Isabella Chase
If someone winks at you, they’re probably flirting. If someone compliments you, there’s a good chance they’re into you.
That’s Flirting 101 for you.
But, let’s be real, flirting isn’t always that straightforward. In fact, it’s often so subtle, it’s like a fine art. And just like art, it requires a certain finesse to keep it classy.
I happen to know a thing or two about this. So sit back and prepare to learn the 8 subtle ways to flirt while keeping it all very classy.
1) The art of eye contact
Eyes are the windows to the soul, right?
You see, there’s something incredibly powerful about holding someone’s gaze. It’s intimate, it’s direct, and it can make your heart race.
But there’s a fine line between intense eye contact and an uncomfortable stare. The trick is to keep it soft and friendly, with just a hint of mystery.
Frequent eye contact can subtly communicate your interest without saying a word. But remember, we’re keeping it classy here. So don’t let your gaze linger for too long. Just long enough to let them know you’re interested.
2) The power of a genuine compliment
They’re not required but they always bring a smile.
But let me be clear, I’m not talking about cheesy pick-up lines or over-the-top flattery. I’m talking about genuine, heartfelt compliments that can brighten up someone’s day.
For instance, I remember this one time when I was at a party. I saw this guy from across the room, he had this infectious energy and his laughter was the kind you could hear above the music.
Instead of going over and saying something cliché like “You’re so handsome” or “I like your shirt”, I walked up to him and said, “Your laughter is really contagious, it’s making this party so much more enjoyable.”
3) The subtle touch
Did you know that humans are wired to feel closer to someone when they initiate physical contact?
It’s true. Our brain releases oxytocin, often dubbed the “love hormone”, during such interactions, making us feel more connected and bonded to the person.
That’s why physical contact can be a powerful tool when it comes to flirting.
A light touch on the arm during a conversation, a playful nudge, or even a high-five can help establish a connection. It’s all about creating a comfortable level of intimacy without crossing any boundaries.
I repeat — without crossing any boundaries. Keep it subtle so you can keep it classy.
4) The power of body language
Leaning in when someone is talking, mirroring their gestures, and maintaining an open posture are all signs that you’re interested in what they have to say.
These subtle cues can help create a sense of intimacy and show that you’re engaged in the conversation. It’s a crucial part of communication and, when used correctly, an artful way to flirt.
Keep in mind, it’s all about balance. You don’t want to lean in so much that you’re invading their personal space or mirror every single move they make. That could come across as creepy or insincere.
5) The importance of listening
There’s nothing more attractive than someone who truly listens when you talk. In my experience, the art of listening is one of the most underappreciated aspects of flirting.
I’ve found that when I take the time to really listen to what someone is saying, not just waiting for my turn to speak, it creates a deeper connection.
It shows that I value their thoughts and opinions, and that I’m genuinely interested in getting to know them better.
Ask follow-up questions, show empathy, and give them your full attention. It may not seem like a big deal, but trust me, it makes a world of difference.
6) The art of not being too available
In the world of flirting, always being available can actually work against you. You see, a little bit of mystery can go a long way in piquing someone’s interest.
Now, I’m not suggesting you play hard to get or lead someone on. That’s not classy. What I am suggesting is that you don’t need to be constantly available or overly eager.
Take your time in responding to messages. Have plans of your own that you’re excited about. Show them that you have a life outside of your interactions with them.
This can make your time together feel more special and valued.
7) The power of humor
Whether you’re tossing out a clever joke, making a witty comment, or just sharing a hilarious story, getting someone to laugh is like hitting the jackpot. It builds a connection and, let’s be honest, there’s nothing more attractive than someone who gets your sense of humor.
And here’s a little science to back that up: a study published in Evolutionary Psychology found that humor is a key factor in attraction, especially for women. The research showed that people who use humor are often perceived as more attractive, socially competent, and intelligent.
At the end of the day, flirting should be fun for both of you. And what’s more fun than sharing a good laugh? After all, if you can make them giggle, you’re halfway to winning their heart!
8) The importance of being yourself
At the end of the day, the most attractive thing you can be is yourself. Authenticity shines brighter than any flirting technique you could ever learn.
If you’re trying to be someone else or putting on a façade, people can usually tell. And nothing kills attraction faster than insincerity.
Share your interests, your passions, and your quirks. Let them see the real you.
Because in the grand scheme of things, the goal isn’t just to attract someone. It’s to attract the right someone. And that someone will appreciate and be attracted to you, just as you are.
The art of classy flirting
If you’ve made it this far, hopefully, you’ve realized that flirting isn’t about playing games or putting on a show. It’s about connection, authenticity, and a dash of playful banter.
Flirting is an art form, and like all art forms, it’s subjective. What works for one person might not work for another. But at its core, it’s about expressing interest and making the other person feel good.
Keep in mind, classy flirting isn’t about impressing someone with grand gestures or slick pick-up lines. It’s about being genuine, respectful, and attentive. It’s about making someone feel seen and appreciated.
As the famous poet Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
