11 things you’re posting on social media that people secretly judge you for

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Ever posted something on social media and then deleted it because you started to worry about what others might think?

You’re not alone. We’ve all been there, wondering if our post was too boring, too silly or just plain weird.

Social media is a great place to share our lives, but it can also make us feel a bit judged sometimes.

Nowadays, what we post on social media can really shape how people see us.

We all know it’s important not to share anything too personal or rude.

But, there are some other things that might be making people judge us without even realizing it.

This article will highlight 11 things you might be posting on social media that could be making people secretly judge you.

1. Over-sharing your personal life

We’ve all got that one friend who shares every single detail of their day on social media.

From what they had for breakfast to the new pair of socks they just bought.

While it’s completely fine to share aspects of your life, constant over-sharing can come off as attention-seeking and could make people start secretly judging you.

Remember, it’s okay to keep some parts of your life private and not everyone needs to know what you’re doing every second of the day.

So next time, before hitting that ‘post’ button, ask yourself: “Is this something I really need to share?”

2. Constant Negativity

While it’s perfectly okay to vent out once in a while, constantly posting about how bad your day was, how annoying your boss is, or how you’re always stuck in traffic can be a downer for your followers.

Social media is often seen as a platform for positive interaction and a space to share inspirational or fun content.

If your timeline is filled with negativity, people might start to associate you with those feelings.

It’s always better to balance out the negative with positive posts to avoid becoming that ‘Debbie Downer’ of your social media circle.

3. Posting Controversial Opinions Too Often

I used to love getting into debates on social media. I’d post my opinions on hot-button issues, ready to argue with anyone who disagreed.

But, over time, I started noticing that people were interacting less with my posts.

A close friend finally told me that while it’s great to have strong opinions, constantly sparking debates can make your social media feed feel more like a battleground than a friendly space.

The lesson I learned? It’s absolutely fine to have strong beliefs and share them occasionally.

But turning every post into a debate can push people away.

So now, I try to balance my controversial posts with lighter, fun content.

And guess what?

My engagement has gone up again and my feed feels like a friendly community once more.

4. Posting Too Many Selfies

Did you know that according to a study from Washington State University, people who post a lot of selfies are often perceived as less likable, less successful, and more insecure?

While the occasional selfie is not a problem and can be a fun way to share your experiences, flooding your followers’ feed with your face might not create the best impression.

In fact, it could be seen as self-absorbed or attention-seeking.

Mix it up with pictures of the places you’ve been, things you love, or photos that capture a moment rather than just your face.

5. Complaining about your relationships

Heartbreak is tough, no doubt about it. Whether it’s a fallout with your best friend or a breakup with your partner, such moments can leave you feeling vulnerable and in need of support.

However, turning to social media to air your grievances might not be the best way to deal with it.

It’s natural to want to express your feelings, but public rants about personal relationships can make others uncomfortable.

Moreover, it might give people the impression that you lack respect for others’ privacy.

In times of emotional turmoil, consider reaching out directly to a trusted friend or family member for support instead of posting on social media.

It’s important to remember that some things are better shared off the screen.

6. Sharing Every Workout or Diet Detail

I’ll admit it, I was once guilty of this one. After starting a new fitness regime, I was so excited about my progress that I began sharing every single detail of my workouts and meals on social media.

I thought I was inspiring others, but I soon realized that not everyone shared my enthusiasm.

A close friend gently pointed out that while it’s great to share my fitness journey, overdoing it might come across as bragging or even make others feel pressured to live up to my standards.

I took their advice to heart and started to limit my fitness-related posts.

Now, I make sure to post a wider variety of content, keeping my fitness journey as just one aspect of my multifaceted life.

In the end, your social media feed should reflect your whole life and not just one part of it.

Sharing your passion is great, but don’t forget to show other parts of your life too. 

7. Flaunting your Wealth

We’ve all seen those posts where people flaunt their latest designer purchases or show off their exotic holidays.

And while it’s great to celebrate success and enjoy the finer things in life, constantly parading your wealth on social media can come off as shallow and materialistic.

Even if you’ve worked hard for what you have, showing it off too much can create a divide between you and your followers who may not be as fortunate.

It’s about empathy and understanding that not everyone’s financial situation is the same.

So, by all means, celebrate your victories, but try to do so in a way that is humble and considerate.

8. Posting Misleading Information

Sharing misleading or incorrect information, whether unknowingly or not, can significantly damage your credibility on social media.

Whether it’s a fake news article, a doctored photo, or an out-of-context quote, spreading false information can lead people to question your judgement and reliability.

Before you hit ‘share’ on that sensational headline or viral meme, take a moment to verify its accuracy from a reliable source.

A well-informed and truthful post can earn you respect and trust among your social media circle.

9. Posting Only Highlight Reels

I remember a time when I used to only post pictures from my happiest moments.

My feed was filled with smiling selfies, fancy dinners, and joyful celebrations.

But then, a friend reached out to me saying they felt inadequate looking at my “perfect” life.

That’s when I realized, by only showing the best parts of my life, I was unintentionally making others feel like their lives didn’t measure up.

Social media should be an authentic reflection of our lives – the highs and the lows.

Now, I try to share not just the happy moments, but also the challenges and ordinary days.

Remember, it’s okay to show that you’re human and that not every day is filled with rainbows and sunshine.

A touch of reality can make your social media presence more relatable and authentic.

10. Overusing Hashtags

Overusing hashtags can make your posts look cluttered and desperate for attention.

Sure, they can help increase your post’s visibility, but stuffing your captions with dozens of hashtags can make it seem like you’re trying too hard to gain followers or likes.

It’s better to use a few relevant hashtags than a flood of random ones. 

11. Ignoring Comments and Messages

Ignoring comments and messages from your followers is a bit like inviting people to your party and then ignoring them once they show up.

If people take the time to engage with your posts or send you a message, it’s good manners to respond, even if it’s just with a simple ‘like’ or ‘thanks’.

By ignoring them, you might come off as rude or uninterested in your followers.

Social media is about building relationships and conversations, not just broadcasting your life.


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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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