Success is defined differently for everyone. But no matter what your version of success is, there are some time-wasting habits that hold anyone back from the success they’re looking for.
A successful woman knows this more than anyone.
So in this article, we’re going to go through 12 habits that successful women don’t waste their time on.
Get rid of these habits and you’ll be well on your way to being a successful woman yourself.
A truly successful woman doesn’t spend time gossiping.
To a successful woman, it’s wasted energy that only brings her down.
A successful woman prefers to do things that are positive.
She doesn’t talk about others behind their backs when they can’t defend themselves.
She understands that someone else’s private life is none of her business.
She’s compassionate, not judgmental.
A successful woman work towards the goals she has set for themselves.
And that is what being successful is about.
Completing the goals that you set out to complete.
Not talking badly about other people behind their backs.
2. Surround herself with people who bring her down
A famous quote says:
“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
A successful woman lives by this quote. She doesn’t want to spend time with toxic or mean people.
She knows that she’ll end up with a similar personality to her friends if she gave it enough time.
Instead, a successful woman makes sure to spend time with people that are just as focused and optimistic as she is.
People who have goals and are actually doing something with their life.
She doesn’t care if her friends aren’t as successful as she is. Instead, she just wants her friends to have a passion or a purpose.
After all, those kinds of people are more interesting.
A successful woman wants to focus on her goals, and the best way to do that is to get rid of things that bring her down.
3. Compromising her integrity
A successful woman never compromises her integrity.
You can rely on her to have a word as strong as stone.
Integrity prevents people from letting others down, from betraying and from lying, because they respect those around them and themselves.
They show that their word can be trusted, that they are reliable, and that they can produce what they promised they would.
It’s difficult to build stable success without integrity. If you stomp over people all of the time, then it will eventually come back to bite you.
You’ll never build trust with others, and no matter who you are, you’ll need other people by your side to be successful.
This is why successful women keep their integrity and always take the high road.
4. Jerks trying to take advantage of her
A successful woman has no time for guys who are only interested in her body.
She’s been burned enough by guys in the past who have taken advantage of her and treated her like sh*t.
Because of these experiences, she’s mastered the skill of sniffing jerks from a while away.
And sometimes she appears cold, ruthless, and darn right bitchy. But this is what she must do if she’s going to avoid those kinds of guys again. It’s part of her nature now.
Instead, a successful woman focuses on dating guys or girls who are genuinely good people.
People she can connect with on a deep level and create a meaningful relationship with.
5. Focusing on the negatives
A successful woman knows that patterns, when left unchecked, can define who she is over time.
This is why she chooses to focus on the positive side of things as much as she can.
She doesn’t dwell on her mistakes. She doesn’t spend too much time focusing on the past.
She knows that you never really move on if you can’t let go of failures.
Being successful is all about moving forward and improving.
Sure, it’s important to learn from mistakes, but once they’ve learned what they need to learn, they move on and stay focused on their goals.
6. Not standing up for her beliefs
A successful woman isn’t on the lookout for arguments, but she also isn’t afraid to say what she thinks.
A hallmark trait of a successful woman is to express her opinions even when her beliefs are against the majority.
She doesn’t express her opinion rudely, or with the intention of annoying others, but she simply states her opinions in a calm and matter-of-fact way.
While some people who can’t think outside of the status quo find this intimidating, most people respect honesty and the ability of someone to speak from the heart.
A successful woman knows herself well and what she believes in. When she sees something that goes against those beliefs, she’ll always speak up.
7. Seeking attention to boost her ego
A successful woman doesn’t need attention to boost her ego. She’s already confident enough as it is.
External praise doesn’t make her happy.
What makes her happy is achieving her goals and helping other people achieve theirs.
A successful woman is too busy living her life in her own vision, and that is enough for her.
8. Dwelling on their haters
Everyone can’t like you.
And while sometimes it’s helpful to know what your haters are saying about you, a successful woman doesn’t let haters plant the seeds of doubt in her mind.
They don’t try to prove them wrong.
Instead, they tune them out.
A successful woman knows she’s doing amazing things with her life and continues to focus on her dreams and goals.
The fact that you have haters is a good sign that you’re doing something with your life.
9. Compromising her self-respect
We all have regrets in life.
Maybe it was behaving in a way that went against our values.
Or perhaps it was something as simple as ignoring someone who wanted to talk with you.
But if you want to be genuinely successful, then you need to maintain your self-respect.
Self-respect is paramount to successful women.
She doesn’t want to look back on her life with regret because she sacrificed her self-respect for gains.
Flirting with the boss to get ahead? No way!
A truly successful woman relies on her good work and talent to get ahead in life.
A healthy level of self-respect allows her to have the confidence to set firm boundaries.
Successful women know what they stand for and what their values are, and they’re accepting of their strengths and weaknesses.
They won’t sell themselves out. They remain true to their values and what’s important to them, which keeps their dignity intact.
10. Blaming others
Being a victim won’t get you anywhere fast.
When something goes wrong, an unsuccessful person will pin the blame literally on anyone else.
But that doesn’t lead to growth or taking responsibility for their life.
A successful woman has integrity. She’ll own up to her mistakes and work on improving herself, so it doesn’t happen again.
11. Constantly comparing herself
It’s natural for us to care about what other people think.
But successful women don’t compare themselves excessively.
They understand that life is complex and that circumstances are different for everyone, so it’s impossible to compare yourself accurately and fairly.
They also realize that they’ll never understand what someone else’s life is really like behind the curtains.
The only person, a successful woman, compares herself to is her past self.
This is how she’s able to improve and avoid the self-deprecating emotions that come from comparing.
12. Not being organized
Time is our most precious resource. Annie Dillard wrote, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
If we aren’t allocating the time and energy needed to achieve a specific goal, it will never be finished.
The benefit of having an organized system is that it allows all the focus to be placed on the work itself.
Successful women know this. They focus on the work and slowly improve over time.
According to James Clear, author of Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, all big things come from small beginnings, and it’s really your habits every day that determines where you’re going:
“All big things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision. But as that decision is repeated, a habit sprouts and grows stronger. Roots entrench themselves and branches grow. The task of breaking a bad habit is like uprooting a powerful oak within us. And the task of building a good habit is like cultivating a delicate flower one day at a time.”
Putting yourself first
Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.
And even then…plans fail.
But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…
No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.
I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.
Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.
She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.
So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.
How much do you want it?
Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?
If so, check out the workshop here.
If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!
All the best,
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