Kiran Athar
It’s no secret that a relationship requires more than just physical attraction.
Once that initial spark wears off, you’re left with everything that makes a woman who she is; her values and morals.
That’s why it’s important to wait until you find a woman whose values lay the foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Unsure of what these essential core values are?
Read on to find out:
1) Respect
You meet a cute girl and it all seems promising – you can’t wait to tell your friends and family about her.
But a few dates in, you notice she’s not very kind to the barrister when you take her out for a coffee. A while later she starts making harsh comments about homeless people – she’s being judgmental.
The moral of this story?
Respect is everything. If she’s rude to strangers, don’t be fooled that you’ll be treated any differently down the line. Or your friends. Or even your family.
You see, a woman who doesn’t have respect for you won’t respect your boundaries. She won’t value open and honest communication. And she certainly won’t make you feel valued and appreciated!
2) Honesty
And just as respect is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship, so is honesty.
I’m going to level with you:
There’s absolutely no point rushing into a relationship if you’re constantly going to be suspicious and untrusting of your partner.
That’s why it’s best to wait until you find a woman who sees the power and value in being honest – about everything.
This will allow you to create a strong foundation of trust. Not only will you enjoy a deeper bond, but you’ll avoid wasting years of your life doubting her and sneakily checking her socials!
3) Emotional intelligence
Next up on values to look for in a woman is emotional intelligence. This is quite the buzzword at the moment but for good reason. Here’s why:
- She’ll be able to handle conflict maturely
- She’ll be able to empathize with you and others
- She’ll have control over her emotions
And ultimately, a woman with emotional intelligence is self-aware.
She’s not going to blame you for every issue you encounter in the relationship because she’s aware of her strengths and flaws too.
And when it comes to looking for a serious partner, you can’t compromise on this.
Imagine the reverse of the points I listed above – without emotional intelligence, each turns into a giant red flag!
4) Independence
My next piece of advice is to stay single until you find a woman who values independence.
This will be a huge benefit to you both.
The truth is, a healthy relationship requires two healthy individuals who both maintain their separate lives as well as a joint connection.
And a woman who knows the importance of this will actively carve out time to spend with you, but also valuable alone time for herself.
This allows you both to enjoy your hobbies, spend time with family and friends, and have space from one another so things don’t get overwhelming and irritating.
5) Equality
If you’re the type of guy who wants a fair and equal relationship, look for the same in a woman before settling down.
Why is this so important?
Well, when a woman values equality, she will treat you fairly and with respect.
She won’t try to dominate the relationship or cause a power struggle. She knows the importance of balance!
So when it comes to making decisions and splitting household chores, they’ll be mutual agreements that you come to together. That’s well worth the wait if you want a successful and happy relationship!
6) Kindness
Now, let’s not forget the importance of kindness…
You can date the hottest girl in town, but if she’s not considerate to others, you’ll quickly become unhappy.
And here’s the thing – you don’t just want a good partner. You want to find a good human being.
Someone who treats everyone with compassion and kindness. Whether that’s your mom, the neighbors, or the street cleaner.
The truth is, when a woman is kind, she’s also empathetic. She won’t shut down your feelings or make nasty remarks.
Instead, she’ll provide the nurture, comfort, and support that every relationship needs!
7) Forgiveness
If she’s a kind soul, there’s no doubt she’ll be forgiving.
And lord knows we need forgiveness in relationships.
Even if you never do anything “bad” such as lying or cheating, you will still make hurtful mistakes at some point in the relationship. We all do.
So it’s important to find someone who doesn’t:
- Hold a grudge
- Give the cold shoulder
- Bring up arguments from 6 months ago
Ultimately, you want a woman who, using emotional intelligence as mentioned before, can work through conflict and move on.
8) Commitment
And talking of conflict, you can’t work through that if you don’t have a woman who values commitment.
Without it, every time you have a disagreement or face a hurdle in the road, she’ll be looking for a way out.
On the other hand, a woman who knows what she wants and is ready to fight for a solid relationship will know that every couple goes through hardship.
She’ll value perseverance as well as forgiveness and patience.
But I know what you’re thinking – how can you tell if a woman values this the first couple of times you meet her?
Look at how she treats her other relationships. Does she cut off friends the moment they make a mistake? Does she ditch family members when they do something she doesn’t like?
If so, these are indicators that she does NOT value commitment and that you should probably keep searching for the right one!
9) Healthy communication
Now, we’ve spoken about respect, honesty, and emotional intelligence, and a major part of all three of those is honest communication.
Put it this way, you certainly don’t want to give up being single for someone who:
- Never says things straight and leaves a lot to interpretation
- Gets defensive
- Won’t listen or take your feelings seriously
The bottom line is:
A woman who values healthy communication will create a safe environment for you both to feel comfortable discussing those tough topics that crop up in every relationship.
She won’t hide her feelings and leave you in the dark, wondering why she’s acting distant. She’ll be upfront and this is so worth waiting for when finding a partner.
10) Personal growth
And finally, hold out for a woman who values personal growth – not just for herself but for you too!
The good news is if you find someone who cares about the above points mentioned, there’s already a good chance that they know the importance of personal development.
You’re never going to find someone perfect. You, yourself aren’t perfect. None of us are.
But the best we can do is find someone who encourages us to be and do better.
Someone who acknowledges their flaws and actively tries to work on them.
Wait for a woman like this if you want a relationship that progresses and evolves into something beautiful, with someone who will invest as much time and energy as you will!
