Maria Fatima Reyes
Classy women are known for handling the most difficult moments with grace and confidence. When it comes to relationships, they wonโt put up with unhealthy dynamics.
Sure, there are everyday issues that partners can resolve. But there are also a lot of relationship problems that shouldnโt be tolerated no matter what.
Hereโs the deal: Classy women donโt engage in deal-breakers.
They stand for their values and principles and practice what they preach.
In this article, weโll discuss some of the things that classy women wonโt ever do in a relationship.
Letโs jump in!
1) They never control their partners
Classy women know full well that you can never really control another person. Itโs just not possible.
Thatโs why they neverโฆ.
- Establish unreasonable rules like who their partners can be friends with or where they can go
- Cry, scream, and burst into anger whenever things donโt go their way
- Guilt-trip their partners
- Bring their partners down to boost their self-esteem
Simply put: Classy women are never toxic partners. They donโt get desperate for something to change in the relationship.
They know that their partners are unique and have a mind of their own.
This brings me to my next point โฆ.
2) They never disrespect their partners (or anyone)
If thereโs one thing that classy women cherish more than anything else, itโs respect.
They treat everyone with the same respect and kindness and expect others to do the same.
They value other peopleโs choices, opinions, and lives โ regardless of who they are or what they do.
Thatโs why youโll never find classy women rejecting their partners who reach out to them.
During arguments or disagreements, classy women will never say hurtful or rude comments such as insults to put their partners down.
They always listen to what their partners have to say. They donโt feel the need to always win or have the last say.
More importantly, they can agree to disagree.
3) They never manipulate
Can you imagine going up to a partner and saying โYouโre a master manipulator?โ
The thing is, manipulation in a relationship can be tricky. Most of the time the signs can be obvious. But there are cases when it pops up in subtle ways.
More often than not, it comes in the form of gaslighting.
You know, when a partner plays the โvictimโ card and makes you feel guilty so you think you are actually to blame.
They change the narrative of a situation just to get what they want.
Classy women will never use these tactics against their partners. They know that building a healthy relationship wonโt happen if there is manipulation.
Instead of focusing on their โselves,โ they focus on the โusโ aspect of a relationship.
4) They are never dishonest
Classy women believe that the one big thing in a relationship is trust.
Thatโs why youโll never catch them lying, even if itโs over something small.
Consider this: Trust is built in the littlest of moments. And if honesty builds trust, then dishonesty breeds dishonesty.
Well, classy women have no problem being honest. They know that being secretive is a sign of disrespect and a lack of trust.
They wonโt leave their partners in the dark when it comes to anything โ from their exes and their past to their finances, concerns with a family member, and all key issues in the relationship.
5) They never get overly jealous
Weโve all been there. Weโve all experienced moments in our relationships when we felt a pang of jealousy.
So, hereโs the kicker: Jealousy isnโt necessarily a problem. A degree of jealousy shows that you care so much about your partner and want to protect the relationship.
But thereโs a difference between feeling jealous and acting on that jealousy.
The latter can lead to paranoia, obsession, doubt, and mistrust โ all intense behaviors and emotions that can be destructive for partners.
For classy women, jealousy is a sign of insecurity. And they wonโt have any of it.
They can manage jealousy without losing control.
They understand that in a healthy relationship, partners must give each other space to be their own person. They trust their partner enough to not control or monitor them.
6) They never talk down to their partner
When communicating with their partners, classy women always take the โweโ approach instead of the โyou versus meโ approach.
They know that communication is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship.
It requires teamwork โ which means that in any conversation, there shouldnโt be a dominant voice.
They wonโt interrupt or correct their partner whenever theyโre talking, just to make them feel that their input is not significant.
In other words: Classy women always leave room for their partnerโs opinions to be heard.
They learn and listen as much as they can, empowering their partners to feel that they can share openly and honestly.
7) They never belittle their partners
This is related to my earlier points about how classy women value respect in a relationship.
But this time, it has everything to do with criticism.
Relationship experts have identified criticism as one of the top signs that a marriage could end in divorce.
Over time, these judgmental comments can severely damage your partner and destroy the relationship for good.
Classy women never resort to these unnecessary verbal attacks.
Ok, I know what youโre thinking: But donโt classy women also have complaints about their partners’ qualities or behaviors from time to time?
Of course, they do. But they choose to communicate those grievances in a manner that is calm and emotionally mature.
They can get their point across without severely hurting their partnerโs feelings.
8) They never break boundaries
Learning how to effectively and properly set clear boundaries is key to a fulfilling and thriving relationship.
It creates natural limits that help partners avoid misunderstandings and feelings of tension or unease. These boundaries define where you and your partner start and stop.
For classy women, maintaining healthy boundaries is their way of telling their partners: โIโll take responsibility for my part in the relationship.โ
This means that they never overstep boundaries. You wonโt find classy women:
- Name-calling, yelling, or ridiculing their partners
- Joking about sensitive topics
- Invalidating their partnerโs feelings
- Sharing private information about their partners
- Forcing their partners to do something even if they already said โnoโ
9) They never play the blame game
When a conflict happens in a relationship, partners tend to point fingers at each other. More often than not, someone in a relationship gets defensive or tends to shift blame.
Classy women, however, donโt have this toxic behavior.
They respect themselves enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to their partners.
They take responsibility for their actions and decisions. They are open to feedback because it allows them to learn, grow, and change for the better.
10) They never give up their independence
Classy women wonโt trade their independence for anything.
Whether itโs meeting with friends, pursuing new hobbies, enjoying alone time, or setting goals for themselves, classy women love to maintain a life outside of their partners or their relationships.
If theyโre passionate about something, they hold onto it.
They believe that partners can grow as individuals while also nurturing long-term relationships.
They donโt like being held back, which means they wonโt think twice about walking away from partners who wonโt support their dreams and aspirations.
In the same way that they chase their dreams and goals, classy women will also love to see their partners succeed no matter what.
11) They never neglect themselves
Committing to another person is a great thing, but giving up your feelings and needs just to satisfy your partner isnโt.
Hereโs the deal: Itโs totally understandable for someone in a relationship to strive to be a good partner โ someone who always thinks of ways to make their partner happy.
The problem happens when you lose yourself in the process of giving your partner everything they want.
Classy women never compromise or undermine their own desires for a partner.
They understand that prioritizing self-care is crucial for fostering healthy relationships.
More importantly, they stand up and advocate for themselves. They donโt use a relationship as an excuse to never focus on their well-being and growth.
12) They never settle for less
Classy women know that the right partner will accept and love them just as they are.
So they wonโt settle for anything less than that.
They know the kind of relationship they want and they stand firm when it comes to the qualities that they would and wouldnโt accept in a partner.
They wonโt put with partners who:
- Arenโt willing to exert effort to keep the relationship healthy, happy, and fresh
- Donโt want to better themselves
- Are unkind and inconsiderate
- Discourage them from their goals
- Are too dependent on them
And it doesnโt stop there: Classy women will walk away from partners who feel that something about them needs to be โfixed.โ
They love themselves for who and what they are, and they expect their partners to do the same.
