Adrian Volenik
Having a woman that looks up to you is one of the greatest things in life. When you’re married to a woman like that, or you’re in a relationship, you feel like you’re invincible.
Whether faced with significant life choices or everyday dilemmas, she looks for your insight and values your perspective. In her eyes, you have a unique wisdom that navigates the complexities of life.
So let’s see what are the things a woman in a relationship does when she looks up to you because her actions speak volumes.
1) Trusting your judgment
Trusting each other is a cornerstone of every healthy relationship. However, when a woman looks up to you, she trusts your judgment unwaveringly and without hesitation.
That’s a great deal of responsibility you have on your hands. Some would even say pressure.
I mean, you don’t want to make the wrong decisions when you have someone who believes in you so much.
From major life decisions to everyday dilemmas, she respects your choices. Whether making health-related decisions, travel plans, or even choosing where to live, she values your judgment.
With confidence in your abilities, she finds comfort in knowing that you can handle challenges with decisiveness and resilience.
This trust strengthens the foundation of your relationship, encouraging a deep sense of security and allowing both of you to go through life together.
2) Seeking your advice and guidance
A woman who looks up to you will also often, if not always, ask for your approval for personal goals.
She’ll do that because she greatly values your opinion and seeks your approval and support even when setting her own personal goals.
She considers your perspective so incredibly important that she shapes her aspirations based on what you think and actively involves you in the process of defining and pursuing her own dreams.
On the other side, she knows how much expertise or experience you have in certain areas and wants to learn from you.
If she asks you to teach her skills, share knowledge, or give guidance on topics that you are familiar with, you know she definitely looks up to you.
3) Supporting your goals and ambitions
We all have our personal and professional goals, or at least we should have. And a woman that looks up to you will persistently support you in fulfilling them.
She understands the importance of your dreams and recognizes that they’re an integral part of who you are.
With her tireless support, she helps you navigate all the challenges that come your way. She provides a shoulder to lean on, offering words of reassurance and gentle nudges to keep you going when the road gets tough.
Her belief in your abilities fuels your decisiveness and resilience, encouraging you to persevere even in the face of obstacles.
But above all, her presence in your life becomes a source of inspiration, pushing you to embrace your full potential and reminding you that with her by your side, anything is possible.
Think about that for a moment.
Because I’m complacent at times, I love when my wife encourages me to step out of my comfort zone.
She believes in my potential and pushes me to explore new experiences, take calculated risks, and challenge myself, knowing that growth often happens outside of comfort zones.
4) Being your cheerleader
Another thing you’ll notice is that she actively supports and cheers you on in your ambitions and initiatives.
Whether it’s your work project, a hobby, or a personal goal, she offers genuine encouragement, celebrates your landmarks, and believes in your capabilities.
But not only that. She will speak highly of you and your achievements even when interacting with others.
Because she takes pride in being associated with you, she will openly express her admiration when talking to friends, family, or even at parties.
If you’re not used to that, you might get embarrassed a bit at first, but you’ll definitely get used to it.
5) Taking an interest in your hobbies or passions
Men can have the weirdest (and frankly stupidest) hobbies and passions. I mean, as I’m writing this, I have a shelf full of R/C cars behind me. I know what I’m talking about.
If you have a woman that looks up to you, she will go beyond simply supporting your interests. She will take a genuine interest in them herself and not simply nod her head when you talk about it.
In fact, she may even actively participate or learn about your hobbies, allowing you to share enjoyable experiences together.
And we all know how important it is to have quality shared activities together when you’re in a relationship, especially a long-term one.
6) Embracing your quirks and eccentricities
We all have our own little quirks. Some have more of them, others less. Those with many quirks but with a lot of money will be called eccentrics. Others, perhaps lunatics.
But when you have a woman that admires you, it doesn’t matter because she will not only accept but embrace your unique quirks, eccentricities, and individuality.
She appreciates the aspects that make you different from others and finds them endearing and even attractive.
In her eyes, your quirks and kinks are not flaws to be overlooked but precious elements that make you irreplaceable.
She finds beauty in the unconventional, strength in the nonconformist, and love in the unique nature of your being.
This next thing is by far my favorite!
7) Surprising you with thoughtful gestures
Everyone loves a nice surprise. And I’m not talking about “surprise” birthday parties. I’m talking about little thoughtful gestures your significant other makes or leaves for you.
A woman that looks up to you will regularly surprise you with thoughtful gestures or gifts that show she’s been paying attention to your interests, desires, or needs.
These surprises demonstrate that she cares about your happiness and wants to make you feel appreciated.
This could be preparing your favorite meal, a handwritten letter or note, a small gift, or similar.
Above all else, she makes you feel seen, heard, and deeply cared for, knowing that she listens, notices, and tends.
8) Displaying a playful competitiveness
My wife and I are very competitive. In any board game we play, we play with 100% effort to beat the other person. Funny as it may sound, but this competitiveness really brings us closer together.
And that’s also what happens when a woman admires you. She engages in friendly competition with you, whether it’s playing games or sports, or engaging in intellectual debates.
This shows that she views you as an equal partner and enjoys challenging and stimulating interactions with you.
In her eyes, your competitions aren’t about winning or losing. They’re an opportunity to connect on a deeper level.
She enjoys the spirited banter, the playful taunts, and the thrill that comes with engaging in healthy competition.
9) Encouraging your self-care and well-being
When your partner admires you or even puts you on a pedestal, she prioritizes your self-care and well-being and actively encourages you to take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.
She may suggest activities, offer support, or remind you to engage in practices that promote your overall well-being.
From her point of view, your self-care isn’t a luxury but a necessity. She knows that your well-being is intricately tied to the overall health and happiness of your relationship, and that’s why she is making you prioritize yourself.
10) Encouraging your personal growth
When you have the luck to have a woman that admires you, you know she’ll support your personal development and encourage you to explore new interests, acquire new skills, or pursue your passions.
She genuinely wants to see you thrive and become the best version of yourself.
I already touched on this, but I really wanted to emphasize how important encouragement for your personal growth is.
As she sees it, there’s no greater joy than witnessing your growth and seeing you embrace your true potential.
With her uncompromising encouragement, she becomes your partner in a shared journey of personal development. All along the way nurturing the foundation of love, trust, and mutual development that defines your relationship.
Final thoughts
When you’re dealing with relationship challenges, it’s easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love.
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.
As Rudá explains in this mind blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way because we’re not taught how to love ourselves first.
So, if you want to solve a problem you have in your relationship or marriage, I’d recommend starting with yourself first and taking Rudá’s incredible advice.
