The more I tried to detach from desires, the unhappier I became. Finding balance in a spirituality that embraces human nature.

Setting out on my spiritual journey, I sought refuge in the notion that detaching from desires was the path to enlightenment. It echoed a Buddhist principle, a philosophy that I respected and admired. The idea felt so right, so universal, I wholeheartedly embraced it.

Upon this framework, I built my spiritual practices and rituals; each meditation session was a step towards voiding myself of desire. This became my spiritual mantra, a life-approach that seemed inevitable to adopt. After all, aren’t we perpetually told that desires are the root of all suffering?

However, over time, I began to feel a deep-rooted unease. Despite my best efforts to detach from desires, I was growing increasingly unhappy. A sense of hollowness began to creep in, an unsettling feeling of being out of sync with my own nature.

In my quest for spirituality and inner peace, I stumbled upon Rudá Iandê’s teachings in his Out of the Box online course. His perspective was a revelation; he argued that there is nothing inherently wrong with embracing desire. Desire is natural and perhaps even essential for human beings. The key, he suggested, was not the elimination of desire but learning how to channel these feelings productively and derive meaning from them.

Once I had this breakthrough, everything began to fall into place. I started to see how my previous approach was disconnecting me from an integral part of being human. I began to understand that there is a balance to be struck; spirituality doesn’t have to mean denying our human nature.

With this newfound understanding, I hope to encourage others to critically analyze new age spirituality and find their balance in a spirituality that embraces our human nature as much as it does our transcendental aspirations.

Embracing Desire: A New Path to Spiritual Balance

In the midst of my spiritual turmoil, I found solace in Rudá Iandê’s Out of the Box online course. His teachings felt like a breath of fresh air, offering a different perspective to the one I had grown to dread.

Instead of fighting desires, he advocated embracing them. He suggested that desires aren’t the issue; rather, it’s how we handle and channel them that matters. His teachings suggested that spirituality does not have to mean abandoning our human nature. Instead, we can find a profound sense of fulfillment when we align our spiritual practices with our innate desires and aspirations.

This approach felt liberating and deeply resonated with me. I slowly began integrating these teachings into my life. Instead of repressing desires, I started acknowledging them. I began exploring what these desires truly meant and how they could be channeled into something meaningful and positive.

The result was transformative. I felt a renewed sense of purpose and contentment. I realized that my spirituality could coexist with my human nature without one undermining the other.

But what I soon discovered is that this perspective isn’t as common as it should be. In the next section, I’ll delve into why so many people continue to hold onto the belief that detachment from desires is the only path to spiritual enlightenment, and why my journey has led me to see things differently.

Challenging the Detachment Doctrine

The prevailing school of thought in many spiritual circles is that detachment from desires is the cornerstone of enlightenment. This approach, while profoundly held by many, unfortunately often overlooks a fundamental aspect of our existence — our human nature.

I had found myself entrapped in this belief system. I was striving for a state of desirelessness, thinking it would lead to ultimate peace. But in reality, it was causing me more distress. I was not at peace; I was in conflict with my own human nature.

The more I tried to detach from my desires, the more detached I became from myself. It’s not that the principle of detachment is entirely flawed. It’s just that it doesn’t fully account for our complex human emotions and desires.

Iandê’s teachings offered a refreshing perspective: instead of fighting our desires, we could harness them. By acknowledging and understanding our desires, we could align them with our spiritual aspirations. His teachings shattered the conventional wisdom I had adhered to and opened up a new pathway for me.

Finding Balance: Embracing Desires While Nurturing Spirituality

The journey to reconcile my desires with my spirituality was not an overnight transformation. It required a shift in perspective and a conscious effort to integrate this new understanding into the fabric of my life.

Firstly, I had to acknowledge and accept my desires, rather than pushing them away. This meant introspection, understanding what I truly wanted, and why. It involved asking myself hard questions and being brutally honest with the answers.

Following this, I had to learn how to channel these desires in a positive and meaningful way. This wasn’t about gratifying every whim, but about aligning my desires with my values and spiritual aspirations.

If you’re finding yourself torn between your spiritual practices and your human desires, you’re certainly not alone. The key is to recognise that these can coexist harmoniously. By acknowledging your desires, understanding them, and channeling them positively, you can find a balance that respects both your spirituality and human nature.

Embracing Holistic Transformation: Power of Self-empowerment

As I navigated this journey, I found that a critical part of finding this balance involved changing the way I viewed my life and my challenges. It was about taking a step back from the immediate issue and viewing it as part of the larger tapestry of my existence.

The first step was accepting responsibility for my situation, even if it wasn’t my fault. This wasn’t about blame but about embracing personal power. When I took ownership of my spiritual struggle, it gave me the power to change.

Secondly, I learned to question societal and cultural expectations. Much of what we accept as true or normal often comes from societal programming. Breaking free from this and thinking for myself allowed me to live life on my terms.

Lastly, it was about embracing self-development over blind positivity. I had to face the reality of my situation, acknowledge my dissatisfaction, and actively seek ways to improve. This shift in mindset was crucial in aligning my life with my true nature.

To summarize, here are the key points to remember:

  • Acknowledge and accept your current dissatisfaction or struggles.
  • Take responsibility for your situation to increase your personal power.
  • Question societal norms and expectations.
  • Embrace self-development over blind positivity.
  • Align your life with your true nature by understanding and embracing your desires.

Ultimately, it’s about understanding that our struggles are a part of our journey – an invitation to learn, grow and transform. By viewing our challenges holistically, we can empower ourselves to reshape our reality and embrace our true nature.

This journey is not always easy but resources like Rudá Iandê’s Out of the Box online course can provide valuable guidance. It certainly did for me. It’s not about finding a quick fix, but about embarking on a lifelong journey of self-exploration and growth.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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