8 things classy women do that exude genuine confidence

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When I say “classy woman”, you probably imagine someone whose elegance is as old as time. Someone whose whole demeanor screams “inner poise”. Someone who is so confident that their self-assuredness is inspiring and intimidating at the same time.

You wouldn’t be wrong. A classy woman is all that – and more.

But sometimes, there’s more to their behavior than meets the eye. Sometimes…it’s all in the details.

Here are the 8 things classy women do that exude genuine confidence.

1) They transform their wardrobe into their second skin

Classy women dress in an elegant and fashionable manner. You probably already knew that.

But that’s not all there is to it. A few months ago, I decided to revamp my wardrobe and start dressing more classy. I exchanged jeans for trousers, colorful T-shirts for white and black blouses, and an old yellow jacket for a brown trench coat.

And while the result was immediate – my flatmates kept telling me how amazing I looked – it took me some time to get used to these new clothes.

I didn’t feel like I could pull it off. It felt strange, like walking around in new skin that didn’t quite fit me.

That was when I realized that dressing classy and feeling classy were two different things. Eventually, they blend together, but it takes time, practice, and a lot of inner confidence.

And that’s why classy women exude genuine confidence when they’re walking around in their trench coats and carefully coordinated accessories. Because they don’t just *wear* clothes – they make it their second skin.

2) They walk with a purpose

The way a classy woman walks is also very specific. She doesn’t hunch. She doesn’t rush anywhere. But she also doesn’t look lost or lazy.

Her gait is in the sweet middle between too fast and too slow. It’s just right.

And that’s because she walks with a purpose. She looks like she knows where she’s going but also knows that there’s no rush – she’ll get there in her own time.

Good things come to those who wait.

3) They speak slowly and with intention

While we’re on the topic of body language, classy women speak in a certain tone of voice that makes it clear they are extremely confident.

No, I don’t mean cocky. I just mean self-assured, like they’re holding all the cards to their chest. Like the conversation belongs to them, and they move through it like water does through the riverbanks – with familiar ease.

This manifests in their voice. Classy women tend to speak slowly and intentionally – they think through their words before they let them pass through their lips and they don’t mind taking their sweet time.

They know that words have power. What you say and how you say it matters.

4) They don’t beat around the bush

When it comes to the actual content of the conversation, a classy woman doesn’t feel the need to speak in hints.

Don’t get me wrong, she won’t be abrasive, passive-aggressive, or cold. Those aren’t classy traits. But she also won’t beat around the bush or wait for someone else to take the initiative.

This is because classy women are confident enough to state what they want and how they want it done.

They don’t doubt their decisions because they’ve already spent a long time mulling over them, weighing the pros and cons, and so when they finally choose to take the initiative, they know they’re doing the right thing.

And then… they get right to the core of the issue. There’s no need to play mind games.

5) They go after what they want

Of course, the fact that classy women speak directly and assertively boils down to a much larger trait – they’re ambitious and motivated to go after what they want.

Classiness isn’t just about the way you dress, speak, or move. It’s also about the ease with which you move through the world once you set your sights on something.

It doesn’t really matter *what* it is you want – it might be a CEO role and it might also be a thriving vegetable garden – because what matters is the drive to reach that goal no matter what.

A classy woman will pursue her dreams and make it look effortless at the same time.

6) They show pride in their accomplishments

The fact that you make something *look* effortless doesn’t mean it actually is, and what’s more, it doesn’t mean you should diminish the hard work you’ve put in.

The classy thing to do is to be proud of your accomplishments without throwing them in other people’s faces.

“Wow, you’ve written a book? That’s so impressive!”

“Oh, please. It’s nothing, really. It’s not even doing that well…”

Scratch that. That wasn’t classy at all. Let’s try again.

“Wow, you’ve written a book? That’s so impressive!”

“Thank you! It’s been a long journey, and I’m glad I finally got to publish it.”

Much better, right?

7) They don’t give in to external pressure

A good way to gauge someone’s confidence is to put them under pressure. Peer pressure, to be exact.

When the whole group seems to be against you, it becomes much more difficult to stand your ground and fight for your beliefs.

But this is exactly where classy women thrive. They act with such inner poise and confidence that very few things shake them, which means that as long as they believe what they’re doing is right, no external pressure can get to them.

They will stick to their principles and values, no matter how many people tell them to come off it.

8) They know how to regulate their emotions

If Greg from the pub gets on their nerves, they don’t let it show. If their car breaks down and they’re late to work, they sigh and shrug it off.

This is because classy women know how to regulate their emotions in such a way that they don’t let anger and frustration get the best of them. They don’t necessarily suppress those feelings – they just know the right strategies to calm themselves down and get through the situation with their dignity intact.

This means that they always exude confidence and a sense of calm, even if everything around them seems to be breaking down.

They know that one way or another, they will get through it. And this courage and ability to believe in themselves is what ultimately keeps them going.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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