Eliza Hartley
Genuinely classy people have high social intelligence.
They don’t say things that can make others feel awkward or inferior. They also don’t say things that can make others question their integrity.
That’s why they’re extra careful about what they share about themselves in public.
Want to know what genuinely classy people never share in front of a crowd (whether online or irl)?
Here are ten of them!
1) Their enemies
While most people will use any opportunity to attack their enemies, it’s just not how classy people operate.
They won’t say bad things about them, ESPECIALLY not if they have the power to destroy them— like if they’re holding the mic or if they have 2m followers.
They won’t say “Uhmm, Gloria is nice. But she’s one of the most unreliable people I know.”
Not only will Gloria find out, it’s also unfair to her because she’s not there to defend herself!
If a classy person really has the need to talk about these matters, they’ll do so in private—and only with the very few people they trust.
But here’s the thing: Most classy people don’t spend energy on their enemies anyway. They have better things to do.
2) How much money they have in the bank
It’s taboo to talk about money—especially if one’s earning much more than the people they’re talking to.
So while they don’t intend to hide their earnings to anyone who’s really curious, they’d rather not discuss these matters in public.
It will just make other people feel uncomfortable.
After all, if they’re talking to people who are earning significantly less than them, it would seem like they’re bragging.
There are so many other things they’d rather talk about. There’s no use sharing how rich you are, especially if you barely know the people in the room!
3) Their expensive watch
Class is not about being rich and sophisticated. But of course, there are some classy people who are well, actually rich.
One thing they wouldn’t do is tell the world just how rich they are!
Sure, they’ll wear a $300k Rolex, but will they say how much it is? No. They might even deny they’re wearing an original Rolex. Or they’d say it’s just a gift.
Same goes with their expensive shoes, expensive bags, and expensive jewelry.
In fact, they’re quite ashamed to wear them sometimes because it makes them seem like they’re simply showing off.
4) Anything about their sex life
Some people talk about their sex life like they’re just talking about football.
Classy people are not like that!
Even if they’re with people who are open-minded and fun, they’d really rather keep their sex life private.
Why?
It’s not because they’re timid.
It’s because they respect their partners! Yep, even the exes who cheated on them a long time ago. Or the ones who are really bad in bed.
Second, they don’t want you imagining them doing the deed. That’s just gross, let’s be real.
5) Their friends’ secrets
Classy women have integrity and so if they promised you something, they’ll keep their word.
You can be sure that even if they’re a little drunk, they won’t ever spill their friends’ secrets.
They won’t say “Okay, but please don’t tell my friend Candice I told you this, but..”
No! Because that’s basically gossip.
And classy women hate gossip more than anything.
They’d zip their mouth and talk about something else.
They believe in the saying “Small minds discuss people, great minds discuss ideas.” And the genuinely classy person always strives to be great.
6) Their family’s secrets
They don’t have to hear their mother say “Please don’t tell this to anyone…”
If it’s something that could be bad for their family’s reputation, they won’t whisper it to anyone’s ear—especially not to a large group of people!
Why would they?
It doesn’t do anyone any good. In fact, it harms their family (and them!)
So when an old friend asks “How is your sister doing?”
They’d say “She’s doing fine.”
They won’t say “Oh she’s struggling from depression because her husband left her for another woman just a week after their wedding!”
7) Their filthy rich and ultra famous relatives
Let’s say their aunt owns Burger King.
Or let’s say their brother is Harry Styles.
A classy person won’t announce it to everyone! In fact, they won’t tell ANYONE.
Classy people, although they’re proud of their family and friends, won’t talk about their family’s achievement so people would be impressed by them.
That’s just embarrassing.
Besides, they’re just being smart.
They know that if they brag about these things, some people might just get close to them so they can connect to these people.
8) Their personal problems
Some people think that they’re just being “raw” and “genuine” by sharing their problems to everyone.
To a classy person, personal problems—like if their partner is cheating, or if they’re struggling to pay debt, or if their illness has progressed— should be kept hidden from the public.
Because…why?
They’d rather deal with them alone or share it with their closest friend or family.
They know that each one of us is struggling, and sharing their personal problems could just add to their burden.
Besides, only very few people truly care. They don’t want ill-meaning folks to derive pleasure from their misery.
9) Their hot takes
Classy people, although they always have something to say, don’t dish out hot takes like it’s their job.
Everyone’s got opinions but they believe in the saying “If you have nothing good to say, just shut your mouth!”
If they’re at an event, they don’t find the need to share to everyone how awful the show is. That’s just rude.
If someone just got promoted and they think that that person is undeserving, they won’t say that out loud.
Classy people are careful with their words, especially when they’re in public.
They know that it can easily be taken in a bad way. And why humiliate others in public anyway just to be “honest”?
10) How awesome they are
You’d never hear a classy person praise themself or put themself in the limelight or the pedestal.
Instead, they try their best to be humble all the time—even if they have many things to brag about!
Why tell everyone about their latest award, their villa, their latest interview?
They can just find out about it on their own if they really want to.
Besides, there are so many other people who are more awesome than them.
They’d rather focus on how awesome others are.
Classy people love listening more than talking, and that’s because they’re genuinely interested in other people.
Final thoughts:
Classy people believe that less is more.
This is the reason why they talk less in public, too—or at least don’t reveal a lot about themselves.
It’s not really because they’re trying to be classy, nope.
It’s simply because they’d really rather keep things private and just talk about things that everyone can relate to—especially when they barely know the people they’re talking to.
