If you’re wondering what makes a relationship work, I’d have to say that one of the first things that pops to mind is loyalty. Loyal people are committed to being faithful, honest, and supportive no matter what.
Now, if you want to build a strong and lasting relationship, it’s important to learn not only what loyal people do, but also what they never ever do in relationships
From cheating to judging, we’ll take a look at 10 things loyal people never do in relationships and why they avoid these behaviors.
Let’s get started:
Wanna know why loyal people never cheat?
Because cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship and that’s the exact opposite of being loyal!
Loyal people respect their partners and the trust placed in them – so no matter how rocky their relationship may get or how tempting it may be to find solace in the arms of someone else – they’d just never do it.
They know that cheating would hurt their partner more than anything and if it really came down to it, if they wanted to be with someone else, they’d have the decency to break things off with their partner first.
But cheat just to make themselves feel good? That’s a selfish act of betrayal that a loyal person would never commit.
The great thing about loyal people is that they are trustworthy and that means that they never lie.
That’s because they know that honesty is the foundation of any strong and lasting relationship.
More than that, they’re usually not the kind of people that lie, it’s simply not in the nature of loyal people.
The worst they can do is tell little white lies to spare the feelings of people they care about, but when it comes to the really important stuff, you can be sure that you’ll get the truth and nothing but the truth.
Being rude and disrespectful is just not a characteristic of loyal people. That’s why they make such good friends and partners.
They know how important it is to treat their significant other with respect, kindness, and consideration. They also know that being disrespectful can harm the relationship and the trust between them and their partners.
But what if there are issues they need to work out – such as unresolved conflict or unmet needs?
Well, instead of resorting to disrespectful and hurtful behavior, they’ll work together with their partners to address these issues and come up with a solution.
In short, loyal people value their relationships which they show by treating their partners with the respect that they deserve.
If you think about it, there’s nothing honest or forthcoming about manipulation. Right?
I mean, manipulation is a dirty trick to get someone to do something you want, and it’s just not something that an honest person would do.
It’s disrespectful and not something that you do to someone you love.
Loyal people never manipulate their partners because they understand that manipulative behavior can lead to a toxic and unhealthy relationship.
So instead of using manipulation tactics, they communicate their needs and their desires to their partner.
And if their partner is against whatever it is that they need, they accept their decision. After all, you can’t always get what you want.
Would you want to be controlled by the person closest to you?
Of course not.
That’s why loyal people never try to control their partners or change their behavior; they wouldn’t do something to them that they wouldn’t want done to themselves. Plus, they respect their partner’s independence and trust their decision-making abilities.
Look, I know that it can be tempting to tell your partner how they should do certain things – or to micromanage them – but you have to learn to let them do things for themselves, even if that means letting them make mistakes.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
– Mother Teresa
Look, nobody is perfect. We all have flaws and imperfections – me, your partner, and even you!
When you judge your partner, you spend your time focusing on all their bad qualities instead of appreciating their good qualities that made you fall in love with them in the first place.
That’s why you’ll never get a loyal person in a relationship judging the person they’re with.
If they disagree or think their partner’s made a mistake, they talk things through and try to focus on all the good stuff they’ve done.
7) Give up
When you love someone, you stick with them through thick and thin.
You see, love isn’t just about the good times, it’s also about overcoming the bad times.
That’s another reason why loyal people never give up on their partners or their relationships without a fight. They know that love requires commitment, dedication, and hard work – just like everything else worth having.
The bottom line is that relationships aren’t always easy, but when you’re with the right person, it’s worth the fight.
From wanting to be the center of attention to fighting over who has more control in the relationship to trying to outdo each other when it comes to academic accomplishments, success in their careers, and personal goals – competing in a relationship can create a toxic environment.
If you compete with your partner, you risk becoming stressed and resentful, and basically, becoming rivals with the person you’re supposed to be the closest to!
Loyal people understand that a relationship is a partnership, not a competition. That’s why they never compete with their partners (unless it’s a game or sport like chess or bowling).
Here’s the thing:
Loyal people are committed to making their partners happy.
They prioritize their partner’s needs and feelings and would never withhold their love, affection, or support. They also don’t keep important information to themselves, nor do they hide their feelings.
Withholding is sure to create a sense of distance and mistrust in a relationship. Loyal people get this and strive to be open and honest with their partners.
They are always willing to communicate their thoughts and feelings, even when it’s difficult or uncomfortable, for the sake of the relationship.
10) Hold a grudge
I’m gonna end this article with a bit of advice: Try not to hold grudges. This is something that’s important if you want to have a happy and healthy relationship with your partner, but it’s also something you should try to apply to other areas of your life.
What’s the big deal about holding grudges?
Well, when you hold on to a grudge you’re basically holding on to negative feelings. You’re re-living something that happened in the past, over and over again.
Holding a grudge makes you feel like crap and prevents you from forgiving the other person and moving on – something that can be destructive in a relationship.
That’s why loyal people have the motto, “Forgive and forget” – for everyone’s sake.
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