We’ve all seen a woman of class. They can be spotted a mile away. Their dignity, consideration, and moderation leave the best impression wherever they go.
Being classy is not only about having good taste, wisdom, or elegant manners.
A classy woman carries herself differently. She easily sets and respects her boundaries and understands when to back off from a delicate situation.
But what are the things classy women never do in their personal lives?
Read on to find out behaviors you have to avoid if you want to be a lady of class.
1) Classy women know they can’t control everything
Worrying about everything only takes away the joy of living, and it doesn’t leave us with any solution to our problems. This is something that classy women understand and follow in their daily lives.
However, we’re still human, and worrying about things is perfectly normal. Take a moment to process these feelings, give yourself extra time, and then move on to better things!
You can also take the opportunity to map out your next steps to fix the problem you’re facing.
Once, a classy woman told me that worrying is like praying for the things she doesn’t want to happen in her life. Just like praying, worrying requires focus and intent.
So, over time, I learned how to control that anxiety and turn it into creating an actual plan to deal with my struggles.
Besides, I realized that the worst-case scenario usually doesn’t happen.
2) They don’t post everything on social media
A classy woman enjoys her privacy and doesn’t feel the need to post about her entire life on social media. She won’t waste hours of her life mindlessly scrolling since what she values most is quality time with the people she loves.
Besides, digital drama isn’t to her taste.
If you find yourself wasting hours upon hours on meaningless scrolling, reconsider. You can definitely find a better use for your time.
If you still love being on the internet, use all the useful tools it provides. Learn a new language, research interesting topics of conversation, and connect with like-minded individuals in a meaningful way.
You can limit your time on social media through apps or simply by turning off your phone and dedicating that time to other goals you have in your life.
3) Classy women wear classy outfits
I know this will spark some controversy, but I have to speak my mind on this topic.
Classy means elegant, and elegant means desirable. Those two things aren’t compatible with showing too much skin or wearing only skimpy outfits.
There’s a secret to showing just enough skin, though!
If you want to expose your legs, cover your cleavage, and vice-versa.
A big no-no is wearing short shorts. First of all, they’re uncomfortable, and second, they’re the absolute opposite of classy.
Some people even say that you’ll attract better men if you learn how to dress elegantly. What do you think?
4) They don’t overshare
For me, there’s nothing worse than entering a store and immediately being approached by an employee with small talk. I am just trying to get in and get out, and most of the time, I don’t get to stay too long in one place.
I don’t condone being mean to people who overshare. They might have issues they need to talk about, but it can be shocking if you’re not expecting it, especially when it is about personal, intimate details of their life.
If you want to be classier, avoid oversharing, especially if you don’t know someone very well.
Being classy is also about being a bit mysterious with others, and remember, it’s good to care for your privacy.
5) Elegant ladies know that perfection is a myth
This is where most people get it wrong. Elegant women don’t always look perfectly composed and dressed!
Sometimes, trying to be perfect can actually make us look (and feel) worse.
A classy woman understands that perfection is unattainable and that we’re all human. She loves herself for who she is and embraces her imperfections and mistakes.
We all have a side we aren’t so proud of, but all that matters is keeping up the good work.
6) They don’t chase men…
There are few things that take down your “classy-ness” level to the bottom. One of those things is chasing men.
Never, ever do it! It’s not worth it.
You deserve someone who will offer you the world.
This doesn’t mean that you should behave as if every man owes you some attention. You still can and most definitely will catch feelings for someone and there’s nothing wrong with that.
You can give him a hint but subtly, without begging for his attention. For instance, look at him 1 second longer than usual or give him your most charming smile.
And that’s what a classy woman would do if she liked someone!
7) …and definitely don’t compare themselves to others
I want to make things clear: comparing isn’t the same as admiring someone. We all have people we look up to!
Classy women might admire other women, like Michelle Obama or Madonna, or renowned scientists.
However, wasting our time comparing our careers and our bodies to them isn’t the most productive use of our time. Life isn’t a race, and it definitely isn’t a competition.
Admiration also prevents jealousy and negative feelings around other women.
8) Classy women never stop learning
Growth is something that classy women are never tired of.
They keep learning and trying new things, not to become the best, but to enjoy life and meet new, like-minded individuals.
They hate the feeling of stagnation, so they’re always on a new adventure. Even if they’re going through a hard time, they stay focused on enjoying what they do.
Because of this, all their relationships, platonic or not, are healthy and nurture her mind and soul.
Classy isn’t the clothes that we wear, the makeup that we choose, or the staple fragrance that people compliment us on.
You can be classy riding the metro at rush hour, and you can make quite the opposite impression dining in the most expensive restaurant in town.
It has more to do with our outlook on life than with our clothes.
9) They want to be seen as more than just “sexy”
This ties up with what I said before about wasting time online.
You know what I’m talking about if you’ve been on social media for the past few years. Some women don’t have an issue with showing their naked bodies on Instagram or Facebook and trust me, I’m all about freedom too.
But most of the time, showing off as sexy before everything else is considered the opposite of being classy. Do you know what I mean?
I’m not trying to say that you shouldn’t do it. We’re all free.
But if you’re trying to be classier, consider showing other sides of your personality rather than just your amazing sexy body.
There’s no point in trying to gain people’s attention from the internet; there are better strategies if you want to build a following.
Elegant women know that social media is an extension of their personalities and values. This is why they keep their accounts clean and carefully curated.
10) Classy women aren’t clingy…
One of the opposites of classy is clingy.
Classy women have a rich life on their own, they don’t chase, and certainly, they don’t cling to men that they like.
They love their independence, so spending an entire day texting some guy doesn’t sound like the best plan.
An elegant lady loves herself over everyone else. This allows her to form healthy connections and stay true to her values.
11) …nor are they desperate
This ties into my previous point. We don’t chase.
We don’t chase men, friends, opportunities, or relationships. We give things the time they deserve and nothing more.
Classy women know that the most important relationship they’ll have throughout their lives is with themselves!
Keep your head high and aim even higher. Stay focused on your goals, but don’t let desperation win.
You can do this!
12) Classy women prefer nude manicures
Excessively long, neon-pink nails are not something classy. I’m not saying that they’re bad, don’t get me wrong. But if your goal is to be classy, you have to reconsider having crazy nails designs.
A more natural look is something that classy women go for. Bright colors and bold lengths take away from their natural beauty.
Nails can be pretty, artsy, and bold, but it doesn’t mean that they will be perceived as classy at the same time.
I learned to choose more natural colors, with shorter lengths– which are also more comfortable– and a regular shape.
13) They don’t take life for granted
You only live once, and this isn’t something to waste. Every day, wake up grateful and focus on the positive.
The mind can be trained to see opportunities in hardship, and if you truly live from the heart, you’ll be a classy woman.
By appreciating everything you have, you’ll enjoy your life a lot more, and there will be a sparkle in your eye.
Could elegance be the answer to most of life’s problems? Definitely not. But our society is wired to perceive “classy’ as something of more value. This is just how it is.
I hope this article was helpful to you. Being classy isn’t the key to success in life, but it can definitely improve your social image and help you get more respect from others.
If this is your goal, with the tips above, I am sure you’ll do great!