13 things highly intelligent people do differently in relationships

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Have you ever wondered why some people are good at relationships? They make it seem so easy, don’t they?

Are you doing something wrong or is there something you should be doing but have no idea?

The answer can be found by looking at things highly intelligent people do differently in relationships.

Turns out that the people who are good at relationships are usually highly intelligent people.

So let’s take a look at what they do differently and learn from them.

1) They’re open-minded

When it comes to dealing with other people, whether it be a romantic relationship, friendship, or business association, being open-minded is definitely a big plus.

It means being receptive to new ideas and willing to see things from another perspective.

What’s more, it means being open to new experiences – whether it’s taking dance classes, trying an exotic cuisine, or hitchhiking across the country, they’re always up for an adventure.

All in all, being in a relationship with an intelligent and open-minded person is never boring!

2) They’re good communicators

One of the foundations of a happy and healthy relationship is effective communication  – and intelligent people are good communicators.

So what exactly makes someone good at communication?

Well, for starters, being able to articulate your thoughts and feelings!

Just think about all the misunderstandings that lead to arguments and sometimes even break-ups. And all that because people don’t know how to properly express themselves.

But that’s not all, good communication is also about being a good listener, but more on that in the next point…

3) They know how to really listen

Turns out that a lot of people pretend to listen when others speak.

They nod their heads but all the while they’re waiting for their turn to speak or thinking about something altogether unrelated.

But people who actively listen really listen because they’re genuinely interested in what the other person has to say. And that’s what intelligent people do in a relationship, they listen to their partner’s concerns. They value their input. They ask follow-up questions.

And the result?

A relationship that works!

4) They have a high level of emotional intelligence

Now, you might be wondering, “What on earth is emotional intelligence?”

You see, it’s not all about maths and logic, there are other kinds of intelligence – there’s musical intelligence, bodily-kinesthetic intelligence, spatial intelligence, and emotional intelligence.

People with emotional intelligence don’t just understand their emotions, they know how to manage them as well. This means they don’t misplace their feelings and get into arguments with their partner because something totally unrelated has them upset.

And do you know when someone is upset but the other person is completely oblivious and they keep going on about some utter nonsense? Well, that’s because they lack emotional intelligence.

People who have it can read other people and tell how they’re feeling, which allows them to act appropriately and say the right thing.

5) They’re empathetic

When you’re in love and in a relationship, you wanna feel close to the other person. You wanna feel like they get you and that they care about you, right?

That’s why you wanna be dating someone with empathy.

Ask any highly intelligent person and they’ll tell you how important it is to be able to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and see things from their point of view.

And once you have empathy, compassion comes naturally, contributing to a strong and supportive relationship.

6) They’re self-aware

How can you be in a successful relationship with someone else when the one you have with yourself isn’t going all that well?

Highly intelligent people are not only aware of their emotions and how they affect their behavior (they know their triggers) – but they also know who they are and what they want out of life.

That means that they know what they’re looking for in a relationship and trust me, that’s a pretty big deal.

7) They’re adaptable

At least one person in a relationship needs to be flexible and open to change.

Think about it – if both people are stubborn and set in their ways, being together is gonna be more than just a challenge.

That’s why you’ll find that it’s usually highly intelligent people that are able to adapt, which makes it easier to navigate challenges together.

8) They seek intellectual stimulation

Highly intelligent people understand that a lasting relationship is based on more than just physical chemistry.

That’s why they’re eager to find partners who can engage them intellectually and who they can enjoy deep and meaningful conversations with.

9) They’re independent

Believe me, you don’t want to end up in a co-dependent relationship where you and your partner have to do everything together.

A healthy relationship means being able to enjoy your time together, as well as your time apart.

That’s why intelligent people are independent – they like their personal space and encourage their partner to have their own hobbies outside the relationship.

Take a page out of their book and find something to do that doesn’t involve your partner. You’ll find that it gives you a chance to miss each other, as well as stuff to talk about.

10) They have a great sense of humor

Highly intelligent people know just how important it is to have a sense of humor and that often, laughter is the best medicine.

Life is too short to be serious all the time, which is why they’ll try to find humor even at the darkest of times. They’re the kind of people who come up with jokes at a funeral to make everyone feel a little bit lighter.

And when it comes to relationships, if you find someone who can make you laugh, I’d say half the job is done.

11) Boundaries

The thing that highly intelligent people do in relationships and part of why they’re good at them is the fact that they understand the importance of setting healthy boundaries.

It’s important to be able to say, “I’m ok with this but I’m not ok with that” as well as to respect the other partner’s boundaries.

Trust me, being pushy and invasive when trying to get close to someone usually has the opposite effect.

12) Respect

If the person you’re dating doesn’t respect you, you better walk away right now.

I’m serious.

Ask any intelligent person and they’ll tell you that respect is at the core of any happy and lasting relationship.

It’s all about treating the other person as an equal.

13) Supportive behavior

Finally, I need to tell you that highly intelligent people are extremely supportive of their partners.

They offer genuine and unwavering encouragement to their partners, working hard to help them achieve their goals.

Whatever their partner is doing, you can bet anything that they’re there cheering them on.

So if you want to get better at relationships, following the example of highly intelligent people is sure to lead to more fulfilling and supportive connections.

Now it’s your turn to do things differently. 

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Jelena Dincic

Jelena has a background in photography and film-making and has spent the last few years as a content editor and copywriter. Jelena is a citizen of the world who is passionate about travel and learning about new cultures. She’s a foodie who loves to cook. And, as an art lover, she is always experimenting with new art mediums.

When she’s not at her computer, she’s usually out and about in some forest with her dogs.

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