Paul Brian
Is it true love or just passing time?
The answer can be hard to come by, but if you know the spiritual signs to look for you can be sure.
It’s all a matter of listening to what the universe is telling you.
Here are the 19 spiritual signs of true love (ultimate list)
1) This person feels deeply familiar
Every once in a while we meet someone who feels deeply familiar but we aren’t quite sure why.
I realize that some guys use this type of thing as a pickup line, but it’s actually true.
“Do I know you from somewhere?” isn’t just a line…
It can be an actual thing that you wonder when you meet someone who just seems so amazingly familiar and strikes a chord in you.
This person feels like you’ve known them from your first memory, or maybe even before.
Is it past lives, a grand cosmic alignment or just brain chemicals? Honestly, that’s partly a matter of interpretation.
But what I can say is that it’s one of the strongest spiritual signs of true love.
“A spiritual connection that is so extraordinary that words will seem less and less every time you speak of it.
“It will not make sense and make sense at the same time.
“And that spiritual connection is when you feel such a deep connection with a person that you think you’ve known them all your life.”
2) Laughter is in the air whenever you meet
Laughter is in the air when you meet this person, because your two souls are on the same wavelength.
And laughter is the language of souls.
As iconic actress Audrey Hepburn said:
“I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.”
The thing about laughter, though, is that everyone has a different sense of humor.
Just ask me about a new comedy everyone is raving about and I’ll probably tell you why I don’t like it.
Other people, meanwhile, can’t get enough.
Laughter is unique, like a DNA helix that has its own code to unlock. When you find that person who unlocks your laughter helix it’s a very special feeling.
They just get what makes you crack up so instinctively and so fully that you can’t help but laugh in appreciation.
3) You notice a surprising lack of jealousy
Jealousy is present in many relationships.
Some people turn green if their partner even chats with someone else or laughs at their joke.
Envy is toxic and it’s tanked many a healthy connection.
The difference with true love is that jealousy isn’t really a factor. The bond is so strong and the emotions so real that the idea you can’t trust your loved one doesn’t really occur to you.
You know they’re yours and vice versa.
And you know that whatever enjoyment they’re getting from talking to someone else is perfectly healthy and fine.
It simply doesn’t threaten your security or your love and trust for your partner.
Your love is strong and true, and the time they spend with others doesn’t undermine that in any way.
As author Robert Heinlein put it:
“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition.
“The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.”
4) Your partner is behind you all the way
If you’re looking for spiritual signs of true love, look for someone who truly stands behind you.
Far too many relationships are based on strong affection that’s actually conditional.
No matter how intense the emotions are, if things go sideways one of the people in the relationship is sure to duck out.
True love isn’t like that, because your soul bond doesn’t wax and wane with the tides.
You may have up days and down days like everyone else, but your core feeling of deep admiration and commitment for the other person doesn’t budge one centimeter.
You’re in it for real, and your partner stands behind you fully.
You, too, do exactly the same for him or her, and you know you will no matter how rocky the road gets.
It’s a lasting bond that means so much.
Times of India explains it well:
“When you’re with the person, nothing binds you. No materialistic or temporary obstacle stops you from attaining universal and emotional freedom.
You’ll find yourself yearning for more experiences that will define you as a person. Their support liberates you in all aspects of life.”
5) Your dislike and hate transforms into powerful love
It’s time to confess my unpopular opinion:
I actually think many Hollywood movies are accurate in the way they portray love, especially corny romantic comedies.
I constantly hear about how films and pop culture give us an unrealistic view of love, but I see it differently.
This is especially the case when two characters fall in love after first meeting each other in unpleasant circumstances or giving the worst first impression ever.
Three main reasons for this:
Firstly, when you already hate someone there’s nowhere to go but up.
Secondly, resentment or initial dislike is genuine and raw, unlike total compatibility or pleasantness which can be shallow and superficial. The “negative” reaction can sometimes be a mask for romantic tension you didn’t notice at first.
Thirdly, the ways you clash with someone can show you powerful insights into yourself that begin to make you grow as a person.
All of this combined means that sometimes an initial meeting of not liking someone can be the first step to true love and a spiritual sign that you and this person you don’t like actually have a powerful bond that’s yet to be developed.
This phenomenon can also include disliking someone for outer reasons like their culture, religion, political beliefs or who you think they are, and later realizing that they’re so much more than that…
6) The conversation flows magically
Conversation is the one thing that’s not going to go away for your whole time together.
Even in moments of silence, the chance of conversation is there, and past talks you’ve had will linger on your mind.
These deep exchanges come easily when you’re experiencing true love.
You aren’t hunting for topics or trying to think of what to say next.
You’re not getting awkward vibes or trying to think how to fake a text so you can dodge out.
You’re not just in it for the sex or in it for as long as it’s fun.
You’re in it for good and the conversations are each a delectable morsel that tastes exquisite.
Sad, happy, funny, or just plain weird: when it’s true love you savor every bite.
“If you have a person who gives you a unique insight into life and there is no other person who can do that for you,” writes Jesse.
“Then, my friend, you have a true and deep spiritual connection with that person who listens to you and talks with you deeply.”
7) You relate deeply to each other’s struggles
Another one of the biggest spiritual signs of true love is that you relate deeply to each other’s struggles.
Don’t get me wrong here. I’m not talking about falling in love with damage.
That’s not it at all: you don’t fall in love with the damage, but with the person who’s a fighter, a survivor and a champion despite all the hits you’ve taken.
You fall in love with the person you relate to on so many levels in their struggles in life.
Because they mirror your own even though you may have felt alone for so many years.
True love reminds you that you’re not alone.
And the universe sends you somebody who’s been where you’ve been to let you know that you were always on the right path all along.
Now your other half is here for you, and the spirit world is confirming it.
8) You dream about each other frequently
Dreams are portals to a deeper, subconscious reality.
They are often a way that the universe speaks to us and delivers warnings, promises, signs and ideas.
When you dream about somebody else it’s a special thing, especially if the dream is romantic or intimate in nature.
Kristine Fellizar writes about this, explaining that “if you keep seeing the same person in your dream, a stranger or someone you know, your subconscious may be trying to tell you something.”
What takes this to the next level, however, and makes it a definite spiritual sign, is when the other person is also dreaming of you.
Finding out this is happening is amazing, but I can assure you it’s very much real and does happen.
I also talk about how romantic dreams indicate that love is coming your way in this video. Check it out, and you’ll also learn about some other signs that love is coming your way.
9) You’re on a shared journey in life
There are so many different directions to go in this big, wide world, that it can be a pleasant surprise to find someone going your way as well.
As a digital nomad, I know all too well about different paths and bad timing.
The truth is that making long-distance (or any) relationships work as a digital nomad can be very tough.
When the timing is right, however, magic can happen.
And that’s when true love sometimes makes its grand entrance on the scene.
June Silny talks about how she met her husband at just the right time, and how the universe often has to wait for us to be ready.
“Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection.
“Even though my husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we did not meet until the time was right for both of us.
“You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate.”
10) You never feel the need or desire to lie
Lies are tempting.
Let’s be honest: a white lie now and then never hurt anybody, right?
Well, wrong…
In fact, I’ve heard of white lies busting relationships wide open and leaving them completely wrecked.
The truth is that even the smallest lie can create a seed of distrust which festers and grows over time.
But when it’s true love, one of the strongest spiritual signs is that the desire to lie – even a little – just isn’t there.
If you’ve been someone who told a fib or two (or many) in the past, you may be scouring around your conscience looking for your desire to lie.
But it’s just gone.
If you feel like shit, you tell your partner. If you were gambling when they assumed you were late at work, you tell them.
And they offer you the same transparency in return.
It’s a win-win.
11) Distance doesn’t diminish your love
Distance can be a dealbreaker even in some strong relationships.
It’s true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too much absence can make the heart freeze and give up.
That’s why it’s so stunning to find someone where distance (and time) truly don’t diminish your love.
It’s one of the brightest spiritual signs of true love: no matter how far apart you are, your true love is the only one on your mind, heart or genitals.
You just don’t want anyone else.
If that sounds too idealistic or unrealistic, I hate to break it to you:
You probably haven’t found true love yet or aren’t currently in a true love relationship.
12) When your eyes meet the world lights on fire
Have you ever looked at someone from across a room and felt an electrical charge like you just got shocked?
Romantic, right?
I mean…
You could also describe it as getting a deep and serene feeling of calm as you gaze into their eyes of cerulean blue…
‘Cause I’ve experienced that side of eye contact too.
True love starts in the eyes and specifically with eye contact.
Never underestimate the importance of how you feel when you lock eyes with someone.
It says so much about your deeper connection and future potential, and the eyes carry huge spiritual power.
Ancient Arabic culture even believed that the eyes send out an invisible substance that can harm or benefit you, depending on whether it’s good or evil.
“People in genuine, spiritual love only have to look into each other’s eyes to communicate.
“Their bond is so strong that it makes people wonder if they are under a spell.
“This is a sign of how much love they have for each other,” writes Julian Gonzalez at Spirit Restoration.
13) Difficult periods just make you stronger
When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
And when you’re truly in love, then you have someone who’s got your back through the whole process.
The difficult periods in your relationship or life don’t break you down: they just build you up.
This may come as a big surprise, because you’ve formerly experienced romance falling apart when times get tough.
As Ariel Quinn writes at Herway:
“Spiritual love inspires you to find your inner peace, and reach your full potential. It is romantic love that has the most powerful influence on our soul.
“It is a spiritual journey where two people experience spiritual awakening and spiritual-growth.”
14) You feel a deep emotional bond
The emotional bond that you feel in true love can’t be described with words.
You’ll know it when you find it.
The closest you could probably describe it is that you feel completed without feeling dependent.
You feel whole, but you also feel that the person is part of you in a way and that you can never really “lose” them.
Even if time, distance or circumstances keep you apart, every moment you spend together is seared on your soul.
The emotional bond is on such another level from regular attraction and romance that it almost feels embarrassing to compare them.
You may also begin to notice the way others talk about love and romance immediately tells you whether they’ve experienced true love or not.
Harsh? Maybe. True? Yes.
15) When you make love the world moves
There’s a common misconception that true love isn’t really a “physical” thing.
This is very connected to some ideas about purity, spiritual transcendence and so on.
Let me be clear:
There are true love connections that function that way in which sex and physical attraction are almost an afterthought and not important at all.
But in many cases it’s the opposite:
The physical attraction is animalistic, even primal.
You not only feel a longing to be emotionally and conversationally close to this person, you feel like your body belongs with them (and inside them).
Too graphic?
The fact is that true love is not just all about vibrations and buzzing feelings, it can also be about mind-bending sex that makes all other lovemaking seem like going to the petting zoo in comparison.
As Gonzalez writes:
“Most people think spiritual love connection is only restricted to the mind and soul.
“This is not true because love also includes physical intimacy.
“There is a desire to be with the person every time and to indulge in deep, intimate physical relations.”
16) Your bond isn’t based on social status or expectation
When it’s true love, it’s unstoppable.
This has the tendency to break some taboos, shatter some customs and smash through some outer expectations.
I’ve had friends who fell in love with people far older than them and vice versa (all legal, come on guys…)
And I’ve known outwardly happy couples who were just so miserable and lost under the surface.
True love can manifest in the most striking ways when you least expect it.
And one of the top spiritual signs of true love is that true love waits for no man (or woman).
Romeo and Juliet isn’t just a Shakespeare play about feuding families whose kids fall in love, it’s also the true love blueprint: hopefully without the dying tragically at the end part!
17) When you’re with them you feel truly alive
It’s easy to sleepwalk through life.
Before you know it the whole story is over and you never really took time to smell the roses.
Whatever it is you’re chasing: career success, personal fulfillment, religious enlightenment, sex, money, power, or anything else…
True love makes it all seem secondary in importance.
Because when you’re with this person you feel truly alive.
Want to test this?
If you could spend one hour talking or doing any activity with this person would you prefer that or 3 months with someone else twice as physically attractive with more work and career opportunities to offer you?
I know, I know…I said “both” as well…
But saying you had to choose just one…Well, if it’s option one then you’re looking at true love!
“Spiritual love is unconditional love that has no boundaries.
“It gives meaning and importance to your life. Everyone wishes to experience this kind of love at one point in life.”
18) Your spiritual paths are aligned
Spiritual journeys are always unique.
You’ll never meet someone who’s exactly on your path because the uniqueness is part of the beauty of it.
But when it’s true love, you will experience a deep resonance with how you experience the universe.
You may have in-depth talks about divinity, spirituality, religion and truth.
It will happen effortlessly, and not so much like a debate as like a sharing opportunity.
Every word they say will intrigue you.
The authenticity will shine from every word. And you’ll see that in one way or another your paths are truly linked by far more than chance or circumstance.
19) You feel it deep in your ‘soul gut’
Your gut is a place that’s ignored far too often.
Not only is gut health vital to our physical and mental health.
Our spiritual gut is also the place where we deeply feel if we’re on track or not.
Is this person your true love or not?
You can always go back to consulting your gut instinct. When you feel it deep inside, you’ll know.
“Perhaps you’ve been thinking about the qualities you want in someone, and they start showing exactly those qualities.
“Or they talk about it to you in some random conversation,” writes Sarah at Bonobology.
“You may have not even brought the topic up, but somehow, you’re just talking about it with them. Trust in that sixth sense.”
When you know, you just know…
True love is rare, but it’s very much real.
As someone who’s experienced it, I can tell you that the difference between true love and “liking” someone is as wide as the Grand Canyon.
When you know, you just know…
But keeping in mind the spiritual signs above goes a long way to helping sort through the confusion.
After all:
Sometimes physical passion or emotional connection can be intense…
Sometimes you get caught up in the moment or a situation and are sure you’ve met the right one when it later becomes a nightmare…
That’s why these spiritual signs are so important.
Because if they’re lining up for you, then you’ve found your one.
