9 things people do when they’re genuinely interested in you

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If you are as passionate as me in understanding people and human behavior, you’ll recognize that our interactions are riddled with subtle cues and signals. Yet, it’s surprising how often these are misread or overlooked. The ability to accurately interpret and respond to these emotional nuances can be the bridge between genuine connection and a missed opportunity.

Think you have a keen sense for detecting others’ emotions? How sure are you?

After observing countless interactions, and reflecting deeply on my own experiences and those of my friends, I’ve compiled a list of 9 things people do when they’re genuinely interested in you.

If these actions seem familiar, it may be time to acknowledge that someone might genuinely care about you.

1) They remember small details

The first sign of someone genuinely interested in you is their uncanny ability to remember small details.

It could be your favorite movie, the name of your childhood pet, or even the story you told them about your 5th-grade science fair project.

You see, when people are genuinely interested, they pay attention. They actively listen when you speak and remember the little things that may seem inconsequential.

These details matter to them because they matter to you.

So next time when someone brings up a minor detail from a past conversation, it might not be a sign of an extraordinary memory, but rather a clear indication of their genuine interest in you.

It’s a sign that they’ve been listening intently, valuing your words, and truly care about getting to know you better.

2) They initiate contact

The second sign to look out for is whether they initiate contact.

This doesn’t just mean calling or texting first, but also reaching out to make plans, asking about your day, or simply sharing something they think you might find interesting or amusing.

The truth is, when someone is genuinely interested in you, they aren’t waiting around for you to make all the moves.

They’re eager to engage with you and keep the lines of communication open.

They won’t worry about looking too eager or coming off too strong because their desire to connect with you outweighs these concerns. 

3) They invest time in you

One of the most significant indicators of genuine interest is the investment of time. It’s one thing to say you’re interested, but it’s another thing entirely to show it by spending quality time together.

I personally experienced this with a friend of mine. We had met through mutual friends and initially didn’t have much in common.

However, they consistently made an effort to spend time with me, even if it meant watching a genre of movies they didn’t particularly enjoy or trying out a new cuisine that was out of their comfort zone.

Their willingness to invest time in our friendship and share experiences together, despite our differences, was a clear sign of genuine interest.

They weren’t just spending time with me out of convenience or obligation; they were doing so because they genuinely wanted to know more about me and share in my interests and experiences.

4) They show empathy towards you

Empathy is a crucial element in any relationship; it’s what allows us to understand and share the feelings of others.

And those who are genuinely interested in you will exhibit empathy, showing a keen desire to understand your experiences and emotions.

With that being said, empathy isn’t just about offering a shoulder to cry on during tough times.

It’s also about sharing in your moments of joy, being excited when you’re excited, and celebrating your victories with you.

If someone you know is displaying these behaviors towards you, take it as a positive sign they’re genuinely interested in you

5) They encourage your goals and dreams

Another telltale sign of genuine interest is when someone encourages your ambitions and dreams. They believe in your potential and want to see you succeed.

I remember when I was starting my own business; it was a terrifying leap into the unknown.

One person, however, stood out amongst the crowd of well-wishers. This person didn’t just offer generic words of encouragement; they actively supported my dream.

They offered to help with my business plan, introduced me to potential investors, and consistently checked in on my progress.

Their support was more than just a friendly gesture – it was a sincere investment in my success.

To me, their actions demonstrated their genuine interest not just in the person I was but also in the person I aspired to become.

The bottom line is, if someone in your life is cheering for you, pushing you forward, and helping you grow, chances are they’re being genuine.

They see your potential and are excited about your future – because they hope to be a part of it.

6) They respect your boundaries

Observing how someone respects your boundaries provides insightful glimpses into their level of genuine interest.

This isn’t merely about physical space but extends to honoring your emotional and social boundaries as well.

Here’s the thing:

When someone truly cares, they don’t push or insist but rather navigate around your comfort zones with grace and understanding, ensuring you never feel pressured or compelled.

Respecting boundaries translates to recognizing and valuing your personal limits, providing you space when needed without any hidden agendas.

It means they adhere to your pace, allowing things to unfold naturally, demonstrating their sincere interest and care towards your feelings and well-being.

7) They show up for you

Whether it’s a small crisis or a big life event, if someone is genuinely interested in you, they’ll be there when you need them most. 

This means they are there for you in good times and bad. They don’t just appear for the fun moments but also stand by you when things get tough.

But being there isn’t just about physical presence.

It’s about offering real support, listening when you talk, and providing help when you need it.

Their actions are steady and reliable, not just occasional or only when it’s convenient for them.

That’s when you know you’re in good company, with someone who’s interested in you just the way you are. 

8) They are open and honest with you

True interest is often displayed through openness and honesty.

They communicate with you clearly, without trying to mask their thoughts or feelings.

If they’re happy, upset, or concerned, they let you know. They share their day, talk about their feelings, and are upfront about their needs and wants.

And it doesn’t end there:

Their actions reflect their honesty and interest in you.

They keep promises, follow through on commitments, and are transparent about their intentions.

In other words, you won’t find yourself second-guessing where you stand with them because they consistently demonstrate their feelings and intentions through both words and actions.

9) They introduce you to their circle

When someone starts introducing you to their friends and family, it’s a clear sign they see you as an important part of their life.

This inclusion shows they’re not only proud of you but also interested in integrating you into their world.

For instance, when my friend Mahira started dating her now-husband, one clear sign of his genuine interest was how quickly and enthusiastically he introduced her to his close-knit group of friends.

There were no hesitations, no separations of his ‘personal’ life and his life with her.

Put it this way:

If someone doesn’t show willingness to introduce you to their close circle, it’s usually for a reason, and not a good one. 

So, as we can see, genuine interest manifests through consistent, clear, and considerate actions that go beyond mere words.

It’s found in the reliability, respect, and reciprocal care that someone exhibits towards you throughout the various aspects of your relationship.

If you’ve related to the points above, congratulations. It seems like you’ve met someone who is genuinely interested in you!

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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