“For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health…”
Don’t we all dream of finding someone who can love us unconditionally?
But the reality is that unconditional love is rare in romantic relationships. Finding this kind of partner is like finding a needle in a haystack!
Want to know if your man is one of them?
Here are 12 things men do in relationships when they love you unconditionally.
1) They don’t pressure you to “level up”
Men who know how to love unconditionally don’t ever want to change or “improve” their partners.
Instead, they encourage them to become the person they truly want to be.
You might think “Huh, isn’t that the same?” And the answer is no.
If their partner is overworked and earning peanuts, they won’t go “I can’t be the only one working hard! Sorry but we can’t have a future if things remain the same.”
Instead, they’d gently say “Honey, I know you’re a little burnt out with your job. Maybe I can help you find a better one because you deserve better.”
And if their partner says “no”, they’ll step back and just let them be.
In other words, they don’t push or shove. Instead, they hold their partner’s hand and walk with them side-by-side.
2) They find your annoying quirks cute
Most people find your annoying quirks, well… annoying.
But men who know how to love unconditionally appreciate what makes their partner unique.
So even if you clear your throat every two minutes or you keep forgetting your things, they won’t make you feel like there’s something wrong with you.
They will instead just find you cute. They’ll think “Aww, that’s my adorable princess being her adorable self.”
They don’t consider your quirks as flaws you should change because, as far as they’re concerned, as long as you’re not bothering anyone, you’re totally free to be yourself!
3) They don’t keep score
They don’t keep count of their good deeds… but they’ll keep count of yours!
If they give you back massages every night and you only give them one on Sundays, they won’t make a big deal out of it.
They’re just happy to make you happy.
But when they notice that you do things for them—it could be as simple as making their coffee—they beam with joy and tell you how lucky they are to be treated like a king.
4) They don’t give you dirty looks when you mess up
When you’re drunk, when your mood gets the best of you, when you embarrass yourself in whatever way… they’re with you, not against you.
They don’t give you dirty looks and detach from you like you’re strangers—even if you know you’ve greatly disappointed them.
Instead, they’ll do anything to make you feel better. After all, deep down they know you’d never intentionally want to mess things up (seriously, who does?).
So they’ll hug you, tell you how it’s no big deal, and most of all—they’ll look at you with tenderness, the kind that says “Forget the world, we’re together now and we got this!”
5) They don’t hate you when you can’t perform your duties
Chores are one of the top 10 things couples fight about…but not you.
Sure, they’ll tell you that you need to wash the dishes, but they’ll do it nicely and directly.
They won’t grumble and make you feel like you’ve committed a major offense. They’re aware that we all get a bit lazy sometimes. And anyway, chores are just chores.
If they feel like it, they might even do it for you.
But of course, they won’t let you get away with it all the time, either. Unconditional love doesn’t mean they’ll just accept bad behavior.
What makes them different is that they’ll never withdraw affection from you or make you feel threatened that they’ll leave you for the little things you do and don’t do.
6) They don’t judge you based on your past
If you tell them dark secrets about your past—say, you battled some sort of addiction or you did evil things when you’re little—they won’t look at you differently.
They won’t try to psychoanalyze you and think “Am I with someone crazy?”
or “Hmmm, is this a red flag?”
Instead, they’ll empathize and even love you some more for being honest.
Men who know how to love unconditionally are the least judgmental bunch. They know that the past should be left in the past because people have the ability to change.
7) They help you with your burden
Instead of castigating you and making you “pay the price” for some mistakes you’ve made, they will share your burden.
Let’s say you’re a young mother or you have some debt because your business failed, they won’t put their hands up and say “Well, this girl’s got problems! I’m not dealing with them.”
They truly care for you so as much as they can, they’d stay by your side and even offer to help.
And what makes them a real superhero is that they don’t make a big deal out of it.
They don’t make you feel like there’s something wrong with you, and neither do they make you feel like you owe them anything for “accepting” you even if you’re loaded with baggage.
8) They encourage you to become your most authentic self
Being with them feels like home because they encourage you to just relax and be your authentic, unfiltered self.
You don’t have a feeling that they’ll back out or get turned off by anything you do.
They find your farts cute, your dreams bizarre but fascinating, your face imperfect but so beautiful.
Men who love unconditionally can make you feel like there’s nothing that you can do or say that could make them love you any less.
9) They don’t stop loving you because of things that are beyond your control
You might think people who threaten to break up because their partner has an illness or they can’t find a job is an a**hole. But it’s more common than you think.
Men who know how to love unconditionally would never do this.
They’re extra patient with you especially when you’re dealing with circumstances that are beyond your control—you got fired, you got sick, you got into an accident, just to name a few.
After all, you’re now part of their life. Your burden is their burden, too. And that’s only because they truly love you and put value on commitment.
10) They stay with you even if you change
We keep evolving and changing. All of us. There’s no one person who remains the same from birth to death.
The person you’re with is not the same person five years ago, and they’ll definitely not be the same person five years from now.
Men who know how to love unconditionally will remain faithful to you even if you’ve become a stranger.
As long as you’re not abusive, they’re always thrilled to get to know every version of you. For them, it’s such an honor to witness you evolve and grow.
11) They don’t make you feel like you have to win their love
Men who know how to love unconditionally would never make you feel like they’re a catch and that you have to win their attention, their affection, or their loyalty.
They won’t make you feel like you have to become the best girlfriend before they’ll commit to you.
They’ll accept you for who you are RIGHT NOW…not when you’re more mature, more financially stable, or more healthy.
They won’t go “Hmm, let’s talk about marriage when we’re financially stable”, when it’s obvious you’re the one earning less. Instead, they’ll remind you they love you and that they’d be happy to marry you…but that you’ll both decide when the time is right”.
The difference is subtle, but it’s huge.
12) They can love you from a distance
Unconditional love doesn’t mean smothering the other person with love when they already want you to stop loving them. So when you break up with them, they’ll respect r decision and stay away.
It also doesn’t mean unconditional acceptance, so yes, they could break up with you if they feel any kind of abuse.
No matter how much they love you, they won’t take all the punches you give them because people who know genuine unconditional love also love themselves!
They will, however, keep loving you even if that means they’ll love you from a distance, and in a different way.
So…does your man do most of the things above?
Well, big congrats because you’re incredibly lucky!
Do not ever for one second think that their love for you is ordinary, because it’s extremely rare. Many people have been looking for this kind of life.
So appreciate them, make them feel special, and don’t ever abuse their love for you.