She understands herself and isn’t afraid to stand up for her beliefs.
Here are 12 things that strong women always do (but never talk about).
1. A strong woman is mentally tough
There’s one thing that you know for sure about a strong alpha female:
She’s been through a lot in life and it’s only made her stronger.
She’ll deal with failures, injustice, and tricky situations in the same way she always has: with grit, determination, and a willingness to learn.
Likewise, if she makes a promise to you, you know she’ll keep it, no matter how difficult it might be to achieve.
It doesn’t mean, however, that strong women can’t express their emotions.
In fact, they are confident to show them and understand that their emotional wellbeing is a very important thing.
If someone can’t understand that, she won’t hang around.
2. A strong woman sticks to her principles
A strong woman sticks to her principles and what she feels is morally right. She upholds her strong values and maintains her dignity.
One value that is paramount to the way she lives her life is treating others with kindness and respect. This is one of the things her man loves her for.
Mutual respect is important to a strong man and he’s looking for someone who is able to show it consistently.
She understands that everybody goes through shit in life, and that she’s in no place to judge.
Quite often she lives by that Plato mantra that, ‘everyone is going through something you know nothing about.’
However, she’s confident enough to tell anyone when she is feeling disrespected.
For her, actions speak louder than words. If you’re not showing respect, she’ll tell you.
3. A strong woman is not afraid to ask for help
A little surprised with this one? After all, a strong and independent woman doesn’t need help from anyone, right? Wrong!
A strong female realizes that to achieve anything in this life, you need help from others. You can’t do it all alone.
They’re not afraid to ask for advice or for help, as it’s the only way she’ll move forward in life.
Asking questions just makes situations clearer and easier to manage.
She doesn’t hover about, wondering whether she’s doing the right thing. She asks because she wants to improve.
By asking questions, she can continue to move towards her goals and ambitions. It’s the only way she can be sure she has the answers she needs to develop an understanding of who she is and what she stands for.
She won’t take advantage of others either. An alpha female knows that to get help from others, you need to give help whenever you’re able to, too. This makes her popular among her friends, as well as in her relationships.
4. A strong woman lives in the moment
A strong, confident female realizes that the past doesn’t exist, the future hasn’t arrived, and the only thing that really matters is the present moment.
Every moment has something to be grateful for, and you’ll be much happier if you strive to find it. Becoming more mindful and reflective will only create greater inner strength.
A strong woman understands the importance of being fully present in all her relationships, in order to get the most out of them.
She also believes that the present moment is where the future is created. If you work hard and stick to your priorities and goals, your future self will be incredibly thankful.
5. A strong woman can see the good in others
Yes, a strong woman has some edgy personality traits but she also knows that every person has a piece of good in them. You just need to find it.
A strong woman knows that most people have good intentions.
That’s why she’s so polite to all those desperate men who approach her for her number. Most of all, she treats people with respect and kindness.
Just like Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”
Finding the good in others also strengthens your own values and self-belief, as you begin to realize the values you seek in others too – particularly in the men you may hold future relationships with.
Things that once weren’t important suddenly become a top priority when seeking a partner.
6. A strong woman is fine being alone
The best relationships are ones that allow you to grow and be free. A strong woman knows that unhealthy attachments are full of danger and potential misery.
You don’t need to rely on someone else to make you happy. You need to be happy with yourself first.
This is why an alpha female isn’t afraid of being alone. She’ll be happy anyway, as she’s perfectly content with her own company.
But if a man can add to her happiness, he’s welcomed with open arms.
Any toxic energy or negative behavior, however, will be spotted a mile away and he’ll have to walk on by.
If you are confident to be alone, you won’t feel the ‘need’ to have a man. You’ll be clear about your coping strategies and have a renewed sense of inner strength.
7. A strong woman knows what makes her happy
We all have individual passions and activities that make us happy. A strong female makes time for these because it’s essential to her wellbeing.
These activities leave her feeling fulfilled and with a huge smile on her face.
Two things that are incredibly important to her. Most importantly, she won’t give up these activities as soon as she meets a man.
She’ll stick with them and remain committed to them.
Not only does this make a man realize that she’s not at his beck and call, but he also knows that once she’s committed to something, she gives it her all – including her relationship with him.
If you’re able to spend time meditating, walking on the beach alone, or participating in your favorite team sport, you’ll be a happier and brighter person when you’re around others.
8. A strong woman knows what she believes in
A strong, independent woman has strong beliefs and she’ll have her opinion heard.
If something comes up that she doesn’t agree with, she won’t hesitate to express herself and let her feelings out – particularly when she’s in a relationship.
Now, this doesn’t make her demands. It doesn’t make her a ‘diva.’ It makes her certain of herself and shows how strongly she holds her beliefs.
If any man can’t handle that, she won’t stick around. Being free to express your beliefs and emotions should be right at the top of your list when gaining a better understanding of yourself.
Be strong in your beliefs; express them and trust in them wholeheartedly. It is these that you’ll fall back on when times get tough.
An alpha female is a passionate creature that fights for what’s right.
9. A strong woman can walk away when it’s necessary
Walking away from relationships is hard. You want to be strong, but it’s not always easy.
The strong woman knows this, but she also knows her worth. If you’re treating her like crap, she simply won’t have it.
She’ll walk away no matter how long you’ve known her.
The strong woman isn’t ‘clingy’ or ‘needy’ like those other girls, and she won’t hesitate to leave if a man makes her life even slightly worse.
She puts herself first and remembers that there is someone out there who will show her the love and respect she deserves.
If she has to walk away from a relationship, she’ll do it with dignity. She won’t be clinging on to the doorframe, sobbing.
A strong woman will walk away with her head held high, knowing she’s made the right decision. She’ll save her tears for home.
10. A strong woman knows exactly what she wants in life
Because she spends time with herself and is comfortable in her own skin, a strong woman knows exactly what she really wants in life.
She has worked hard to seek clarity about who she is and where she is on life’s journey.
The alpha female knows her values and her worth, and she knows exactly what she wants from her future…and out of her relationships with men.
She may not have all the answers, but that doesn’t worry her. It’s not about material wealth.
An alpha woman knows that this is superficial and will fail to bring lasting happiness.
She’s not shallow enough to demand continuous gifts to reaffirm her man’s love for her.
She knows that love is expressed in many different forms. Instead, she strives to create meaning and creativity in her work and her relationships, because that’s what makes her happy.
She looks for interactions that give her exactly what she needs, and she will always give back to those friendships in equal measure.
Her dreams and the path to achieving them are cemented in her mind.
There’s no self-doubt, if she wants something, she’ll go for it. She’ll also seek help from others but won’t rely on that help.
If she has to do it herself, she’ll simply do the best she can.
11. A strong woman demands respect
Respect is a value that most adults hold in high regard. They understand its importance in society and in their relationships with others.
Meeting a disrespectful person leaves a bitter taste in your mouth.
Resilient, strong women not only respect themselves but demand respect from other people.
They don’t do this by walking around with a chip on their shoulder though; in fact, just the opposite: they are living their life the way they want, and some men can’t handle that.
People need to show respect at all turns. If she’s not receiving respect, she walks away.
12. A strong woman gives it all her
Whether you are washing dishes or chairing a board meeting at her company, everything needs to get 100% of her attention.
If you’re able to do this, you’ll build confidence in your abilities to do anything you put your mind to, including finding a man that is worthy of being in a relationship with your beautiful self.
That’s how you’ve made it this far and found so much success in your life.
Strong women don’t back down from a challenge and are ready to take everything on with 100% of their being.
Again, start with the small things and practice giving that activity or that goal, 100% of your effort. Make those dishes the cleanest they’ve ever been.
Believe me, the sense of satisfaction you’ll feel, even for something that small, will spur you on to try it in other areas of your life too.
Putting yourself first
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever your goals are, there’s a hidden trap in how you set them.
The trap is this:
You’ll only experience genuine life satisfaction when your goals are aligned with your values.
Because when values and goals are aligned, you enjoy the journey much more. And this makes achieving your goals much more likely.
If you find it hard to articulate your deeper life values, I suggest downloading the free values exercise by career coach Jeanette Brown.
It takes only a couple of minutes and will reveal a number of powerful insights about your underlying values.