satisfied by yourself is vital to a fulfilled and healthy life, there’s nothing wrong with feeling like your significant other completes you.
The bottom line: It’s common for us to feel more complete when we’re with somebody that we love.
In fact, relationships, whether romantic or not, add length, vitality, and happiness to our lives. We’re social creatures. The same thing applies in romantic relationships.
So when your boyfriend is asking you why you love him, you can tell him that he makes you feel complete.
Describe the ways that he completes you, how your worries and troubles are eased when he’s with you, the way that his qualities make you feel whole.
If for some reason you don’t feel at ease in your relationship, here’s a great article identifying some common signs of relationship anxiety and what you can do about it. I’ve found it very helpful.
3) “You’re always there for me.”
If your man is consistent, reliable, and dependable, this is a great way to explain why you love him.
It’s likely that he puts forth a notable amount of effort to be there for you when you need him. When you acknowledge that, you’ll quickly reassure him.
If it’s easy to remember off the top of your head, you could even mention a few specific examples that you’ve really appreciated over the years.
Besides, when someone pulls through for you in your time of need, it’s hard not to love them even more. And remember, acts of service are a common love language of many people.
Understanding this about your significant other will only help the two of you grow closer.
4) Want advice specific to your situation?
While this article explores the main things you can say when he asks you why you love him, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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5) “You always make me laugh, even when I’m having a bad day.”
The ability to keep a sense of humor in the face of adversity is a key sign of mentally resilient people.
If your boyfriend has the ability to make you laugh no matter how trying or difficult life is, he’s probably a keeper.
He knows that a good laugh will cheer you up, even when you’re feeling at your lowest. Even more than that, he knows just how to get a giggle out of you.
It’s one of his most invaluable skills and a great thing to bring up when he asks “why do you love me?”
Think back on all the times he’s made you laugh and turned your mood around and then explain to him your genuine appreciation for it. Tell him how much it makes you love him.
If you’d like to learn some other secrets mentally resilient people have, take a look at this great article.
6) “You’re gorgeous.”
While outward appearance isn’t the primary reason we date and fall in love with people, it is almost always a key element of attraction, intimacy, and passion.
As a total romantic and a bit of a poet, I love thinking of all the creative ways I can tell my significant other how attractive and breathtaking they are.
When your boyfriend is asking why you love him, remember that he could just be looking for a little validation. Or he could be in need of a pick-me-up, a confidence boost.
If his looks drive you wild, don’t hesitate to tell him. It could be just the compliment he needed.
Keep in mind, though, that if you only tell him you love him for his looks, he might still be wondering if there’s more to your relationship than just physical attraction.
Make sure to add in a couple of these others, too, for good measure.
7) “I can always be myself around you.”
The ability to be ourselves around those that we love the most is something that should never be taken for granted.
Here’s what I mean:
We’re given a safe space with them where we are allowed to be whoever we want to be and still be accepted. Having that kind of relationship is a beautiful thing and an unfortunately rare thing at times.
When we’re not afraid to be emotionally vulnerable with our significant other, it’s a great sign of a healthy and strong relationship built on trust, love, and respect.
If you love your boyfriend enough to trust him with your most vulnerable emotions and feelings, make sure to tell him. Explain to him how much it means to you.
There’s nothing like being our silliest, strangest, least attractive, and most honest self around the person we love most in the world.
Make sure to tell him all about how it makes you feel when he asks why you love him.
8) “You make me feel safe.”
The importance of safety and security in a relationship cannot be understated. How so?
People who are unsafe in relationships demand trust instead of earning it, avoid facing their personal issues, and won’t admit their weaknesses, no matter how close they are to you.
In other words, being in a relationship with someone like this is a recipe for disaster, heartbreak, and even trauma.
On the other hand, when you feel safe around your boyfriend, you feel loved, you feel secure, and you have no doubts about the relationship.
It makes you love him all the more, knowing that he actively makes you feel safe.
Don’t be afraid to tell him this. Think about all the little things — and big things — that he does to make you feel safe and then tell him about them.
He’ll be more than relieved to hear you say it when he asks why you love him.
9) “You always make time for me.”
If your man always makes sure he gives you the time you need when you need it, he’s probably a keeper. It’s one of many ways that people show their affection and devotion in a relationship and it’s no different for him.
No doubt, then, you appreciate every minute that he spends with you, especially the ones where you need him most.
So let him know how much it makes you love him. Tell him how you notice when he makes time for you, even when it’s not the most convenient for him.
Make sure to tell him how much that makes you love him, and why it means so much to you.
10) “We have so much fun together.”
If one of the highlights of your relationship is going out with your boyfriend, it’s clear that you have a lot of fun together.
Your ability to go on adventures, hand in hand, always having fun, points to a healthy and dynamic relationship.
It doesn’t always have to be crazy date nights or spontaneous road trips, either. It could be that the laziest of days, spent at home watching tv on the couch, is just as fun as the rest.
There’s really nothing quite like having fun with the person you love the most.
When your boyfriend asks you why you love him, talk about all the fun you two have together. Not only will it prove how much you love him, but it’ll also remind him of all the good times, and all the reasons he loves you.
11) “You’re so devoted to me.”
For you, loyalty and devotion might be one of the most important aspects of any relationship. How does your man hold up?
If his devotion to you is flawless, if you admire and love him for his ability to stay devoted to you, then tell him. He’ll love to hear you explain why his devotion to you makes you so in love.
And when that happens, he’ll be even more inspired to keep it that way.
If you’re on the hunt for more ways to make a man addicted to you, here’s a great article about it.
12) “Everything about you is exactly perfect.”
Obviously, we all make mistakes. Despite that fact, I find myself often marveling at just how perfect my significant other is. Everything about them, down to their strange quirks and idiosyncrasies, just makes my heart race.
When it feels meant to be, don’t be afraid to vocalize it as often as you want. It’s not like your boyfriend will get sick of hearing how perfect he is.
And when he asks, don’t be afraid to gush about every little detail about him that makes him exactly perfect in your eyes. He’ll feel valued, loved, and if you do it right, maybe even a little bit embarrassed.
13) “You inspire me to be my best self.”
What would inspire you to say this to your boyfriend when he asks why you love him?
Here’s what to look out for:
Your man has faith in you, not just on the surface, but faith in who you are at your core. When he sees you down and out, when he’s with you at your very worst, he still believes in you.
His confidence in you is unshakeable, but he takes it a step further.
How so? By cheering you up, giving you a pep talk, making sure that you never doubt yourself.
In other words, he inspires you to be your very best self. Someone who does this for you truly cares about you and wants what’s best for you.
And that’s as good of a reason as any to love someone. Make sure to tell him why you feel so inspired to be your best self around him and why that makes you love him so much.
14) “I love your heart.”
It’s marvelous to see your significant other’s ability to love and feel for other people outside of the relationship. You can tell that they have this big, warm, and kind heart.
Complimenting your boyfriend on his heart is a tender and powerful way to tell him why you love him so much. You can see how empathetic he is, how much he wishes he could help everyone.
When he hears you noticing the kindness he has for other people, it will give him the confidence and strength to keep it that way.
In other words, telling him that you love his heart is a great answer to the question “why do you love me?”.
Having a kind heart is a sign of a respectful man. Here’s a look at some key signs a respectful man exhibits in a relationship.
15) “I’m so lucky to share a life with you.”
I often find myself thinking about all the things in my life that make me feel lucky.
One of the things at the top of my list is my girlfriend. Every day I can’t believe that I get to know someone as amazing as her, let alone be in a relationship with her.
When you find yourself thinking about how thankful you are that someone as amazing as your boyfriend is in your life, it can be a great thing to say when he asks why you love him.
But where can you start?
Tell him about how lucky you are to share a life with him, how special and thankful that makes you feel. He’ll be beaming as you tell him all the reasons why you love him so much.
16) “We’re just so good together.”
There’s nothing quite like the feeling of being a power couple.
Everywhere you go, people recognize it. You just fit together. Your energy compliments each other, and it’s clear to everyone who sees.
In other words, you have more than just good chemistry. You have synergy.
And that synergy comes from your ability to work together as a couple, trust each other, and give each other the space to be confident and unique.
Those feelings lead to a deeper love, so when your boyfriend is asking you the question “why do you love me?” give him this answer.
You won’t really have to explain why you’re good together — he’ll know just as well as you. But, tell him how it makes you feel: how excited and satisfied your shared chemistry makes you.
As long as you’re making it personal, this is a great answer that will build confidence in both of you.
If you’re feeling like self-doubt is holding you back in life, here’s a look at some really effective ways to overcome it.
17) “You’re so unapologetically yourself.”
Individuality should be celebrated in a relationship. What does that mean?
It means this: being exactly alike in every way is — well, boring. And it’s not necessarily a sign of compatibility.
Independence and individuality are key elements of a healthy relationship, one that will last and weather life’s changes and bumps.
Learning to celebrate the individuality of your significant other is a tool that will help your relationship and your happiness thrive.
But, you may already know all that stuff and your boyfriend’s uniqueness is one of your absolute favorite things about him.
When you see him expressing himself in ways that only he can do, it makes you fall in love with him all the more. Make note of all the things that he does while he’s being unapologetically himself.
That way, when he asks you the question “why do you love me?”, you can be prepared with an answer.
And here’s the good news, when he knows you love him for exactly who he is, he’ll feel safer and more loved in your relationship.
18) “You inspire me to make my dreams come true.”
If you feel like your man does this for you, make sure to tell him, even if he doesn’t ask you why you love him.
Being with someone who’s genuinely inspiring makes for a good life. You’ve found someone who loves and supports you, and also inspires you to keep growing as a person.
When your boyfriend is supportive and helps you make your dreams come true, it’s impossible not to love him for it. Not only does he give you moral support, but he also helps you reach your goals in any way he can.
On the other hand, you’re doing the same thing for him. His dreams are important to you and you want to give him the confidence to do everything he can to reach them.
The sky really is the limit in a relationship where both people are actively making their dreams come true, and in the process supporting each other.
It makes for a strong relationship based on growth, mutual respect, and a lot of love.
19) “You have so much confidence in me.”
When you’re riddled with self-doubt, sometimes all it takes is a kind word, a helping hand, or having someone who believes in you.
Your boyfriend is always rooting for you, no matter how much you doubt yourself.
His ineffable confidence in you gives you the stability and strength you need to make it through on those days when you don’t even want to get out of bed.
With that in mind, it’s impossible not to love him for it. The way he always has confidence in you, your strength, and your ability to overcome is just — beautiful.
Remember, though, that’s a two-way street. If he’s asking you why you love him, it could be that he’s having self-doubt, too.
In that case, then, all he needs is a kind word, a helping hand, or having someone who believes in him. Don’t be afraid to tell him why you love him so much, and how much of an impact his confidence in you has on your life.
How to explain why you love him
The way we love as people is always a little bit different than the next. It’s one of the many things that makes us all so unique.
We all share an ability to love outside of ourselves. How we show it, as well as how that gets translated inside each person’s mind, will always be different.
With that in mind, then, it’s important to remember that your boyfriend doesn’t exactly know how you love. The exact way in which you love is a personal trait.
Granted, your actions and words and expressions will communicate that to him, to a certain degree.
But when he’s asking you why you love him, don’t be afraid to tell him in detail about the way that you love, how it works in your mind, from your perspective.
Tell him how he fits into that picture and your personal definitions of love.
In other words, don’t be afraid to explain how he makes you feel loved, as well as all the ways you love him in return.
And, of course, make sure to be genuine with him. There’s no need to flatter, just be honest and clear. What you say will be exactly what he needs to hear, if he’s willing to listen.
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.