We’ve all been there. You thought they were genuine. You thought they really meant well. You thought they could be trusted … and you were wrong.
Whether it’s a romantic relationship, work strife or even a family entanglement that left you looking like a fool, some people just aren’t sincere.
So how do you know?
Obviously, the better able you are to identify the signs of a sincere person, the more you can avoid such situations.
In this article, we’ll tell you how to do just that. Get ready for the 10 signs of a sincere person you should watch our for today.
1. They Have Other People’s Respect
Unfortunately, while school is really good at teaching us about Pangaea and algebra, it’s not so great at teaching us what respect is.
In recent years, more effort has gone into training children about what respect truly means, but let’s face it: some of us missed the boat.
Therefore, we can feel a little at sea when looking for signs of a sincere person.
If you want to get your act together and live a meaningful life, though, it’s important you know how to recognize them.
If you need to, look up the definition of respect. It is an admiration for someone and their abilities, according to Merriam-Webster, as well as a willingness to allow that person to make their own choices.
If you don’t see signs that other people hold respect for the person in question, that’s a red flag.
2. Sincere People Don’t Curry Favor
One of the most compelling signs of a sincere person is that they work to be good to others around them.
That may include time-honored relationship-building strategies, but it never includes pandering, sucking up or changing one’s principles just to make other people happy.
Speaking of which …
3. They Remain True to Their Principles in Tough Situations
It’s easy to be nice when the sun is shining, you just got a promotion and vacation is coming up.
The real question is how closely someone hues to their own morals when things get tough.
A sincere person who cracks under pressure – whether that means unkindness, unusual distance or cruelty – will do it again, guaranteed.
This is true even in the face of opposition, which may require that they cultivate difficult skills such as building a thick skin.
The important point is that the person refrains from lashing out or taking it out on others, or compromising their own beliefs when it’s convenient.
If this happens more than once, that’s a good sign you’re in a one-sided relationship with someone who is not sincere.
4. Genuine People Don’t Gossip or Pass Judgment
Gossip can be extremely harmful. It isn’t always, though.
Studies have found that the majority of gossip is actually neutral: 75 percent, to be exact.
Positive gossip, such as relaying another’s good news, accounted for 9 percent. Just 15 percent was negative.
However, that 15 percent can cause a lot of damage if you’re not careful.
Sincere people work really hard not to speak anything that might fall in that category.
One of the signs of a sincere person is that they will never make trouble for others, start rumors or create friction with their words if they can help it.
5. They Dance to the Beat of Their Own Drum
Okay, before you point out how cheesy that is, fine … agreed. But it’s true.
One of the most compelling signs of a sincere person is how they live their life. If they’re constantly trying to keep up with the Joneses, they’re likely not as sincere as you’d like them to be.
Likewise, if they spout others’ wisdom or recycle stories.
A truly sincere person has enough going on in their own life and head that they don’t need to.
6. Sincere People Are Generous with Time, Money and Words
Generosity is difficult. We would all instinctually like to preserve our time and money for ourselves. These are necessary resources to achieving what we want out of life, after all. It’s hard to go beyond that base desire and help others.
Sincere people have the ability to do this. Narcissists, however, do not. If you think you might be dealing with a narcissist, take a step back.
Narcissistic personality disorder is real, and it is dangerous. If you see the signs, then you’re almost always dealing with someone insincere.
7. They Treat Their Subordinates as Well as Their Superiors
One of the easiest to identify signs of a sincere person is how they treat others.
Note that it’s important they treat their subordinates well, as we are most likely to look down on those who don’t have as much power or say-so as we do. (Everyone, after all, has incentive to be nice to their superiors.)
For instance, you might notice that they treat their employees well. Or they serve others despite having a busy schedule. Both of these are signs that you can trust this person to prioritize your wellbeing too.
8. They Help Others
Again, helping others is one of the main signs of a sincere person. It’s one of the things that happy people do differently, in addition to recognizing complexities in life and accepting themselves as they are.
Additionally, sincere people use the platinum rule.
The golden rule (treat others as you want to be treated) fails to take into account what other people want.
The platinum rule (treat others as they want to be treated) neatly fixes this loophole, so a sincere person will always use it.
9. Genuine People Don’t Play Mind Games
Among the most obvious signs of a sincere person is that they mean what they say. Insincere people are happy to play mind games, and you can tell pretty quickly if they’re honest or not.
If you spot someone who isn’t genuine, get out of there.
One of the most important ways you can love yourself is to stay away from people who don’t treat your right.
And one of the best ways to do that is to run far away from anyone whose words and deeds prove untrue.
10. They Always Own Their Own Mistakes
It is hard to own your own mistakes.
It’s embarrassing, causes a loss of social face, and can require amends to come back from.
No surprise, then, that many people opt just not to do it. Instead, they may throw others under the bus.
They may rewrite history. They may spin a story so that it sounds good, but leave a lot of questions unanswered.
Therefore, owning mistakes is one of the best signs of a sincere person. In fact, done right, taking responsibility can prove quite empowering.
In addition to looking for this in others, it is well worth cultivating in your own life.
Keep in mind that no one can predict every situation, and you can’t be expected to make the right call every time.
But by keeping your eyes out for these signs of a sincere person, you’ve got a better chance of ensuring your own mental health and happiness in the future.
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