11 things confident women do differently

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If there’s one thing I love about confident women, it’s this: They make a profound impact on anyone they encounter.

They aren’t necessarily the most beautiful, the sexiest, or even the most successful, but they have such a commanding presence.

You can feel that their courage comes from embracing their inner power.

They know that building confidence is a journey — it’s about cultivating habits that allow you to draw your self-worth from within.

In this article, we’ll dive deep into the things that confident women do differently and the traits that make them stand out.

Let’s jump in!

1) They embrace their flaws

So, here’s the deal with confident women: They never let their confidence go low because of their flaws.

They love themselves for who they are — and who they are not.

Not only do they accept imperfections but even take pride in them.

That’s because they see their flaws as part of who they are and what makes them unique and special.

And it doesn’t stop there: They know that feeling confident isn’t about how you look or what makes you perfect, it’s about how you look at yourself.

You see, confident women look at themselves with kind and accepting eyes. That’s how they embrace their imperfections with dignity and grace.

They live authentically by celebrating their uniqueness, working with what they have, and using their strengths to their advantage. 

2) They live their purpose

Picture this: You’re asking a confident woman this question: “What have you been up to?”

And it doesn’t take long before her face lights up with joy and excitement. She’s glowing with pride as she starts to share everything that keeps her busy.

The thing is, it’s hard to be confident in what you’re doing if you’re not sure why you’re doing it.

That’s why confident women have a strong sense of purpose

They know what they’re good at, what they love to do, and the value they can bring to the world.

They direct their energies to what matters most — always striving to give their best in whatever they do.

And when they act purposefully, they inspire others to do the same. 

3) They don’t conform

You may be wondering: What are the things that confident women won’t do?

They won’t change who they are to fit in, feel liked, and get validation from others. 

Simply put: Confident women believe that being different is good, and that individuality comes in many different forms, shapes, sizes, and choices. 

They’re all about celebrating differences. They stay true to their authentic selves while also respecting both similarities and differences in others.

Because the simple truth is: We’re not like everyone else.

That’s why confident women work towards building a culture where people feel comfortable sharing differing, and even unpopular opinions.

In other words: Confident women show people that it’s acceptable to go against the grain and have healthy disagreements with others.

4) They speak their minds

This is connected to my previous point about non-conformity.

You see, confident women aren’t afraid to speak up and voice their opinions, even if they go against the status quo.

They always know what to say in every situation. You’ll never have to second-guess what’s on their minds because they’ll express them clearly.

Plus, they won’t think twice about calling people out for any wrongdoing. But they’ll do so gracefully and respectfully.

And the best part? They speak with such conviction

You know, the ones who make it effortless for people to listen to them because they come from a place of authority and honesty. 

When confident women speak, you’ll know it’s worth taking the time to listen to them because they’ll always leave you feeling inspired.

5) They practice mindful listening

I enjoy having conversations with confident women because not only do I learn a lot from them, but I also feel how much they care about my perspective.

That’s because confident women listen more than they speak; and they listen to learn, not to judge.

They make the best confidantes because when they are listening to someone, they are fully present — putting everything else aside and giving their undivided attention to the person.

They’re not the type to cut you off when you’re talking to prove that they know more than you do.

Instead, they actively listen, ask the right questions, try to look at the situation from the person’s angle, and see what they can learn from the discussion.

6) They maintain healthy boundaries

Confident women are respected by others because they know how to set healthy and firm boundaries.

Have you ever noticed how they are happy to say “no” to things and people? 

That’s because they know their priorities and limits, and want to dedicate more time and energy to what truly matters.

Plus, confident women communicate their needs and expectations.

This means they let other people know the type of behavior that they will and will not accept.

And it doesn’t stop there: They also don’t allow themselves to be guilted or pressured into doing things they don’t want to do.

7) They take risks

One of the things I admire most about confident women is this: They don’t play it safe.

That doesn’t mean they are careless or reckless. They just dare to step out of their comfort zones to pursue growth and success.

Here’s the thing: Confident women believe that taking risks opens them up to a world of possibilities and opportunities.

Fear doesn’t hold them back from trying new things, meeting new people, taking on bigger roles, and embracing challenges.

Instead of focusing on what could go wrong, they tell themselves: “It’s time to realize my full potential and go after what I’m passionate about.”

More importantly, confident women are not afraid to fail. They believe that failures can teach us just as much as our successes. 

So when things don’t go as planned, they learn from the experience and find a way forward. 

8) They celebrate their victories

Think about this for a minute: How often do you really take the time to celebrate the wins in your life? 

Many of us may not do this nearly often enough, but for confident women, it’s a habit that helps them feel good inside and out. 

They know that every accomplishment — big and small — is meaningful and deserves to be recognized. 

By reflecting on their wins, confident women remind themselves of their core capabilities.

This strengthened sense of self boosts their confidence even more and makes them more eager to tackle future challenges. 

They track their progress and celebrate the fact that they are getting closer and closer to achieving their goals. 

9) They empower and support others

This one goes back to my earlier point about celebrating accomplishments.

Here’s the kicker: Confident women know that when they celebrate themselves, they become more attuned to others’ wins, too.

They keep an eye out for opportunities to celebrate others’ victories.

In other words: You’ll find confident women building other people up instead of criticizing and bringing them down.

Cheering on other people’s successes comes naturally to confident women because they know that they are not competing with anyone but themselves. 

They acknowledge and praise other people for their achievements and help celebrate those, too. 

10) They aren’t afraid to ask for help

Consider this: How do you feel about asking other people for help? Do you worry that it will make you look incompetent, stupid, or weak?

Confident women have no problem requesting specific support from other people. And they do it in a humble yet empowering way.

They admit their shortcomings, but they don’t let that negatively affect who they are.

They know that they can’t do everything themselves, and they look to other people to fill the gaps.

They see asking for help as an opportunity to learn from someone else, gain new perspectives, and improve. 

11) They prioritize self-care

Self-care is an important aspect of boosting confidence. That’s why confident women always treat themselves with compassion, kindness, and empathy.

This means nourishing the mind, body, and soul. Here are some of the ways confident women practice self-love:

  • Eating healthily
  • Exercising
  • Deep breathing and meditating
  • Practicing positive self-talk daily
  • Spending time doing things they enjoy

Final thoughts

Everyone has their take on self-confidence. 

But for confident women, it all boils down to this: Loving and accepting your true self.

For these women, there is power in being aligned and at peace with who you really are.

That’s why they cultivate their inner champion — a voice that keeps them grounded on all the challenges they’ve overcome.

It’s a compelling voice that empowers them to believe in themselves and go for what they want. 

Maria Fatima Reyes

Fat Niebres is a freelance writer who loves to chase stories that matter. She finds meaning and inspiration in the mundane. When she's not writing, she's probably reading, eating, traveling, or having deep conversations with her husband. She brings her experience in broadcast, print, and NGO communications, and has been published in the Philippine Daily Inquirer and Inquirer.net.

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